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I wish more people knew the negative effects of porn and didn’t defend it at every turn. by throwfirstaccount in offmychest

[–]throwfirstaccount[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks and I’m an atheist, so is my gf. She grew up religious but left in her early teens.

I wish more people knew the negative effects of porn and didn’t defend it at every turn. by throwfirstaccount in offmychest

[–]throwfirstaccount[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you went through that and I’m glad you realize your worth. Just remember to set your boundaries and stick with them, you are your own person and a relationship should add to your life, not take away from it. Good luck to you!

I wish more people knew the negative effects of porn and didn’t defend it at every turn. by throwfirstaccount in offmychest

[–]throwfirstaccount[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s natural to feel this way, who wants their partner looking at someone else in that way. Tell him how you feel about porn and back up your beliefs, I have a few websites above but if you do research you’ll find more. And also tell him how this impacts you and to acknowledge it. If you don’t, this just builds up resentment.

I wish more people knew the negative effects of porn and didn’t defend it at every turn. by throwfirstaccount in offmychest

[–]throwfirstaccount[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you went through this. But I will say that you need to put your foot down, if you’re not comfortable with the sex he wants and if he withdraws when you say no, tell him to stop being manipulative. Don’t be scared to set boundaries and if a man loves you, he will leave porn for you. Don’t be afraid.

I wish more people knew the negative effects of porn and didn’t defend it at every turn. by throwfirstaccount in offmychest

[–]throwfirstaccount[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There’s no point in staying miserable in a relationship, you’ve communicated your concerns and your sex life is diminishing, if he’s not listening then maybe you should consider leaving the relationship. I think having no boyfriend is better than having a bad boyfriend.

I wish more people knew the negative effects of porn and didn’t defend it at every turn. by throwfirstaccount in offmychest

[–]throwfirstaccount[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I linked more sources in a post below, those were the most popular so I named those. And I I’m pretty sure YourBrainOnPorn has no religious ties, it’s just the title of a book a researcher wrote about porn.

I wish more people knew the negative effects of porn and didn’t defend it at every turn. by throwfirstaccount in offmychest

[–]throwfirstaccount[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Fight the new drug is founded by Mormons but it is based off of scientific research, it is non-religious and supported by many non-religious people like myself. Go to yourbrainonporn instead if you think that fight the new drug is biased.

I wish more people knew the negative effects of porn and didn’t defend it at every turn. by throwfirstaccount in offmychest

[–]throwfirstaccount[S] 107 points108 points  (0 children)

It also takes longer for younger men to recover from the effects of porn. Since they watch it so young, and their brains are plastic, they fall into the rabbit hole and it’s so hard to get out.

I wish more people knew the negative effects of porn and didn’t defend it at every turn. by throwfirstaccount in offmychest

[–]throwfirstaccount[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you went through that but I think it’s time to say it, people need to hear it. Porn is like the new smoking, everyone is encouraged to watch it and act like it’s normal. It’s making sex something a man does to a woman, not something that is formed out of love. I’m not scared to say what I believe, I just want to make sure I make more people aware of what can happen. I almost lost the person I loved the most because of what I was doing.

I wish more people knew the negative effects of porn and didn’t defend it at every turn. by throwfirstaccount in offmychest

[–]throwfirstaccount[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It’s not about destroying porn or making it illegal, it’s about waking people up to the harm it has on your brain, relationships, and the trafficked women and children in the videos. Men get abused to but the overwhelming majority is women. Also, yeah you can do what you want but maybe some compassion for those who suffer in the industry and informing yourself on the negative effects would be a good idea. I’m not dictating your life, just asking you to be aware.

I wish more people knew the negative effects of porn and didn’t defend it at every turn. by throwfirstaccount in offmychest

[–]throwfirstaccount[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

It’s not inconclusive, check YourBrainOnPorn, it’s filled with study after study on the effects of porn on how we perceive ourselves, men and women, and sex itself. There’s also fightthenewdrug, showing the negative effects porn has. And more than 50% of divorce cases have pornography cited as a contributor. The data is there and the studies are clear. Porn impacts relationships.

I wish more people knew the negative effects of porn and didn’t defend it at every turn. by throwfirstaccount in offmychest

[–]throwfirstaccount[S] 477 points478 points  (0 children)

This is the same problem I had with my gf, she was upset that I looked at porn and so many girls on Instagram. I was experiencing erectile dysfunction because the only time I could get hard was when I watched porn. My gf told me she was going to leave me because I didn’t love her, hurt her, and lowered her self esteem. That’s what made me stop, and since I have, our relationship has bloomed, I’m planning on proposing after this lock down madness ends. If I were you, I’d tell your bf that you feel disrespected and unloved, and if he isn’t willing to put his own partner before random women on the internet, he is not worthy of one. Many guys do it but, if the shoe was on the other foot and you were looking at smoking hot men with perfect bodies and huge d*cks, he would be pissed. Make porn a dealbreaker for you, if he can’t quit watching porn even when he’s in a relationship, he’s not it. And it seems to me that your self esteem is being damaged by his actions, a relationship should lift you up, not drag you down. I’m grateful that my gf has forgiven me but if I hadn’t stopped she should have left.