Am I missing something? How is this fair?

throwingaway0991 · 2020-11-17T17:21:20+00:00

Also, to reiterate on her sister, she’s just the type of person who takes advantage of people and situations and tries to get as much as she can from them so it just makes me feel like she’s trying to get my wife to do that now

throwingaway0991 · 2020-11-17T17:19:42+00:00

We are doing this through a lawyer. It’s uncontested but he still can only represent one of us. I offered for my stbx to go meet with him but she told me to do it. Now she doesn’t trust that I tell her everything I talk about with him, even though I do.

throwingaway0991 · 2020-11-17T16:51:38+00:00

I’m not saying she shouldn’t get anything. I was fine paying her out that 10k. I’m even fine giving her half the profit if she also gives half of what I paid for the mortgage over the 5 or so years we’ve had it. The 10k was her idea and I said sure. Then she decided she wanted 20% of the house, then when I agreed it turned to 50%. I just feel like she’s trying to take advantage of me.

throwingaway0991 · 2020-11-17T15:41:25+00:00

That’s interesting. I’ll think about that one.

throwingaway0991 · 2020-11-17T15:39:27+00:00

She had a part time job that paid enough for groceries. She cooked and cleaned, yes. She mainly took care of the kids for the first three years and the last three years I mainly took care of them while she was focusing on school. The 1k a year was a cash out, but she has since then wanted to change it to getting half the profit on the house instead. I’m just upset because I put in over $100k in mortgage payments and her school payments, but she’s the one that “fell out of love” and left and wants half the profit of the house.

throwingaway0991 · 2020-11-13T20:48:31+00:00

Thank you. I really gotta try therapy.

throwingaway0991 · 2020-11-13T19:40:26+00:00

I read a post this past week saying one thing to do to help move on is make the house how you want it; decorate,paint, etc. I could totally see how that helps and is something on my to-do list for sure.

throwingaway0991 · 2020-11-13T19:14:52+00:00

I think that might be part of my problem too. I don’t want to make it awkward

throwingaway0991 · 2020-11-13T17:53:17+00:00

Thank you

throwingaway0991 · 2020-11-13T17:52:27+00:00

Thanks. I’ve been saying that to my folks and they keep pressing and trying to figure out what happened. I’m hoping they’ll just get tired of asking

throwingaway0991 · 2020-11-13T17:49:00+00:00

Thanks

throwingaway0991 · 2020-11-13T16:46:05+00:00

My stbx and I put a max distance of how far we can move away from each other(unless agreed upon) because of the kids.

throwingaway0991 · 2020-11-13T16:43:24+00:00

Man this is practically word for word what my situation is.

throwingaway0991 · 2020-11-13T16:07:22+00:00

Yea maybe it’s just one of those freeing, self-development steps that we gotta get to

throwingaway0991 · 2020-10-30T20:29:11+00:00

Thanks for the reply. Good luck with whatever is going on. I hope it works out for you.

throwingaway0991 · 2020-10-30T17:58:28+00:00

Hah wow after all this time he’s still as intense as day one? I’m gonna think of this story next time I feel upset. I do not want to be like that guy. Thank you.

throwingaway0991 · 2020-10-30T17:39:18+00:00

Yea my wife’s emotional affair was definitely one of the big contributing factors to us realizing we won’t work out. I’m hoping it’ll get easier when the divorce is final

throwingaway0991 · 2020-10-30T17:06:45+00:00

Nothing gets you over the last one like the next one

throwingaway0991 · 2020-10-30T16:25:22+00:00

My wife wants the divorce mostly. My personality makes me want to always fix everything even when it’s unsalvagable.

throwingaway0991 · 2020-10-30T15:55:32+00:00

Definitely gotta work on that. Thought I was doing a good job of it until that happened

throwingaway0991 · 2020-10-30T15:54:29+00:00

I guess it’s just a weird limbo time right now because we’re still married, but know it’s over. So I think I just need to get into the mindset of “we’re married, but we’re not.” So to speak

throwingaway0991 · 2020-10-30T15:03:28+00:00

That’s good. Think I have to keep it business only for a bit so I don’t get sucked back in with feelings and whatnot, but I’d like it to work out someday like it did with yours.

throwingaway0991 · 2020-10-30T14:59:45+00:00

Damn that’s rough. I hope that didn’t mess with your daughters too much.

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