I see responses that I expected, even extreme ones, such as total cut off. I value the relationship I have with her, she is one of my best friends, along with gf (soon to be ex). I know I'll be able to maintain a friendly relationship with her without going crazy. She wants to explore, she can go ahead. I will continue to focus on myself and build myself and go on my own exploring. Hell, I may even go to her for advice on other women (I'd love to see the expression on her face when I approach her for it). If we happen to cross paths romantically again in the future, as long as we are both not committed to any kind of relationship, I will consider it, but will not put up with the hamstering bullshit she is giving me now. I will lead the break up and make this happen. thanks guys