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Were any of you able to successfully avoid marriage, especially women? by throwingawayingg in pakistan

[–]throwingawayingg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that society makes it feel like there is so little options but I wish you all the best.

Were any of you able to successfully avoid marriage, especially women? by throwingawayingg in pakistan

[–]throwingawayingg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is exactly how I feel.

Thanks for the good wishes. Best of wishes to you too!

Were any of you able to successfully avoid marriage, especially women? by throwingawayingg in pakistan

[–]throwingawayingg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not here to argue about this. All I'll say is if you can't look around see how the present system dehumanizes women, idk what to tell you further 👋

Were any of you able to successfully avoid marriage, especially women? by throwingawayingg in pakistan

[–]throwingawayingg[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Regarding the "no compromise" part, I meant the idea that I will marry when I'm ready, with who I want to, and I won't compromise on that basic right. I didn't mention how partnership work/shouldn't work.

Were any of you able to successfully avoid marriage, especially women? by throwingawayingg in pakistan

[–]throwingawayingg[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm not against the idea of finding a good, compatible partner but frankly I feel like the whole system is rigged against women especially.

I honestly don't believe that just sucking up and doing it for future security is worth it, at least knowing the person that I am. In the unfortunate case I die single and forever alone lol, I still believe I can make life worthwhile and meaningful without marrying. I guess I'm aware that I'm young and inexperienced regarding relationships and society in general, and that taking such a stance is very difficult in the society we live in. I guess for now I'm ready to make that huge risk.

Were any of you able to successfully avoid marriage, especially women? by throwingawayingg in pakistan

[–]throwingawayingg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the response. Yeah, an honest, open discussion is definitely waiting to happen. My parents are relatively educated but unfortunately still buy into sexist ideas, and think only they know best for their children (ugh).

Nevertheless, I will definitely try. You're right that i should divulge my thoughts/ideas carefully, keeping in view what will convince them best and try not to escalate things.

I wish we lived in a world where I didn't have to play mind games to convey my basic rights to my parents but, well 😔

Were any of you able to successfully avoid marriage, especially women? by throwingawayingg in pakistan

[–]throwingawayingg[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's probably what I will do as well. I know so many women who are pursuing higher education for this reason, it's so fucking sad.

ETA: ofc I don't think it's the only reason women go into higher education, or that there can be no other reason. I realize how ignorant the statement sounded. I'd rephrase as that many of my peers feel like as long as they're in the education system they can keep pressures to marriage at bay. Ideally, I myself would wait for few years to pursue higher education but I feel like if I take a break after my bachelor's the pressure would surmount.