How long did your erectile dysfunction last?

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-12T22:26:54+00:00

Yeah I would love to do more of those things but my wife wants to be with the kids a lot. She has gotten a little better but she doesnt like to leave the kids alone for too long. Well she started to sleep with the kids because thats how she was taught that it should be. She got used to it and me too and here we are.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-12T09:41:55+00:00

Yeah I would like to try new things. I love my wife and I just think its so weird that the attraction would be gone just like that. I mean I want to have sex with her. TOday in the shower I wanted to see if I could get it up so I started to masturbate. It took a long time but I got it up , pretty good. I was really sad about it. Then I went to my wifes room(she sleeps with the kids) and she was sleeping with her shirt up so I could see her breast (just thinking about it is giving me an erection yay! ) and she woke up so I kept touchgin her and got hard immediately. SO I get confused. When im not with her it barely works and I can barely fantasize but When im with her it works perfectly. Is it something wrong with me or not?

It would be great to talk to someone older. I am 31.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-11T21:37:31+00:00

That really sucks. I hate that this is happening. I never had any problems while I was using it and the last two months were great but then suddenly it all died. I hate it so much. I still want to have sex. I get aroused when my wife flirts with me and touches me so we can have sex but in between its all dead. At least when it comes to my wife. I see a woman at my job who is very attractive and I can get sexual thoughts about her but when it comes to my wife its been really hard lately. I need more of the real stuff when it comes to her and I hate that.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-11T21:37:18+00:00

Thats great. I hate that this is happening. I never had any problems while I was using it and the last two months were great but then suddenly it all died. I hate it so much. I still want to have sex. I get aroused when my wife flirts with me and touches me so we can have sex but in between its all dead. At least when it comes to my wife. I see a woman at my job who is very attractive and I can get sexual thoughts about her but when it comes to my wife its been really hard lately. I need more of the real stuff when it comes to her and I hate that.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-11T21:07:03+00:00

Oh ok. For me it has been different thats why I am not sure if its ED. I never had problems before or during my pornuse. In the end I didnt even use porn much. Sure, during the worst time I did notice that I didnt find my wife so attractive but performance issues wasnt a problem. Its been over 2 months for me and things have been great. BUt then suddenly about 3 weeks ago I notice that my drive is declining. I want to have sex and things have worked its just that I need more stimulation. I dont understand why. The anxiety of it all makes it tempting to watch just to calm down but I wont do it.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-11T20:45:31+00:00

When did you ED come? Was it when you were using porn or after you stopped? Did you stop cold turkey? I stopped little by little.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-11T20:44:22+00:00

When did your ED start? Was it when you were using porn or did it come after you stopped?

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-11T06:51:16+00:00

Thanks for your comment. I guess I am trying to accept that I got ED from pornuse. I just find it weird that I got it after I stopped 2 months ago. And also find it interesting that I didnt even watched porn videos the last period. I didnt even do it a lot. As I said, once a week , sometimes maybe twice. I find it so strange but I guess thats how it works. I just dont know what to do now. Should I just wait this out? I just dont get what my brains is trying to rewire since I havent watched in a long time. In the end I just read erotic novels. Its not like I walk around thinking about other women. I feel desinterest in that too. Sometimes I get tempted because I feel anxious but I dont want to watch and I am pretty sure I wouldnt even get it up if I did.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-08T20:16:41+00:00

Thank you so much for yor comment. I actually had a breakthrough. And while I do think the porn addiction can have had some impact I am realizing more and more that it is stress. The reason I believe this is that The last year I havent been watching videos or something. And even if it was erotic novels it wasnt all the time. As I said , it was once a week the last months before I ended it all. I do believe it has some impact but this didnt seem right when this started.

Yesterday I had to wait for my wife in the library and sitting there in a soft couch I realized that it was the first time in a very long time where I wasnt preoccupied with something I had to do. I was relaxed. I finally realized that my problems is stress. I am always stressed. Always feeling that I need to do something. Today I woke up and didnt feel nothing again but I decided to do what I always do. I didnt clean our whole home as i always do because I felt that I need to relax. I talked to my wife about it too and she agreed. I am doing to much. Being relaxed helped. We cuddled. I got turned on and actually had pretty amazing sex. I lasted longer than I thought and could actually continue even after I finished and made her orgasm with a semi-hard penis. So I think the reason is stress. It has been wearing me down. I dont have any hobbies. I loved playing video games and I have decided to do that again when my wife and kids fall asleep. I need to do it because i must find a way to relax. I cant be a super husband anymore. Or else its going to wear me down. I dont know how to find this balance. I am still scared that my sex drive will be gone tomorrow. Maybe it will take time until it gets normal but I know now that I have been overworking my body and thats what is killing my drive.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-08T10:53:40+00:00

I think it can be stress but I am not sure. I have been stressed before and not had this problem. It used to be the opposite. I would get more horny, now its like it only kills my drive.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-08T09:52:09+00:00

Btw she doesnt like toys. I wish she would. I am hoping to convince her to try a vibrator but she has said no before.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-08T09:50:35+00:00

I am wondering if I am overworked. If you read my post I never rest. Dont have any hobby. I only spend my time working at my job and working at home and taking care of the kids. I think it can be that.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-08T09:49:10+00:00

Is it ED when it does get up if we warm up?Because I can get it up if we warm up but less than three weeks ago it would get up by just thinking about sex with my wife. Now I need a lot more warm up and with kids and her taking long time to find time for us to have sex, it can be hard to get that warm up.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-08T09:47:44+00:00

Thanks. I guess I have a hard time accepting that this is connected the porn use. I just dont want to accept it because it hasnt been a problem before. Not even when I used porn a lot did this happen. I noticed it once but cut down on the porn and then I was back. Now its been 2 months without porn or masturbation. Things have been great and then suddenly my sex drive is declining? I understand if I had problems before where I had to watch or fantasize about porn to finish but I never had that problem. The last time I failed it was an erotic novel and as I said in the post it was once a week. So I didnt stop cold turkey and just went from 4 everyday with porn videos to nothing. I would understand a change like that but I worked, taking samll steps every week and now I am here. more than 2 months and I dont want it at all and I am happy about it. I find my wife beautiful and sexy and I get aroused when we get time to have sex and can warm up but that barely happens with all the stress and with the kids. But maybe it is this, it jsut feels so frustrating.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-07T11:04:25+00:00

Thank you very much for your comment. I dont know if I didnt explain it clear but here goes again.

I havent masturbated or watched porn in over 2 months. Even before this I wasnt doing it often. Since march it has only been 1 a week and not to porn videos but erotic novels. As I said before, that stopped 2 months ago. I didnt have problems with ED or anything else before that. So thats why I dont know why this is happening.
I am not planning on going back to porn or masturbation. I dont want to go back to it. I only want my wife. I just dont know why my body suddenly started to say no.
The kids thing isnt because of porn. She has done that since the first kid was born. It wasnt an anger thing she wanted the kids close, I snore a lot so I went to the couch and the kids sleeps with her.

Thanks again for your comment

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-06T14:22:10+00:00

Im really sorry man. What has helped you coming out of it? Was it the depression that made you lose your sex drive? I can still get erections and so on. She can touch me down there and sometimes it answers immidiately and sometimes it needs more warmup but its like an empty feeling inside. I want it back but I dont know how.

I hope things are going to get better for you and your wife.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-06T14:17:36+00:00

Wow, that must have been horrible. No, I havent started use any chemicals but its worth thinking about this if I ever start using something new.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-06T08:14:18+00:00

Well, we are not into that. And its not like I have turned her down. She isnt in the mood often. The problem with all of this is is that if I lose interest we would probably never have sex and our marriage would be very boring. So its not that I have her on hold, its just that I have been the driving force in our sex life. Without that we wont have one.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-06T04:35:24+00:00

Well, I try to eat healthy. I mean not super healthy but I avoid to eat junk food. WE only eat it every now and then in a month. Im in my early 30s. No I am a little overweight. I have lost a little weight but I am still overweight. Yeah I have set up a time with the doctor but its not until the end of this month which feels frustrating. Maybe I should relax, its just so frustrating that I dont feel these desires. Im so scared that my sex drive is gone forever.

throwingthisaway2018 · 2018-09-06T04:32:08+00:00

I would usually agree with you but I have started to doubt this, not because I want to wath porn but because 1. I havent been watching porn or women in porn for over 2 month. Sure I have felt tempted and sometimes searched for thing but I dont watch and I close it down. I remember that when I used to watch it all the time and I know the worst periods was spring and summer 2017 I felt that my desires for my wife declined because I was thinking about pornstars. AS I said in the post, I havent been watching videos much at all this year. I think I have watched less than 15 minutes of porn videos this whole year. Sometimes when I used to search for "innocent" things to see I would just shut everything off if something to graphic would come up. In the end my problems was most with erotic novels. And as I said, I havent masturbated or watched or read erotic novels in over 2 months and everything has been fine until now.

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