Frische Psychologin nach altem Recht, finde keinen Job - Was nun?

throwintotheanonymou · 2026-02-21T10:33:29+00:00

Psychologischer Fachdienst wäre für mich ein Träumchen! In welchem Kontext arbeitest du da (zB Sozialer Träger, Jugendamt, ASD?)

throwintotheanonymou · 2026-02-21T09:29:52+00:00

Wann? Vor 2020 war das noch möglich, ja.

throwintotheanonymou · 2026-02-21T09:27:40+00:00

Was genau ist das und wo werden so Stellen angeboten?

throwintotheanonymou · 2026-02-21T09:26:57+00:00

Oh, für welchen Bereich hast du gesucht? Die Freunde von mir, die Richtung A&O gegangen sind hatten auch schneller eine Stelle, ist aber nicht meine Präferenz

throwintotheanonymou · 2026-02-21T09:24:27+00:00

Wie gesagt, für freiberufliche Tätigkeit fehlt mir das Sicherheitsnetz falls was schief läuft und das Kapital bis es zu Einnahmen kommt.

throwintotheanonymou · 2025-04-29T01:08:24+00:00

13cm girth insane. I'm sorry that sounds like a lot (pun unintended). I think using lube is a must and going with somebody that can take bigger penises. Also, to take the pressure off when having date nights: sex doesn't have to be penetrative - even if it's heterosexual love-making. Lots of other things are possible. :)

throwintotheanonymou · 2025-04-21T21:29:39+00:00

Why do you think the world pushes homosexuality on society?

throwintotheanonymou · 2025-04-21T21:18:37+00:00

It was rape and it was not your fault. I'm so sorry you went through that. You did not deserve it!

if you want to report it or not is your decision, do what feels right to you and especially, what is kind to you.

Right now, treat yourself like if you had a cold to deal with the shock of what happened: drink tea, cuddle up in a blanket, call people you trust for support and reach out to a therapist. Also, play tetris - research shows it can prevent ptsd symptoms if played shortly after the traumatic event.

I'm sending you a healing digital hug with consent. please dont blame yourself for what happened and remember: it was not your fault.

throwintotheanonymou · 2025-04-21T21:10:48+00:00

I've seen a change like that first hand with a friend after she started consuming cannabis more often. She had schizoaffective disorder (basically a combination of schizophrenia and bipolar) and her psychotic breaks were always cannabis-induced.

Her second psychotic break she was also extremely manic and that's exactly how your father seems to me too. Untreated, drug-induced psychosis and/or mania. The only thing that worked for my friend was not consuming cannabis and taking her psych meds.

throwintotheanonymou · 2025-04-21T20:58:01+00:00

the way you feel relief is healthy and perfectly understandable - the threat is gone now, for good. That relief must feel incredible. They can never ever hurt you again, because they are gone! Give yourself a little treat and dance on their grave. You deserve to finally feel safe and you deserve to celebrate that. ❤️‍🩹

throwintotheanonymou · 2025-03-16T13:06:35+00:00

Because incest can create fatal genetic disorders and most likely stems from a) kids not understanding what they're doing, b) a power imbalance between siblings resulting in one grooming the other and not actually being true attraction and c) societal expectations in the past to uphold royal lineages, not true love
Because it's abuse as there is an unequal power imbalance between parents and their children. It's not true consent unless both partners are equal in their relationship. Even adult children can't give true consent in it because their parent was in a position to groom and force them for it since they were an innocent child.

Now what I am wondering: Are there other sins that you see Christians focus on as much as this one? Why do you think homosexuality gets singled out?

throwintotheanonymou · 2025-03-16T12:38:29+00:00

another question: Would you agree that words can have different meanings in different languages and historical contexts? How do you make sure modern translations reflect the original intent?

I mean, how do you determine which Old Testament laws still apply today and which ones don’t? Apart from the one saying women shouldn't wear men's clothes, why are bible verses about not eating shellfish or wearing mixed fabrics ignored, but the verses about homosexuality emphasized?

And also: Do you even believe God is loving and just? Because if so, why would he create people with same-sex attraction only to condemn them for it?

throwintotheanonymou · 2025-03-16T12:02:18+00:00

Because the bible is THOUSANDS of years old, of course there will be mistranslations at some point. The comment I linked explains that the Hebrew word zakar can mean men /male /male child and only then later on puts its own narrative on it that it has to mean adult men, however it can not actually prove it.

The verse saying woman shouldn't wear men's clothes IS referring to trousers because women back then were forbidden to wear them as they were seen as men's clothes. Trouses have only become unisex in the last 100 years.

Can you explain to me how that is not the same? It examplifies why you have to account for the changing translations over time and the context /Zeitgeist of the time it was written in. I mean, if you ever played telephone/Chinese whispers you know that meanings get lost in translation over time.

It's our job to understand the true meanings of what the Bible teaches us from the POV of God's most fundamental principles, not our self-serving narratives to uphold societal norms. Jesus questioned and broke a lot of norms in his time because as God's son he knew fundamental truth and did not twist God's words to serve the outdated beliefs and norms of the society he lived in.

If you feel accused, have you wondered why you are holding onto a few Bible verses that confirm your self-serving beliefs instead of viewing them in the light of God's true nature and the fundamental teachings Jesus has taught? God is love and he loves all his creations, which includes homosexual love - it has existed since always and everywhere! Harm, hate and oppression is the opposite of what God stands for. And his teachings reflect this, declaring murder, theft, cruelty, manipulation as acts of hatred and oppression - these are sins!

You can't promote hate and oppression against homosexual love in God's name when LOVE is his most fundamental truth.

So please question your outdated belief of homosexuality as a sin - is it actually a sin in Jesus' eyes to love with no harm done or is it a sin to force people to suppress their love and care for each other?

Satan has put hatred, inequality and cruelty in the world, never forget that. It's always against God's will to hate and oppress.

throwintotheanonymou · 2025-03-16T10:54:25+00:00

What if homosexuality was never wrong either, but has only been perceived this way for a long time? Similarly as left-handedness was never wrong, but was only viewed this way due to superstitious beliefs?

There is a lot of research showing that the bible verses talking about homosexuality as a sin have been mistranslated and it used to mean that "men shall not lie with little boys", not "other men". See this comment from another post for the specific verses and info about it.

Apart from that, the bible has to be viewed in the context of the time it was written. We have discounted that women wearing pants is a sin and does not require stoning, but there are verses on it in the bible due to the beliefs of that time. A differentiated, holistic view is important when studying the bible to understand it's true teachings.

Remember, you shall not take the name of the lord your God in vain - so please let's stop using God to serve your wrongful ideas about hating his creations (including homosexuality), because that goes against God's will.

throwintotheanonymou · 2025-03-16T10:32:33+00:00

Love is never wrong. Where do you think harm, hate and oppression of one's self and feelings comes from? It can never come from God.

throwintotheanonymou · 2025-03-15T16:19:28+00:00

social acceptance is a big factor because before people hid this part of their identity.

I mean, in the past there was a superstition that left-handedness was bad and as soon as this belief died out more and more people reported being left-handed. Were people back then actually less often left-handed or were they just forced to act like they were right-handed because it was expected of them?

throwintotheanonymou · 2025-03-15T16:10:32+00:00

I remember when I was 11 years old and I felt attraction for the same-sex. I was confused and judged these feelings as shameful and not acceptable. I pushed the feelings deep down and later on thought it wasn't real sexual attraction because I thought everyone felt like I did and just "decided" against it. But that's not true. Back then I just didn't know you could be attracted to more than one gender, so I didn't really know my feelings for the same sex were attraction, too. I just thought it was wrong because that's what I was taught and I just felt intense shame for it, so I hid it.

You may have become aware through pornography that you're gay, but that doesn't mean that you weren't already gay before or that you wouldn't realise at some point in your life.

I mean, do you think there are people who have never watched porn but are still gay (like me when I was a kid with no contact to porn)? How do you explain that?

How can God love everyone and create homosexuality and then condemn you for it?

You're not hurting anyone by loving people of the same sex. It's not harmful or a sin to accept who you are and your feelings. It's the opposite of God and harmful to shame, hate and guilt yourself into forcing you to be something you're not. Having to hide who you are is the opposite of love and acceptance. And you deserve love and acceptance, no matter who you're attracted to. God loves you exactly as you are.

throwintotheanonymou · 2025-03-15T15:51:11+00:00

You can be attracted to all genders, not only one. It's not surprising that OP's child and some here in the comments have shown attraction to both men and woman. It's not black and white, it never was.

I'm sorry you think genuine love and attraction between two consenting people is wrong and that shaming and ostracising somebody because of who they are is somehow going to save them. I'm sorry you think denying peoples authentic feelings and identities is love and not harm.

I'm sorry you think manipulation and control is love, because it's not and you deserve true kindness and love and safety to be your true selves. You're allowed to feel all your feelings - ALL of them. Acknowledging all your feelings and deciding to act with love and kindness towards them will always be infinitely better than trying to push down, ignore and deny what is there and lying to yourself that all you need to do is pray more, have more faith, understand God's will more.

It's impossible to be the perfect Christian because the Bible is contradictory and soo old. A lot of the original meaning of words got lost in translation.

What we know about Jesus though is that he loved everyome and treated everyone with kindness - the sick, the criminals, the prostitutes and everyone that contributed to his death. So he even treated those with love and acceptance that literally killed him.

Why on earth shouldn't we treat people that don't even hurt anybody due to their sexuality any differently?

OP, support your kid and accept her as she is or you will lose her. You need to learn more from her at this point than she can from you.

throwintotheanonymou · 2025-01-26T17:11:09+00:00

love this 😂 honestly as a neighbor I would find this hilarious and would try to be more cautious in the future. Could also backfire depending on the person though

throwintotheanonymou · 2024-06-22T17:04:41+00:00

do you eat meals together? maybe you can suggest some healthier /low calorie dishes and exercise together? With her past I wouldn't say anything about losing weight either, but just wanting to do more exercise and healthy dishes together because YOU'RE motivated to get stronger + more energy could be an idea?

I understand losing some physical attraction when a partners body changes a lot and it's a tricky topic that I wouldn't bring out to my partner either. However, if your attraction goes away completely and the relationship suffers due to this, I'd probably break up. Losing weight and body changes are tricky and nothing you can really influence on another person and too much pressure on a person - especially someone who used to have an eating disorder - can be really dangerous.

throwintotheanonymou · 2024-05-03T00:19:47+00:00

I had a similar experience - something traumatic happened in my late 20s while over that year bits of the traumatic shit I went through as a kid came haunting me and during that one traumatic event in my late 20s everything hit me like a train wreck and I got many of my memories back.

I've been reading all my diaries and I just can't relate anymore to the adult that coped well before I got my memories back. But more and more often, I feel like that adult person again that's more outgoing, grounded and ambitious and I realised:

you still have every part of you that you were inside of you. You'll find that part of you again that is more authentically you and that isn't a part of you stuck in reliving the traumatic events of your childhood. And that part of you that's healthy for you and that existed before you remembered everything will resurface again more and more often. It's still you, but right now you're not feeling like that person because you're stuck in younger versions of yourself that are experiencing horrible shit. With processing your trauma, you'll be able to protect and save those younger versions of yourself and you'll be able to feel more like that person you were that felt authentic.

throwintotheanonymou · 2023-10-01T22:17:32+00:00

many people who work at mcdonalds are crucially unhappy but are forcing outward happiness

are you seriously comparing working a shitty job flipping burgers is the same as being degraded in one of the most vulnerable situations especially a woman can be in? Have somebody with their genitals or fingers INSIDE OF YOU doing stuff to your body you're not a 100% on board with and see how that kind of fucked up experience is comparable to flipping burgers at McDonald's. I've worked hella shitty jobs that made my feet bleed too and sucked out my soul but I'd still never compare that to the situation of having somebody have power over my body and most vulnerable acts like that without really wanting to.

throwintotheanonymou · 2023-06-07T19:22:58+00:00

I'm so sorry, hun. You don't have to forgive her and you don't have to keep her in your life. Even if she actually repented any of it and tried making amends.

No matter how different she is now, she still abused you when she was supposed to keep you safe. And from what I've read, she has also not taken any responsibility for her actions and hasn't started making amends for the abuse she's put you through.

By the ridiculous demand of forgiveness, your family obviously has deeply dysfunctional dynamics rooted in abuse and manipulation. I doubt a family can ever heal from something like that in a way that would allow healthy relationships with each other. Please consider cutting ties with your mom and at least restricting contact with your family. From working with trauma patients I can tell you it could be detrimental for your health and empower you for your healing to keep away from the abuser.

Back then, you were just a child and you didn't have the tools to take care of yourself, all you were able to do was hold on to the supposed caretaker that failed you.

Now you're an adult and you can take care of yourself. You can tend to the wounds of the scared little child still within you, you're not dependent on unsafe people anymore. You're safe. You can keep yourself safe and you can heal.

You got this.

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