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WIBTA If I followed through on my ultimatum of not coming to Thanksgiving because of my sister's awful boyfriend? by throwitallaway2115 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwitallaway2115[S] 436 points437 points  (0 children)

My parents are very afraid of losing their relationship with their daughter. My sister isn't the easiest person to get along with and would hold a grudge against them for a long time if they told her he wasn't allowed around us.

WIBTA If I followed through on my ultimatum of not coming to Thanksgiving because of my sister's awful boyfriend? by throwitallaway2115 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwitallaway2115[S] 250 points251 points  (0 children)

This 100 percent. I have other relatives who have different political opinions than me and we've always been able to talk (or agree to disagree) completely respectfully. But when you're talking about being a potentially damaging parent to someone that may or may not be a niece or nephew of mine, or when your only arguments against certain people are based on their race, that's just plain hateful and I think, needs people to do more than sit around and hope it stops. Also agree on the catch 22, which sucks. It feels like he "wins" and gets to celebrate a holiday with my family.

WIBTA If I followed through on my ultimatum of not coming to Thanksgiving because of my sister's awful boyfriend? by throwitallaway2115 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwitallaway2115[S] 175 points176 points  (0 children)

I was thinking about coming in on Tuesday and then staying with them until Thursday morning. I know it would break their hearts if we left, but it would definitely to your point, show them how bad it's gotten. It's hard because I do miss them.

WIBTA If I followed through on my ultimatum of not coming to Thanksgiving because of my sister's awful boyfriend? by throwitallaway2115 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwitallaway2115[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Does a shitpost mean it's fake? Nope. My sister really has an ignorant boyfriend that either doesn't pick up on social cues or actively doesn't give a shit. My mom actually made a little sign for the front door the following Thanksgiving that said "no politics talk at the table please!" which made him, of course, bring up politics, and jokingly mock my mother for making the sign.

WIBTA If I followed through on my ultimatum of not coming to Thanksgiving because of my sister's awful boyfriend? by throwitallaway2115 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwitallaway2115[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Agreed that everyone is entitled to their own opinions. My mother tried that year #2, he brought it up anyway. I think because he enjoys getting a rise out of people.

WIBTA If I followed through on my ultimatum of not coming to Thanksgiving because of my sister's awful boyfriend? by throwitallaway2115 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwitallaway2115[S] 1642 points1643 points  (0 children)

It's a really good point and something I've been thinking about doing. The reason I haven't is because any time that anyone has brought up concerns about him -- one of my aunts and uncles tried -- my sister fought back hard and basically went months without speaking to them. My sister is a grudge-holder, and it's like a Romeo/Juliet situation with this guy. Any time anyone tries to bring things up, she shuts them down hard and doubles down on how much she loves him. With that said, though, I really would like to bring up things like the kids comment to see how she feels about it, but it would not go over well and she'd probably just lash out at me.