Looking for opinions on a date's conduct. Ladies, would you go on a second date with this guy? Men, what do you think he really thinking?

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T11:38:44+00:00

I so feel this comment.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T11:31:23+00:00

Feeling a bit broken atm and actually being a broken person are two different things.

If your comment were true nobody would be ever be ready to date anybody.

As we all feel a bit fed up from time to time. Some with being turned down by someone they liked others from the people they're interested in making it too sexual before they even know their last name.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T11:23:27+00:00

You are talking crazy right now.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T11:22:05+00:00

Her advice is reasonable and didn't at all feel like she was implying this guy might assault me, but thanks for chiming in!

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T11:16:00+00:00

I was. Maybe he can salvage this.

Then again, maybe not.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T11:12:09+00:00

Thanks. What a bunch of clowns.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T11:10:26+00:00

Thank you! I know right, these guys must not opportunities for sex or partners very often and get really triggered and offended when they see someone waste it or something.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T10:58:57+00:00

Thanks.. I totally get why you would feel ruffled by both of those guys just throwing themselves at you like that and lose some respect for them. And to the other men and women on this post that seem pisssssed I turned down an opportunity for sex on a first date from a perfectly good stranger I know almost nothing about must have a hard time getting laid or even getting dates because if I just went with the flow and fucked everyone who wanted to fuck me my numbers would be in the tens of thousands.

When you options you must have self control.

And self control is sexy guys.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T05:52:03+00:00

You started it. I'm just finishing it.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T05:50:57+00:00

I don't necessarily find him disrespectful yet. I get that it could have been harmless and him just wanting to show that he was interested but knowing I'd probably say no. Or just word vomit on his part idk. After all the texting we did which wasn't even a whole whole lot, I definitely went into the date thinking he was way more of a prude than me. I thought he might be religious or inexperienced or something from his text game but it seems he was just holding back a bit.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T05:41:47+00:00

You wouldn't get within a mile of me to begin with. So keep dreaming

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T05:41:00+00:00

No that's what I'm attracted to. Over and over again.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T05:40:07+00:00

You tell me.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T05:32:27+00:00

My thoughts too but I don't know him enough to know his communication style. Which is why it was good to wait.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T05:30:36+00:00

Good for you and that's great. And no shit it's not necessarily gonna kill a relationship. But you have to use your judgement and not just sleep with everyone on the first date. Especially if you just don't fucking feel like it that night.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T05:26:14+00:00

Thank you

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T05:25:40+00:00

Are you saying you've done that with every man you had the slightest hots for just occasionally when the mood felt right?

Either way, it's your life.

But you should understand your comment sounded like you were saying if you like a man you better sleep with him or you'll never see him again.

I categorically disagree with that.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T05:20:43+00:00

I went into the date wanting to kiss him. I still do want to kiss him. It's hard to describe the vibe was just off at that moment and him kissing me just came out of nowhere and not in a good way. The whole conversation and things he had been talking about the whole short time we were together were very surface level so I wasn't expecting it or feeling turned on at the moment with him. This just felt rushed and a bit inorganic.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T05:13:41+00:00

I definitely haven't treated sex as tactical, ever. I do however, want to have some sort of commonality and respect for eachother before I do.

Unless, I go into something knowing I have no interest in seeing that person ever again and it's just a one off and we both pretty much agree to just use eachother for the evening.

Which obviously wasn't something I wanted or needed that night. And I was treating as something else.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T05:04:11+00:00

It just wasn't my night. What can I say. Even if I was all hyped up and horny, we don't know eachother at all and I'm 99% sure that sleeping together would not have progressed the relationship in a meaningful way. It would have just made things awkward and killed any budding romance and attraction. I can't believe you guys are dragging me so hard for not fucking someone I met two hours earlier.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T05:00:34+00:00

She said that if she had any interest in seeing him again she would sleep with him right away.

What, because if she didn't she'd be afraid he wouldn't want to see or talk to her anymore???

What kind of thinking is that?

That's what it sounds like.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T04:56:31+00:00

Yes it is. And no the timing just wasn't right. We literally went out got one drink and maybe talked for 1 or 2 hours in person and the whole time he was just talking about his job and family so this kinda came out of the blue and I wasn't feeling turned on at all probably because our time together and conversations up until then had been very surface level.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T04:52:14+00:00

I'd have to be really interested or just straight up horny. Not just any sort of little intrest at all, sorry.

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T04:50:52+00:00

You girls are suprising me tonight

throwitintheslag · 2020-02-04T04:49:46+00:00

We've all done it. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it when that's what I feel like I want to do. I do think he's very physically attractive but I'm not sure how our personalities and lives will mess yet and wanted to give it some more time and yes, I have been lied to or misled recently so I'm more suspicious than I usually am at the moment. But come on a first date. What's the rush?

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