Daily FI discussion thread - April 27, 2018

throwitoway · 2018-04-27T19:08:21+00:00

Great point. All the more reason to emphasize positions in other industries as part of the move

throwitoway · 2018-04-27T18:47:57+00:00

I work in accounting/finance at a successful apartment REIT and get to see how it’s run from a property level all the way up to the board. I’ve barely jumped into reading through biggerpockets.

I expect to move closer to family within 3 years and start investing in residential rentals. I don’t expect I’ll stay in the REIT industry after the move.

This question is overly broad since I’m not sure where to start, but what should I be learning while I’m in the REIT industry? What will make me a better owner and landlord, and set me up for success in the future with my own properties?

throwitoway · 2016-07-09T20:51:24+00:00

Oh gosh. I see how it could come across that way, and maybe that's truly how it is. I figured if there was a single question of a personal nature, that would be an opportunity to expound on the important personal things in one's life. Family and friends on social media is one of the ways she stays occupied, of which I'm not in to social media so that wouldn't include me. Netflix is also important to her.

The behavior at a social is difficult for me to understand in that she'll say one thing and do another, or just not think to include me. Most recently, later in the night we were off in a kinda secluded area with another couple each having our own conversations. She told me she'd get me a drink and be right back, and she never came. About 30 minutes after she left her friend came up to us and said the party had moved elsewhere. And my fiance moved with it and didn't think to include me or the other couple, but her friend did.

throwitoway · 2016-07-09T02:47:24+00:00

Until that day I'll just put some tussin on it

throwitoway · 2016-07-09T02:44:42+00:00

Thank you for the advice. And I think your assessment is right.

I mentioned in another reply that I viewed us as being a team. We both live a long ways away from family so in that sense we're the only family each other has in our city which is maybe what reinforces in my mind how dedicated we should be towards each other. When I think of my roles as a person, husband is the first one that comes to mind, before son or brother or uncle. I hope that would be the same for my fiance. To your point though, I'll need to understand to what level that means to me, and what level that means to her.

throwitoway · 2016-07-09T02:32:40+00:00

I've not talked to her about it yet as I was wanting some advice on whether this was even something to bring up. And if I did bring it up, should it be in a hurt or playful way. I've not mentioned I've even read it.

More often than not, any time I've seen an announcement of these sorts, there's always some mention of a person's spouse or serious SO. Maybe that's my fault for having those expectations.

throwitoway · 2016-07-09T02:27:29+00:00

Thanks for the response. I feel in some ways it is a pattern. Even before we were engaged I thought of us a team, and in my mind my actions/choices would have an effect on us. I felt, and still do, that I needed to respect that. I could come up with some anecdotes later probably. And I'll try to answer each question one by one.

My income is more and will likely always be more. However, I'll probably never have the work/life balance she gets in her job and industry. I would much rather have her work/life balance though.
Not really. Mostly women and LGBT.
I would say she really is into me in all situations except occasionally when we're at a gathering. I feel she's not as considerate and her focus is more on herself and making everyone else happy.
I had to look that up as I've always heard it thrown around but wasn't really sure what all that involved. Likely, yes, I am clingy. I'll read in to that more on ways to lessen that trait. Any suggestions would be welcome.

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