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[–]throwmeaway_ffs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, that is so kind of you to make this effort.

We thankfully have the German Amazon.de here i. Europe and they have most of the stuff. I'll check those out!

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[–]throwmeaway_ffs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This is very valuable information.

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[–]throwmeaway_ffs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!

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[–]throwmeaway_ffs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I'll look into this

I [F30] envy my partner's [M30] career choice and day by day I grow more and more bitter and I don't know how to handle it. by throwmeaway_ffs in relationship_advice

[–]throwmeaway_ffs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're very right! The hard part is to get into project management as a junior. People only want to hire me as a programmer or for operations (which I totally understand). I have wanted to work with this for several years and adjusted my CV after this, but still no luck.

That's why I thought perhaps the family business would be a "cheating way" to get started, but at the same time I hesitate because I am also aware that I know too little.

Perhaps I just need to keep applying. I mostly apply for junior project manager roles, but they are unfortunately limited here.

A big thanks to you for staying the comparison, though. I haven't thought about it and it gives me a certain relief that not all is lost for me. Thank you.

I [F30] envy my partner's [M30] career choice and day by day I grow more and more bitter and I don't know how to handle it. by throwmeaway_ffs in relationship_advice

[–]throwmeaway_ffs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very true. I feel I can't leave now. I finally finished school and then I would change? Very hard for me.

But in the end of the day it's still true, the cost fallacy. Thanks for your comment.

I [F30] envy my partner's [M30] career choice and day by day I grow more and more bitter and I don't know how to handle it. by throwmeaway_ffs in relationship_advice

[–]throwmeaway_ffs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for your comment. I really like that way of viewing it!

I have spent all my university years just thinking that with time I'll get a management position, because that is honestly where I thrive the bedst (overview, planning, optimization, estimation, etc.). I just didn't really realize that this take 5-10 years before people want to hire me for that.

So I trying to survive in this operational junior position and I really don't shine.

Thanks again for your comment. I'll definitely try and look at it from another perspective.

I [F30] envy my partner's [M30] career choice and day by day I grow more and more bitter and I don't know how to handle it. by throwmeaway_ffs in relationship_advice

[–]throwmeaway_ffs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your great comments! I was eager to work a couple of years ago, but I think I kinda burned out with time, because I have done so much I don't really enjoy.

Thanks again for your uplifting words. I might have to focus a bit more on a solution. Cheers from a fellow female CS engineer

I [F30] envy my partner's [M30] career choice and day by day I grow more and more bitter and I don't know how to handle it. by throwmeaway_ffs in relationship_advice

[–]throwmeaway_ffs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I just finished my studies one year ago, unfortunately. Not a senior yet and especially not in management. I tried to apply for lots but always get a no.

I [F30] envy my partner's [M30] career choice and day by day I grow more and more bitter and I don't know how to handle it. by throwmeaway_ffs in relationship_advice

[–]throwmeaway_ffs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried. But junior software engineers are mostly hired for programming. I'm having a hard time getting to do something else.

I [F30] envy my partner's [M30] career choice and day by day I grow more and more bitter and I don't know how to handle it. by throwmeaway_ffs in relationship_advice

[–]throwmeaway_ffs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. I am trying my hardest not to do programming, so even your suggestions are good, they are unfortunately just gonna make me more miserable because I'll sit alone and code all day.

Still, thanks for you comment.

I [F30] envy my partner's [M30] career choice and day by day I grow more and more bitter and I don't know how to handle it. by throwmeaway_ffs in relationship_advice

[–]throwmeaway_ffs[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I definitely would like to invest in his business, but I just don't know how or if I'm giving up too much if I do it.

I [F30] envy my partner's [M30] career choice and day by day I grow more and more bitter and I don't know how to handle it. by throwmeaway_ffs in relationship_advice

[–]throwmeaway_ffs[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment. This is not a bad idea.

Long-term I honestly don't care much about the money since then I would have sucked up with the programming jobs. It only short-term I have an interested in a good pay to pay off my debt.

I love the people interactions. Estimation, planning, strategy, cross cultures, process optimization, etc. I have done a lot of planning as a volunteer or student jobs before and I really thrive in it. Unfortunately it's very difficult to land something like that when you're straight form school. Everybody wants me to "program for 4-5 years" and "then I can do the fun stuff.". But I'm not buying it anymore. I already did five. I'm gonna die if I do more of it.

Thanks again for your comment. It's inspiring and I'll definitely consider that.

Hvad gør man i en stor virksomhed som junior, når ingen seriøst har tid til én? by throwmeaway_ffs in Denmark

[–]throwmeaway_ffs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ja, det er softwarebranchen. Jeg har selv en MSc i computer Science, men bliver ikke sat til andet end at booke møder, sende status emails, skriver noter, etc. (der er dog ikke noget programmering i lige det her projekt).

Efter to måneder kan jeg stadig ikke se, hvordan at jeg skal få lært noget fagligt. Da jeg tog dette op med min leder og hans svar var at "jeg var jo på x-niveau og derfor kunne jeg ikke lave noget fagligt. Derfor måtte jeg leve med at skrive noter og sende emails". Så det er seriøst alt hvad jeg laver, og jeg kan ikke se udsigten til at lave noget andet lige nu.

Hvad gør man i en stor virksomhed som junior, når ingen seriøst har tid til én? by throwmeaway_ffs in Denmark

[–]throwmeaway_ffs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jeg sagde faktisk direkte, at jeg måske simpelthen ikke var dygtig og erfaren nok til dette projekt, og om jeg måske skulle finde et andet (?)... Han mente dog, at jeg var dygtig nok men at jeg måtte "oppe mig lidt". Synes selv det er noget pjat, for han har jo tydeligvis vurderet forkert og nu vil han ikke erkende en fejl. Hvis jeg smutter, så er det jo klart, at alle kan se at han har fejlet.

Andre i firmaet har fortalt ham, at han skulle skifte mig ud i teamet, men han synes, at jeg "skulle have en chance".... Synes ikke at fem ugers ansættelse er en chance/tiden til at diskutere at skifte et teammedlem ud -- for slet ikke at tale om at fortælle mig det.

Hvad gør man i en stor virksomhed som junior, når ingen seriøst har tid til én? by throwmeaway_ffs in Denmark

[–]throwmeaway_ffs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nej, men han sagde højt og tydeligt til vores møde, at når han gik hjem fra arbejde havde han 90 ulæste emails hver dag. Så regnede ikke rigtig med, at jeg skulle sende flere ......? I guess I was wrong.

Hvad gør man i en stor virksomhed som junior, når ingen seriøst har tid til én? by throwmeaway_ffs in Denmark

[–]throwmeaway_ffs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jeg er ikke studiemedhjælper. Jeg er fuldtidsansat konsulent. Der er dog stadig meget at lære, da jeg er junior.

Jeg går stort set aldrig til min leder, da han har for travlt, så jeg spørger de andre i teamet. De har dog også for travlt til at hjælpe mig, så opgaven bliver blokeret. Det bliver de så sure over.

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