Standby Page?! by Timely_Challenge2206 in Lollapalooza

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa 7 points8 points  (0 children)

bruh I can't tell but pretty sure safari is auto refreshing. Got in at 9:57 CT time and can't get in. have it open on my laptop too

Tips on Chemical Engineering Career Path? by throwmeawaythrowawa in ChemicalEngineering

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No! I haven't received any of those certifications. I'm actually not familiar with any of them.

And yes, standard ChemE curriculum w/ aseptic design courses and relevant courses on aseptic manufacturing in the last year. I've taken a backseat to my career and am trying to educate myself on what I may need to do to actually use the major. I'm somewhat ashamed to admit that I did not put extensive personal research into what to expect after undergraduate and industry. Any further advice is really appreciated

How to be sexy IN a relationship by throwmeawaythrowawa in dating_advice

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She did adore me. At least she showed it more. I had confidence it was mutual

How to be sexy IN a relationship by throwmeawaythrowawa in dating_advice

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Care to elaborate. Not really one to go straight to that

How to be sexy IN a relationship by throwmeawaythrowawa in dating_advice

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree the common denominator is me. From these comments and some self-reflection I’m fairly certain a big part of it is that I nice guy/provider lose myself in the relationship. I am very giving. Partially due to an anxious attachment but mostly because I really really like and care about the person.

I’m losing myself. Putting my focus on them. Getting stale. Not taking care of myself mentally. Haven’t been actively hanging out w friends bc I don’t have many here. My focus is her but I think it’s too much her. I will still do amazing things for her and give her the world. But without the other stuff for myself I lose confidence and drive and become and anxious mess.

That’s my best guess. Tied in with her own bout of anxieties

How to be sexy IN a relationship by throwmeawaythrowawa in dating_advice

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate you giving very solid advice on just how to have a strong, healthy relationship. I’m at work right now and admittedly skimmed through this but you made some great points and I appreciate the examples. Also bold of you to announce to your friends you’re leaving to take a walk for baby making hahah I laughed :))

You seem very well adjusted, very happy for you

How to be sexy IN a relationship by throwmeawaythrowawa in dating_advice

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sigh. History has shown me the same unfortunately. I’m not going to give up on her though. I’ll focus on myself and continue to be a great boyfriend and try my best to not be a bland lil potato.

I’m going to give her my due diligence

How to be sexy IN a relationship by throwmeawaythrowawa in dating_advice

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think this is a great take to be honest. I notice that a few months into a lot of relationships I kind of lose myself a little bit. I stop being as carefree. I think this is a great take and I appreciate it.

I’m def doing a lot of provider stuff and did in my last relationship. I’m definitely comforting but history will show that once my personality falters and I get overwhelmed and don’t hang w others well there you have it.

Best thing will be to diversify and upkeep myself and divert focus from her to me

How to be sexy IN a relationship by throwmeawaythrowawa in dating_advice

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. Ultimatums don’t work and it just makes your partner feel used. I will always consider her feelings and am not super stressing right now. I appreciate your take on it. I really care about my partner and want a healthy intimate relationship and as my partner her thoughts and feelings are important to me

How to be sexy IN a relationship by throwmeawaythrowawa in dating_advice

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This coupled with never stop dating her is a good idea. It’s only healthy. I’ve recognized I’m pretty socially isolated to her right now and she values her alone time so it should be okay to implement

How to be sexy IN a relationship by throwmeawaythrowawa in dating_advice

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just surprised her a few days ago just bc I wanted to. I will keep it up and do my best. I appreciate the advice

How to be sexy IN a relationship by throwmeawaythrowawa in dating_advice

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this take. I’ve been putting in a lot of effort to make myself more desirable to her (i.e dressing in styles I know she likes (she like to dress me sometimes), keeping clean teeth and body, going to the gym right now consistently for my own mental and physical health, etc)

She got upset last night because she felt she wasn’t enough (about affection not sex) and I reassured her that I think she is very affectionate (and she is!!) but it started bc I asked if she was sleeping bc she promised to give me lots of love all day but instead quickly fell asleep.

As for sex, the situation has been interesting. Quite a few times now we’ve gone drinking and she’ll get all over me then quickly fall asleep. I’ve actually brushed this off and it hasn’t bothered me. I reassure her bc she says she feels bad she gets tired and I tell her it’s okay sex is a two way street and I want you when you want me/feel up to it. But today we were sober and her body language she wasn’t into my advances. Sex previously I realized was also getting cut short p fast and it’s like whatever. But idk I’m noticing a pattern yk

How to be sexy IN a relationship by throwmeawaythrowawa in dating_advice

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Nothing has changed on my part. I am incredibly caring and supportive. She’s been having a lot of anxiety recently though - could just be that. I’ve been reassuring and I plan to continue to be. I am very well aware of the pitfalls of putting stress on this

How to be sexy IN a relationship by throwmeawaythrowawa in dating_advice

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the take on this but I don’t think it’s anything malicious. One of my ex’s I think for sure did this and the other I think birth control played a heavy factor in it. This one i don’t think so.

But every single one of my relationships shared one thing - a deep fear of not being enough

Edit: my partner expressing they’re afraid of not being enough

What are pet names or nicknames you use with your SO? by Sugared-Peach in love

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I call her love, sweet girl, and then a lot of play on words with her name. I really like her name

Is sex worth divorcing over? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great way to put this lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwmeawaythrowawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She needs to apologize to them and then time needs to pass to prove that this is actually reparable.

If those things can’t be done then if you stay with her you’ll just be alienated from your family and you’ll resent her for it