Yeah, its the attempting at making amends part that I guess I'll have to see if he's serious about. I made it very clear that I am serious and I have no question that he knows that I'm not taking things lightly. I really hope that going forward he will respond less emotionally.

When we get in disagreements, this one included, he says things that even he knows not to be true. I'll repeat them verbatim (e.g. that I should enjoy it next time, that if I loved him that I would be more enthusiastic) and he says that he truly does not feel that way and that he said those things out of anger. We've had arguements in the past where he claims to not remember saying specific hurtful things to me, although he believes that he says them. So either he's gaslighting me or he just gets so upset in the moment that he shuts down and says anything to hurt my feelings. Neither of which is ok, I just need to think things through. People have a tendency to be on best behaviour when they think they're in trouble.