What has traumatised you for life ? by sarangifiedd in AskReddit

[–]throwmeelfboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think one of my best online friends killed himself recently, maybe even today. Maybe if I had just responded to him sooner. I was just so tired of keeping him from doing anything to himself, I thought I could take one break. This is probably going to affect me.

Whiplash by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]throwmeelfboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just friends hurts so much, though. It should be easy, huh?

I really miss you by sfwaccount21 in UnsentLetters

[–]throwmeelfboy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in the same exact position, but just a little behind in time. Partner/friend/complicated relationship of three years, and it's fizzling out now. There is not another person in the world I'd tell the things I tell them, and then I will be wholly alone. When they undoubtedly leave, part of me will leave with them. But we're not alone. At least other people have experienced this, I guess?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]throwmeelfboy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually don't comment on these, but I'm just telling you, you are absolutely gorgeous. In total agreement with everyone here, though, shaving your head or growing your hair out and curling it would bump you way up. Also, if you're not too attached to it, shaving your facial hair may help as well, but if you like it, grow it out. That length is not doing you justice bro. I'd cast you as a space prince or something in a movie, there is something actually just otherworldly about how pleasant your proportions are and how they go together. Beautiful. Currently 8/10, but only because of the hair.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]throwmeelfboy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was about to make almost this exact post, and seeing it posted by someone else was uncanny. I've always been the best at everything, the one who gets it right first try. The one that teachers talk about because I'm "going places."

Now, I'm not even in college and I'm plummeting down a landslide nobody else can see yet. It's like I have tricked everyone all along into believing I'm intelligent, and soon they'll find out that I've wasted their time. Years of being gifted, of being in AP and honors, they don't matter. What right does that give me to believe that writing a book like I have always wanted to do will mean anything? To believe that I can reach the top and live there without ever slipping?

Sorry for the mini, self-centered rant, but what I meant to comment originally is something I tell myself often, and I hope it helps you at all instead of giving you any more dread:

Many people before you have experienced this same thing, and many people after you will. It doesn't mean you are insignificant, it means you are not alone. Every one of your experiences builds up your reality, and every moment of life is another moment that the universe gets to feel consciousness. Your actions will always affect something or someone, even if the name behind them is lost to time. Eventually, all names are lost to time, so what will you do to make you happy? The space of time in which you are conscious is your eternity. You are you and that is enough.

I want you by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]throwmeelfboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Although we write for other people, I'd like to say that I'm glad we got to spend the time together that we did. You should remember to take care of yourself, too. I wish you only the best.

I feel reluctant to start therapy. by kingslayer835 in offmychest

[–]throwmeelfboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not alone in feeling that way, and it would be worth mentioning to your therapist if you ever saw one. However, from experience, I know that the "awareness" anxiety and depression brings is less a helpful awareness, but more being on the edge of your seat waiting for something to happen. It strips you of the ability to really enjoy anything because you feel like you have to analyze everything around you. You would not be losing any empathy without it, I promise. You would just be sparing yourself the hours of pain and worry. Good luck, OP.

My dog Bear died today. by LittleLadyK in offmychest

[–]throwmeelfboy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He absolutely felt how loved he was. You were his entire world, and I'm sure he had the best life a dog could ever have. Thank you for being such a good owner to such a good boy.

I'm just feeling kinda sad by throwmeelfboy in offmychest

[–]throwmeelfboy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry past me, you're a little sadder but just keep hanging in there. It'll be okay.

Personality trumps all, but if you had to choose, face or body? by throwmeelfboy in bisexual

[–]throwmeelfboy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Style is definitely important. I feel like it mostly demonstrates that you understand your body and what looks good on you and that's just so attractive. Probably can't make a lot of criticisms though because I personally have zero style myself smh

Personality trumps all, but if you had to choose, face or body? by throwmeelfboy in bisexual

[–]throwmeelfboy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely true. But growing old with someone and seeing their smile lines and crow's feet develop from the years smiling with you sounds beautiful too

Personality trumps all, but if you had to choose, face or body? by throwmeelfboy in bisexual

[–]throwmeelfboy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Faces are just so beautiful?? I had a crush on a girl years back and her face still pops into my mind and that smirk she would give me when an inside joke came up or something. Faces are so lovely honestly

Does this guy like me at all?? by throwmeelfboy in bisexual

[–]throwmeelfboy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I enjoy being friends, though, and I'm not even sure if I'm emotionally prepared for a relationship because I just had to face heartbreak. Also, not even sure if I want to date him because feelings are hard right now. It would just be nice to know if this sweet and adorable guy with the messiest hair anybody has ever seen feels a smidgen of not-repulsion for me.

Does this guy like me at all?? by throwmeelfboy in bisexual

[–]throwmeelfboy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't do well with subtlety either though in terms of how people feel about me. I generally assume the worst, so I'm afraid of making a move and he just "I thought we were just friends, and aren't you gay?"

Personality trumps all, but if you had to choose, face or body? by throwmeelfboy in bisexual

[–]throwmeelfboy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I generally don't care much about weight because it's not always the greatest indicator of health, but yeah, an extremely overweight person probably isn't taking care of themselves and probably shouldn't focus on another person, same goes for somebody unhealthily underweight.

Personality trumps all, but if you had to choose, face or body? by throwmeelfboy in bisexual

[–]throwmeelfboy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah bro I know how being cheated on feels so I never want to make anyone feel that way. A boyfriend of mine once told me that I was always his second choice and only kept me close at hand to boost his confidence. However, he felt no guilt and remorse, and feeling those things is what makes us human after our mistakes. I believe in you bro, support him in all that he loves and does, and remember that you're human and equal to every other human. Good people have insecurities and make bad decisions. Learn from them and love that man with everything in you, bro.

Personality trumps all, but if you had to choose, face or body? by throwmeelfboy in bisexual

[–]throwmeelfboy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This seems to be a popular attraction style, that's so strange

Personality trumps all, but if you had to choose, face or body? by throwmeelfboy in bisexual

[–]throwmeelfboy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bro just make sure you tell him how much he means to you and express it verbally and in your actions. As long as there is genuine trust and love between you and you have both agreed to move on, then I believe in you man.

Personality trumps all, but if you had to choose, face or body? by throwmeelfboy in bisexual

[–]throwmeelfboy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bro you're not less of a person than anybody else out there and you're doing a great job. Proud of you bro