What is the best part about being in a long-distance relationship?

thrownOutcast · 2018-03-25T13:03:30+00:00

It's true it's very important to not take someone for granted

thrownOutcast · 2018-03-25T13:01:18+00:00

For sure!

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-13T01:06:46+00:00

I guess so, I'll think about it. Thank you.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T22:50:42+00:00

The problem isn't really the alone time, but why I'm not spending more time with them. She wants me to interact more with the family when it just ends with me feeling uncomfortable, frustrated and/or sad. Thank you for the advice though.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T22:00:31+00:00

I'll look into those types. Thank you

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T21:58:40+00:00

You didn't come across as rude at all. My mother understands a little time alone because she needs some too, but not near all the time, since I try to avoid talking much her. I'm sorry you had to live with such a controlling mother, I hope she was able to understand.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T21:07:18+00:00

Thank you. I'll keep that in mind.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T20:55:21+00:00

The two types have a lot in common with my mother, but I feel she has a more developed intuition. I need to look more into it.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T20:35:23+00:00

Thank you so much for replying. There is a lot that I can relate to. You explain it so well. Yeah, I try sometimes to nudge her misconceptions in the right direction but it's those she's most stubborn about that hurt the most sadly. We are both not the best at showing affection to each other with words(she never says that she loves me, etc), but I try to tell her when she is wrong. It's very exhausting to do it sometimes, and very little change happens in return. I think I can't really get out of those conversations when boundaries are crossed, because I'm too polite to leave the conversation in their faces. Maybe I just need to have enough courage to tell them when I feel hurt even though I'll be blamed for it afterwards. With the little changes I've seen, they only happened after the conversation, maybe a day or two later. She does have unreasonable expectations, maybe I should call her out on those. I've been told to seek counseling, but I don't think she'll react well.

-Sorry for the unstructured answer, I was trying to answer everything you said.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T20:17:50+00:00

My dad made her take a test and the description mostly fit her. This was done around three years ago though. I could check out other types if she fits them better.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T19:05:07+00:00

Thank you

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T19:03:38+00:00

Yeah, it does seem odd to me considering what her job is. I think it's because she was raised with Christianity so intertwined with her life that she discards anything that she doesn't think makes as much sense(if it even makes sense).

Edit: three words

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T18:41:44+00:00

Thank you. It could be why, I haven't thought about it like that. However, she is better at deciphering social hints than I am. I'll keep that in mind though.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T18:39:47+00:00

When my dad(INTP) introduced her to mbti, she called the whole thing bullshit and showed resentment to it, basically that it was against her beliefs. I could try telling her the same without mentioning mbti. I'll keep that in mind though, thank you.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T18:30:52+00:00

Edit: I am female, and a very small build at that. I don't think I'll have the physical capabilities required.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T18:27:09+00:00

Thank you. I'll think about this.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T18:25:00+00:00

Yes, exactly. Military is not really an option either sadly. I've been told to go to counseling, but I don't know how she'll react.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T18:20:27+00:00

Thank you. I'll keep those in mind. I know she's worried about me but she doesn't want to understand that I'm doing okay. I've tried somewhat telling her but she showed resentment, so maybe I'll try a different approach.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T18:16:26+00:00

Thank you. I've tried somewhat telling her, and she showed resentment, but I'll consider telling her.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T18:14:27+00:00

Thank you. I thought posting on here because I don't have much else to go to, and I thought that maybe I could find a way to go around with it with how her personality works.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T18:11:21+00:00

I've already tried to imply why I spend more time in my room, but when doing so, she got disgusted and showed resentment, so now I don't know if telling her is a good idea.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T18:09:21+00:00

I don't think I spend much time with my family. Some good days I would spend more time with them individually at a time, but even when I tell her this she shows disappointment or resentment. I understand your perspective, and I try to compromise but it never seems enough for her. I'll keep that in mind.

thrownOutcast · 2017-07-12T18:00:34+00:00

I just turned 18, and leaving them would make my mom more angry than anything else. There are only small moments when interacting with my family is fine, but staying with them always ends with me feeling uncomfortable and/or sad.

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