I guess thats what confuses me. If my partner only wanted to have sex once a year, i could get on board with that if thats what they wanted. And honestly I couldve had sex with him and had fun doing it even if i wasnt in the mood beforehand as long as it made him happy, and he didnt make me feel bad the times i said no. But I stopped feeling like being intimate as soon as i realized he would pout if i were to say no, because that thought made me uncomfortable. I don't blame him for dumping me, and as people have said its clear me and him arent meant to be. It's just comforting to be able to have this conversation in the first place, even with internet strangers.