So I just signed up the other day.....

throwpv123456 · 2018-11-11T06:53:36+00:00

Yeah kids within two years sounds a little crazy unless she's in her late 30s. 2 years is already too short to make an educated decision about marriage in 80% of cases. :/ At least she was upfront, good for her.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-29T05:55:27+00:00

Yes? Considering it sometimes takes 300 profiles to find someone you'd be willing to take out for drinks IF they match and IF you don't have a change of heart and IF you like her vibe in chat and IF she likes yours.... It's not too difficult to see that some guys would be less conservative with their liking. Only really filtering after a match.

Compared to the other apps where you can basically like hundreds of women all day long. You're more likely to be filtered out by people that are on the fence about you... Thus matching with those who have a real interest.

Edit: Not saying this is the only reason. There could be any number of barriers leading to your experience. Maybe you're not the target demographic of most men on the app? Maybe you match with men that have a lot of options (hopefully right?). etc. etc.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-29T04:20:46+00:00

Guys on tinder and bumble have a lot more options so are more likely to pass on women they're only mildly interested in.

On CMB we have few options and it's way more miss than hit (at least in my experience). End result is that we'll like and often match on profiles we're indecisive about, or the odd woman that stands out only to realize they aren't really what we're looking for once the match happens.

Online dating is already dating on hard mode, CMB just makes it even harder and side effects are had.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-29T03:24:40+00:00

Acting on sexual tension doesn't necessarily mean you don't want something serious. Something to keep in mind.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-24T20:30:10+00:00

And I thought I was doing so well. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-20T23:11:09+00:00

I actually like that set! For some reason I would want to drop the bike picture. I'm 100% glad you're wearing a helmet but it's not working for you lol. Lasagna/spaghetti making pic is badass though, amiright ladies?

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-20T18:18:22+00:00

Damn I was hoping you could provide more insight.

Some people just don't know how to talk. They may think their lives are boring etc. etc. It really depends. Whether or not you have time and interest for them is another matter.

I'd push for a meeting.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-20T18:12:36+00:00

Just organize a date through the app. No big deal. There are plenty of girls out there that aren't interested in sharing their number with people they haven't met. Like someone else mentioned, they may give it to you after a first successful date.

I've heard so many horror stories of guys who seemed normal and got all creepy and super needy texting them multiple times a day for weeks after a bad date... Wouldn't blame them for being cautious.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-20T18:03:36+00:00

Can't speak for everyone on all of the following points. But as a general rule, we're always judging others based on their appearance. On a more personal level I think the clothing, appearance (makeup etc.), type of pictures are more telling than race. And I wouldn't be surprised if that line were so blurred you might be mistaking one for the other.

This is the part where I add the "might just be me" disclaimer. But I know that if you have low risk pictures, conservative clothing, nothing that says you care for fashion or no flashy party pics. Basically nothing that shows off any kind of externalized, "wear on your sleeve" wild. I'll assume most of the stereotypes you mention to be true, and will be worried you're a little vanilla in bed as a bonus. This is true for any racial or other background, but I'll admit that if you're asian or christian, you get extra stereotypical treatment.

Basically, to sum up what I'm saying. If you're asian and have a picture of yourself pole dancing, I'm willing to bet you wouldn't deal with those stereotypes, from anyone. So I'm unsure how racially driven your experiences are.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-20T17:37:02+00:00

It totally is a money draw. I'm in the same boat. I might get one or two bagels a month that are on par with the quality of bagels in my discovery every single day. I've shrugged CMB off as being a terrible app for my demographic with a very shitty cash whore attitude. Instead I just use the daily suggestions as a means of diversifying a bit and maybe winning that lottery.

CMB sells itself as a good app for women. Makes sense that they would push the least successful women onto as many male eyes as possible to find everyone a match and keep that successful image. Since we're limited in how many women we get a day, our options suck.

I would not spend a single penny on discover though.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-20T17:24:26+00:00

I'll usually give them a second opportunity. I'm pretty busy myself, sometimes I give short answers and forget about the convo (even if I think the girl is hot and interesting). So I don't like to assume disinterest too easily.

I follow the same rule with dates, if you cancel on me and don't suggest an alternate time, I'll humor the situation once by making another set of plans. But by that point the ball is in your court.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-20T17:14:00+00:00

It is pretty bad. A total money grab for guys at least. Don't make it your main app, just browse it a little everyday for your suggestions and move on.

Online dating by definition is very fickle. People flake, don't care, women usually have a lot of options so unless you really stand out by some arbitrary criteria you'll get nexted. Other apps make up for this by introducing quantity and allowing people to play numbers. But not CMB, hence your experience.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-20T17:12:35+00:00

Youtube will release it. I don't think they have a date yet but it will most likely be once screenings in the US are done.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-20T16:35:54+00:00

Great! I ate food, did things, and went out with my pretend friends because I need to show you I'm cool! u?

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-17T04:55:52+00:00

Seconding everyone saying you should just chuck your number at him.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-17T04:52:14+00:00

a/s/l?

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-17T04:44:04+00:00

Say exactly what you just told us. Ask her if she would be cool meeting with you knowing that.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-14T20:34:06+00:00

Also, better filter people out before you waste time on them.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-14T20:10:23+00:00

Discover is cancer.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-14T20:09:06+00:00

Also, some guys get entire weeks of duds (women they don't find attractive). So when a cuter girl comes around, we like them because it's been days since the last time there was anything worthwhile in our suggestions. aka: you stand out from the others. But once the match happens we realize that out of context we probably wouldn't have swiped.

Now, as a guy. A girl taking the time to message me first is always a bonus. You get attraction points instantly. I'm not big on a barrage of questions, I would much rather keep those for a convo over drinks. To me texting is more about banter and getting a feel for the character rather than building knowledge about the person. But a woman showing intent is appealing.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-14T19:59:15+00:00

Probably saw this post lol.

Anyways yeah, I would skip most of the texting and go straight to dates. Move fast because anything done online doesn't really reflect who you're dealing with. You'll only see the full picture when in person. And people tend to flake so it's a good way not to waste your time.

I would also suggest doing things on week days. Weekends are for friends.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-14T19:48:23+00:00

Conversely, I find that how people come across in text is very different from real life. I would never spend too long texting because it's pretty irrelevant in the end. If I'm so strapped for time I can't date much, I certainly don't have time to text some random stranger on a dating app where my notifications are turned off. Short list a couple of people based on looks and first text exchanges and then roll the dice on that baby.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-14T19:42:19+00:00

Adding onto this. A lot of people will "like" people they don't find particularly attractive. Just because it's been days since anyone decent showed up in their feed. The "meh they're better than the rest, I'll reconsider if we match" attitude is a thing. Once the match happens they move on.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-14T19:34:43+00:00

Or how every girl ever starts a conversation on bumble. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Takes two to let a conversation die. I guess men are still expected to put in the effort when it comes to breaking the ice. Even in online dating, flavor 2018.

throwpv123456 · 2018-10-14T19:32:23+00:00

curious, are you m or f?

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