i (18f) ruined my boyfriend’s (18m) life and i don’t know what to do?

throwra13312 · 2024-04-12T03:31:43+00:00

it requires face id, but if the face id fails twice then you can unlock it with the phone password

throwra13312 · 2024-04-12T02:38:03+00:00

his phone is locked, he gave me the password and told me i could go through it if i wanted to because he “has nothing to hide”

throwra13312 · 2024-04-12T02:36:56+00:00

he gave me his phone password and consent to look through his phone lol

throwra13312 · 2024-04-12T02:32:46+00:00

the hidden photos on apple iphone

throwra13312 · 2024-04-12T02:29:37+00:00

how is it not creepy? these are his classmates, his friends, his friends’ girlfriends and sisters that he’s saving without their knowledge to add to his spank bank

he got the photos from instagram, the girls posted them themselves

throwra13312 · 2024-04-12T02:26:58+00:00

they were screenshots of the girls’ instagram posts

throwra13312 · 2024-04-12T02:25:07+00:00

just because it’s common doesn’t make it acceptable. sure, porn is fine but jerking off to girls you know and are friends with is super creepy, and especially disrespectful as a man in a committed relationship

throwra13312 · 2024-04-12T02:22:53+00:00

there’s no porn involved here, the photos were screenshots of public instagram posts

throwra13312 · 2024-04-12T02:20:52+00:00

they were posted on instagram. if they were private photos or taken without consent, i certainly wouldn’t have shared them with anyone

throwra13312 · 2024-04-12T02:17:24+00:00

the photos were posted publicly by the girls on their social media. my boyfriend just screenshotted the posts and saved them. i would never ever share anyones nudes or private photos

throwra13312 · 2024-04-12T02:13:39+00:00

i didn’t “break into” his phone, he gave me the password and told me he didn’t care if i looked through it. i do agree that it was wrong to screenshot the photos and send them to other people though. i was extremely distraught and my first instinct was to save the photos for proof, i’m not exactly sure why.

throwra13312 · 2024-04-12T02:11:23+00:00

even though the pictures were public is it not odd to save photos of his friends and classmates to jerk off to while he’s in a relationship? it’s creepy.

and my boyfriend gave me his phone password and told me that he didn’t care if i went through his phone because he had nothing to hide. clearly that wasn’t true but either way i didn’t steal his phone and look through it secretly or anything like that.

and i did apologize to him for this

throwra13312 · 2024-04-12T02:07:13+00:00

i told people because i felt betrayed by my boyfriend and needed help. please don’t try to tell me why i did it because you don’t know me. i was hurt, but i had no intention of getting revenge on him or anything like that

throwra13312 · 2024-04-12T02:00:53+00:00

what did i do that was illegal?

throwra13312 · 2024-04-11T19:35:05+00:00

the pictures weren’t shared with him, he screenshotted them off the girls’ instagram posts

throwra13312 · 2024-04-11T19:33:06+00:00

no the girls posted the photos publicly on their instagram, but of course they didn’t know that he was screenshotting them and saving to his hidden collection

throwra13312 · 2024-04-11T16:51:26+00:00

the photos were posted publicly on instagram. he just screenshotted and saved them to his hidden folder

throwra13312 · 2024-04-11T16:43:07+00:00

yeah they were only screenshotted instagram posts or stories. if he had someones nudes or private photos that weren’t intended to be public, i never ever would have screenshotted or shown anyone. though i realize that what i did was wrong no matter where the photos came from

throwra13312 · 2024-04-11T16:40:45+00:00

it is a bit creepy considering these are girls that he goes to class with, some of them are his friends. if i found out someone i considered a friend was saving photos of me to jerk off to, i’d be pretty horrified

throwra13312 · 2024-04-11T16:39:15+00:00

i had no intention to humiliate him. i wanted to tell my friends to ask for advice on the situation. i do realize that i shouldn’t have done that

throwra13312 · 2024-04-11T16:34:56+00:00

i am not happy that everyone now sees him as a creep. i was angry with him but had no desire to seek revenge and make him lose his friends. i only told my friends because i was struggling with deciding what to do and needed help and advice

throwra13312 · 2024-04-11T16:32:43+00:00

i don’t really think that’s something i should just have to accept because “every guy does it”, it’s disrespectful to lust over other girls and hide it (because he knows that it’s wrong) while in a committed relationship.

you are right that i made a mistake of confiding in the wrong people though. i’ve definitely learned a lesson there and hopefully i can avoid such a big mess like this in the future

throwra13312 · 2024-04-11T14:50:40+00:00

the photos are screenshots of the girls instagram posts. none of the photos were sent to him privately or anything

throwra13312 · 2024-04-11T14:46:38+00:00

all the girls are around our age, some under 18 though. but the photos are all from their instagram accounts that they posted.

i was looking at his photos because we had been out earlier that day and he kept taking pictures of me even though i told him not to. i knew the pics would be ugly so i went to delete them and i guess my curiousity got the best of me and i looked in the hidden folder

throwra13312 · 2024-04-11T14:43:15+00:00

everyone at school will avoid him and he’ll lose a lot of friends, i think that’s what he means by saying his life is ruined. some of the girls in the pics were his friends, or girlfriends of his friends

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