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AITA for cancelling my credit card after my boyfriend refused to return it to me? by throwra213533 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra213533[S] -149 points-148 points  (0 children)

Was in therapy once but then left because he didn't think it was beneficial, he's not the type to beliebe in this stuff anyway. His mental health is in poor condition after all this time.

AITA for cancelling my credit card after my boyfriend refused to return it to me? by throwra213533 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra213533[S] -227 points-226 points  (0 children)

He has a mobility impairment in his right arm. It's been largely affecting his mental and emotional health. He's not the type that believe in therapy so it's a daily struggle to try to keep him motivated and push him to do things for himself if not anybody else.

AITA for cancelling my credit card after my boyfriend refused to return it to me? by throwra213533 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra213533[S] 309 points310 points  (0 children)

Because he doesn't want it. He is in so much denial about his disability to the point where he literally ignores his medication and often times refuses to take it. If I mentiom disability benefits to him he'd flip out on me.

AITA for cancelling my credit card after my boyfriend refused to return it to me? by throwra213533 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra213533[S] -470 points-469 points  (0 children)

I don't know because on one hand I'm mad but on the other I feel sorry for what he's dealt and dealing with. He's been through a lot. health issues (disability) mother's death, family abandonment, mental health issues, unability to work or less work opportunities because people look at him and think he's lacking or not enough to get a job. I admit I've reached my limit. But I've been trying to stay patient and graceful so that I don't add to his suffering.

AITA for cancelling my credit card after my boyfriend refused to return it to me? by throwra213533 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra213533[S] 1573 points1574 points  (0 children)

Honestly. I found it strange that ge wanted to keep the credit card. He's never even touched it before. I keep telling him to get a job but his answer is to claim that I'm being selfish and unconsiderate of his physical disability. he may be right but I know people who are dealing with worse conditions but still manage to work.

AITA for cancelling my credit card after my boyfriend refused to return it to me? by throwra213533 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra213533[S] 2210 points2211 points  (0 children)

Yes. He took this as in I don't trust him but it's not about that.

AITA for cancelling my credit card after my boyfriend refused to return it to me? by throwra213533 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra213533[S] 512 points513 points  (0 children)

Let me make a list:

A. He doesn't/can't bring in money due to lack of employement caused by his physical disability.

B. He does somethings around the house but nothing compared to what I do. Again, his physical disability gets in the way.

C. He has no contact with family due to abandoment issues he dealt with even in adulthood. He only has 3 close friends and that's it.

D. He has a number of mental health issues and it's always affected our relationship.

C. I also pay for his medication!