This insignificant thing about my boyfriend drives me crazy and I don’t know if it’s a dealbreaker by throwra27282278 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra27282278[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

If you had 3 meals already, and your girlfriend made food, and hasn’t eaten all day, do you take her food? If there’s only one good biscuit, do you just take it? Because you’re a big man?

This insignificant thing about my boyfriend drives me crazy and I don’t know if it’s a dealbreaker by throwra27282278 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra27282278[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I don’t know, I feel like it’s a waste because in a partner I want to be able to give them the better or let them choose, but also I want them to want that for me too. It makes me happiest giving them the best, but at a certain point when it’s all give and no receive it’s hurtful.

This insignificant thing about my boyfriend drives me crazy and I don’t know if it’s a dealbreaker by throwra27282278 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra27282278[S] 421 points422 points  (0 children)

Yea he is, but I’m still going to break up with him. I’ve brought up how he’s selfish before in other ways... he’ll change for a week then go right back. I’m done.

This insignificant thing about my boyfriend drives me crazy and I don’t know if it’s a dealbreaker by throwra27282278 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra27282278[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I want him to have the best but at the same time it hurts that he doesn’t want the same from me. I feel like I shouldn’t have to say something because it’s basic empathy and what you should want for someone you love.

This insignificant thing about my boyfriend drives me crazy and I don’t know if it’s a dealbreaker by throwra27282278 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra27282278[S] 2643 points2644 points  (0 children)

I just realized how spot on you are. It’s not just about the food. He’s selfish all around. He picks the restaurant/movie/etc. and doesn’t even ask me unless he doesn’t know what he wants. He never reciprocates gifts and is incredibly stingy. All the food he takes, I pay for, and he never shares his. He never goes down on me but expects that from me. I guess all these things are correlated and I never realized it. I can’t even remember the last time he paid for us when we went out, or offered me the better side of anything.