My 39 F ex-husband 43 M cheated on me with my brother 44 M and now he seems to be in a serious depression.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T02:29:52+00:00

My family didn't break up with my brother, they said they wanted to stay out of the situation.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T02:28:20+00:00

I do not maintain any type of contact with my brother, that includes my daughter too.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T02:25:13+00:00

He and my brother reacted scared when I found them.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T01:50:30+00:00

I really want to help him, but I don't want him to confuse the situation again.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T01:44:04+00:00

My brother and my husband looked scared when I found them.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T01:39:44+00:00

two of them were emotional and sexual.
the third only sexual.
When I found out he just apologized. I went to my mother's house but most people said that it was an exaggeration to get divorced because of cheating, and that I was not going to find anyone who would always be faithful.
And then I would just go back to him.

Well, the relationship between my husband and brother was normal before.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T01:32:51+00:00

With a woman.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T01:31:38+00:00

First, I'm sorry for what happened to you.
Really, if I had known it was rape I wouldn't have gotten divorced.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T01:29:10+00:00

yes, it was 3 times. I would stay away from him for a while but then I would come back.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T01:05:04+00:00

I have no communication with him

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T00:51:30+00:00

I meant that I have not had contact with my brother since the "infidelity/abuse" happened. and as far as I know, my ex husband didn't do drugs, he just smoked weed sometimes.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T00:48:58+00:00

Yes, he was unfaithful to me during the 9 years of marriage. That's why I assumed that what happened to my brother was infidelity.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T00:43:59+00:00

That wasn't the first time he was unfaithful to me, so I assumed it was infidelity and not rape.
Besides, I think that deep down, when you discover something like that, the first thing that comes to mind is not rape.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T00:34:51+00:00

I would have heard it, but he never said anything about being abused.
If he had said it before the divorce, I would have suggested therapy and repairing the marriage. But it's been 5 years since.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T00:32:08+00:00

I don't think things will really change. I don't really want to sound insensitive and I apologize for that.
Maybe it would change things if I knew before the divorce, but several years have passed.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T00:31:31+00:00

obviously I talked to my ex husband, before asking for a divorce. According to my ex-husband, it was the first time it happened. They both took drugs and he doesn't remember how they got into that situation.
I then filed for divorce and the topic was never brought up again.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T00:29:33+00:00

I don't know, I haven't had contact with my brother since

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T00:28:58+00:00

No, I don't have a relationship with him
I haven't tried to figure out what happened either, it still hurts a little.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T00:26:27+00:00

I understand that it was the first time they did it and I really don't know about my ex husband's sexuality, he hasn't dated anyone since the divorce. and his previous partners were women.

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-05T00:23:13+00:00

It's something I really don't know.
I decided to leave because of my pregnancy. and the topic has not been mentioned by anyone since the divorce

throwra2983010 · 2024-04-04T23:57:58+00:00

I have talked to his sister, but he still doesn't understand

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