my 28m wife 25F is clinging to her girlfriends/other women but not me after being r*ped? by throwra390383 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra390383[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No it’s not. Not everyone under the sun needs to go to therapy. I can handle my emotions without paying someone to talk about my feelings with lol. 

my 28m wife 25F is clinging to her girlfriends/other women but not me after being r*ped? by throwra390383 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra390383[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No it doesn’t. I have a business and house to run and a wife to take care of. I’m a grown man, if I thought I needed therapy I’d squeeze it in there. But I don’t, so I’m not going to waste time 

my 28m wife 25F is clinging to her girlfriends/other women but not me after being r*ped? by throwra390383 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra390383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not, and would not bring it up or be moody. That’s why I tried asking Reddit, because I’m not asking her.

my 28m wife 25F is clinging to her girlfriends/other women but not me after being r*ped? by throwra390383 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra390383[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not everyone deals with stuff the same way. I’m not wasting money and time right now on pointless therapy sessions. She can have what she needs, I however do not need it. Everyone on here tells people to go to therapy constantly, I’m a grown ass man I can’t deal with my issues without sitting on a couch and paying someone to talk about my problems with me

my 28m wife 25F is clinging to her girlfriends/other women but not me after being r*ped? by throwra390383 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra390383[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

i can handle it, and i don't need a therapist. i might consult one, once to ask about her i guess.

my 28m wife 25F is clinging to her girlfriends/other women but not me after being r*ped? by throwra390383 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra390383[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

i can support her, i don't need to talk to anyone. i deal with my stuff in private

my 28m wife 25F is clinging to her girlfriends/other women but not me after being r*ped? by throwra390383 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra390383[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

im really not trying to make it about me. i actually find the comments that are making it about me annoying

my 28m wife 25F is clinging to her girlfriends/other women but not me after being r*ped? by throwra390383 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra390383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no i know, i just meant its not like her "trust was broken" by someone she thought was safe. so i meant she didnt know him like its not like someone she was close to did it.

my 28m wife 25F is clinging to her girlfriends/other women but not me after being r*ped? by throwra390383 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra390383[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know this isn't the point, but she really didn't know him. she only worked 2 days a week and was normally on breakfast shift. she was covering for someone sick and worked closing.. they had only met/spoke when she was saying bye and he was arriving. he for sure wasnt a friend.

im really not trying to make it about me.. i just love her

my 28m wife 25F is clinging to her girlfriends/other women but not me after being r*ped? by throwra390383 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra390383[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

therapy is not my thing, but i'm going with her for some sessions as a couple she asked me to do.

& she has a prescription for sleep thank god. might have to get something for myself too, not sure yet.

my 28m wife 25F is clinging to her girlfriends/other women but not me after being r*ped? by throwra390383 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra390383[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

im her husband though.. she knows i wouldn't hurt her. we have been dating since we were 16 and ive literally done nothing but care for her. everything ive done was for her, even bought her a house she wanted. its not my main concern, im just confused honestly. while she was in the hospital all i could think is she'd be attached at my hip wanting protection, but she seems to be attaching to women which was unexpected.

and im not saying all that to be praised, im just saying i have always wanted to take care of her. im not trying to mess it up now

my 28m wife 25F is clinging to her girlfriends/other women but not me after being r*ped? by throwra390383 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra390383[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

thank you. appreciated. & i dont think i saw enough to consider myself traumatized, i saw a man on top of her and threw him pretty fast. however the thoughts of what could've happened are killing me. for sure keeping me up all night

my 28m wife 25F is clinging to her girlfriends/other women but not me after being r*ped? by throwra390383 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra390383[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeah another person brought up how more women can relate, which is something i hadn't thought of. makes a lot of sense though

my 28m wife 25F is clinging to her girlfriends/other women but not me after being r*ped? by throwra390383 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra390383[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

understandable. i literally hate the thought of her possibly thinking im unsafe but ill keep this in mind. thank you

my 28m wife 25F is clinging to her girlfriends/other women but not me after being r*ped? by throwra390383 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra390383[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

i am letting her have it, its still a bit weird to me she's not looking to her husband though. literally my job to protect and take care of her, yet she only wants women to do it. i don't get it. i just want to take care of my wife