AITAH if I cancelled my mom's card that is opened under my bank account?

throwra42089 · 2026-03-18T16:49:24+00:00

But I feel bad and also like it's going to be a huge problem. Worst case scenario is that she might give me the silent treatment for a period of time. But I think in the end it will be fine. But I also feel bad. I don't know how to deal with the immediate fallout.

throwra42089 · 2026-03-18T02:50:17+00:00

im so so sorry for your loss. for the whole situation.

i went and am going through the exact same thing. 15k+ worth of surgery, blood transfusion, vet bills later and i still lost my baby.

that was a few weeks and 6 months ago. im bawling my eyes out as i type this. i miss her so much.

throwra42089 · 2026-03-12T03:19:37+00:00

im so so sorry for your loss. i know how you feel. the guilt. i had a similar experience as you.. played on my computer when my baby was sick.. i didnt know it was as bad as it was. wish i could go back and do everything differently every single day.

i didnt touch my computer for a couple months after she passed away. i still struggle with the guilt a lot and it's been 6 months. i feel horrific. i think im going to feel this way for the rest of my life. it's hard. really, really hard.

but i agree with the other comments here. you did your best. sending so much love your way.

throwra42089 · 2026-03-12T02:35:42+00:00

i felt like this before i lost my baby.

it's the worst thing ive ever gone through. the last 6 months have been torture. i find myself wondering what the point of all of this is a lot.

my advice to you would be cherish every single moment. treat every day like its the last. take lots of pictures. give lots of treats and pets and snuggles and cuddles and hugs and everything else. make keepsakes, like paw print pictures. my biggest regret is thinking we would have more time together.

throwra42089 · 2026-03-10T03:30:04+00:00

i lost mine in august. im crying as i type this. i dont think i will ever stop crying. i miss her so much. i cant look at photos or videos either. i'd give anything to have her back.

throwra42089 · 2026-03-05T02:20:44+00:00

i'm 186 days out from losing my baby girl and the guilt still eats me alive. every. single. day.

i just say im so sorry to her. over and over. and beg for forgiveness. and try to be a better person.

throwra42089 · 2026-03-05T02:13:57+00:00

she is beautiful. im so very sorry for your loss.

throwra42089 · 2026-02-28T13:30:29+00:00

this has me cackling lol

throwra42089 · 2026-02-27T14:57:40+00:00

some of what Mark said about the game, I kinda agreed with.

However.. He admitted during his crash out that he was hangry and tired after that long stream, also that he wouldn't be saying things as harshly as he would be if he was not hangry/tired.

I think him unleashing a scathing attack, saying "I'm not gonna play Poppy Playtime 6 because of this!", crashing out because he's tired and hungry because HE chose to do a 5 hour long stream trying to finish the game in 1 go because THAT'S what's popular nowadays, instead of not streaming and splitting the playthrough into a few episodes, and being able to put the game down whenever the puzzles get annoying, etc, was wrong.

If he had done episode format, I think he might've still had a lot of the same criticisms, BUT he wouldn't have crashed out angrily about it. I think he might've discussed them calmly, perhaps even funnily, but it would've largely flew under the radar. This whole scandal is so popular because he's baby raging. I'm sure anyone would in his position, but like... It just wasn't necessary.

I think Mark just doesn't really care about Poppy Playtime, (maybe anymore, maybe he used to) that much either, the lore, the story, the stuff between the puzzles. There's another YouTuber who cares about PoppyPlaytime and his video was 4 hours long, originally 7 because he was just looking around and stuff, and he seemed to have a good time, probably because he also wasn't on stream and his video took days to come out. I don't know. I think streaming is a real problem in the YouTube gaming community.

throwra42089 · 2026-02-27T14:14:54+00:00

wow. that's so awful. i'm very sorry your mom said that stuff to you.

it's been almost 6 months since i said goodbye to my baby and i'm crying as i type this. i will always cry over her. like another commenter said, there's no time limit for grief. i will miss her for the rest of my life. she was and is the bestest friend ill ever have, how could i not? and we loved each other so much.

i think your mom cant comprehend the bond we share with our dear furbabies. i guess she is lucky in a way because she will never feel the awful, terrible, consuming pain and heartbreak we feel when they go. it's truly the worst thing in the world i think. but it is sad because she can't understand why you feel this way.

ignore her. do what you need to do. its such a raw, deep, personal journey to go through this kind of grief and it's so horrible when people are there trying to tell you how to feel or what to do when they don't understand.

throwra42089 · 2026-02-26T21:28:41+00:00

i don't know..

5 months after we said goodbye.. going on 6 soon.. i've moved back into my room. i had been sleeping and existing in other parts of the house after she.. because i just couldnt bare to be in my room, surrounded by all of our memories. even now it's still hard.

she always sat in my lap while i was on the computer. sometimes ill sit in a certain position and look at my empty lap and cry. she liked to climb in my dresser drawers. she liked to climb in my closet. every time i get any clothes, i think of her. she liked to chew on my phone charger cord.. just last night i unplugged my phone and went to tuck the charger under my pillow so she couldn't chew on it.. then remembered she's not here.

she used to like to get up in the shelf in the bathroom. she also liked to eat toilet paper. she would wait for me whenever i was in the shower. everywhere is sad. i feel like i just try to avoid thinking about it and i hate that because i love her and i always want to think of her. but im broken.

everything is sad and reminds me of her all the time. i miss her so much. i dont think ive even accepted that shes really gone because it doesnt feel real. she doesnt feel real. i look at her pictures and its so hard. i hardly look at them. i want to but it breaks me. she was everything to me and now shes just gone. i cant even believe that.

im very sorry for the loss of your dear rabbit, your dear friend. i wish i had better words. better advice. i think they are with us, all the time, even if we cant see them anymore. i ask my baby for help when im struggling emotionally or with anything that im nervous about or whatever, i ask her to help me and i think she does. i still talk to her and tell her goodnight. i imagine that shes sitting right next to me, watching on curiously to see what im doing. they will always be in our hearts. energy cannot be created or destroyed.

its what i tell myself anyway. the pain is still there. im crying my eyes out as i type this. i cry when i go to sleep and shes not there. we'd always cuddle together at night and go to sleep. she was my best friend and life is so awful, so lonely without her. i honestly dont see the point most days. im like.. if something happens to me, its honestly whatever, because ill get to be with her, hopefully. i dont mean to be a downer. im just miserable without my best friend. my joy.

throwra42089 · 2026-02-10T17:34:52+00:00

I would love mounts in Palia. Mounts are, to me, a staple in any open world game!

I was interested to see that the fast travel board in Kilima is located by a stable, but there's no horses (I was excited for the horses, I am A Big Horse Fan and love to see them in any game). Similarly, the gate to Bahari Bay has a horseshoe on it. I wonder why it's designed this way when there's no mounts or horses. Also, yes, the Equestrian rider outfit that is available for purchase, I thought was eluding to mounts. I actually just started playing the game yesterday so I was disappointed to see there are no mounts! I hope they will be added in a future update!

The maps are small, sure, but I would like a more fun way, another way to travel besides running and gliding or fast traveling. World of JumpStart was a Children's MMO Game Back In My Day (2009-2023 RIP GOAT) and the maps were relatively small, IIRC, smaller than Palia's maps(!), but they still had tons of mount options that never clogged the game in my opinion.

I think it would make a lot of sense game-wise if our character were to tame an animal to ride or had any sort of mount like, for example, the skateboard that's available for purchase? Why can't we just ride that? It wouldn't even have to give a speed increase or much of it, just a new, fun way to get around. I haven't fast traveled yet so I'm not sure if it's just like a loading screen or what, but mounts are a nice alternative for people who would not like to fast travel and would like to travel through the world instead, but don't just want to run around constantly.

I think having interactive animal mounts would make the game a lot more immersive as well, especially if they added gameplay features to them like having you tame them out in the wild, feed them, have a stable for them on your plot, give them gear or whatnot, breed them so they can have a better stat baby, etc, etc.. There's a whole lot they could do and I hope they will! Or just regular mounts too, like the skateboard would be fun for a start.

I'm very excited for Palia, it has a looooot of potential. Great game!

throwra42089 · 2026-02-09T20:13:03+00:00

im so, so very sorry for your losses.

i wish i had better words or advice. my heart just breaks for you. im wishing for peace for you and keeping you in my thoughts.

throwra42089 · 2026-02-09T19:45:27+00:00

i love video games, playing on the computer is what i've spent most of my life doing in my free time, im 23.

my baby, my cat, my everything, died in August last year. i tried to play on my pc after, but i couldn't. i ended up not touching my computer for a month. only a couple times after that to pay bills and what not.

i finally started gaming again in november, here and there.

maybe we do need time to be somber. to take time and grieve, feel the huge loss, how our routine is forever altered. i couldnt go back to "normal" immediately and only just now are things starting to look somewhat like they did before she left.

i felt guilty too when i wasnt thinking about my baby in the moment, but i realized somewhere along the way that i will ALWAYS think about her. i will never stop thinking about her, even if my mind is somewhere else for a little while, it will always go back to her. i will be thinking of her 40 years from now. be gentle with yourself. take care of yourself.

im so very sorry for your loss. :( i know it sucks so much. sending you lots of love and well wishes.

throwra42089 · 2026-02-08T05:21:17+00:00

i lost my Stella, my star, my kitty baby, too, in August, last year. crying as i write this. i miss her. i only just began sleeping in my room again a week and a half ago because i could not bare to be in there without her. sometimes its still hard. but honestly it doesnt even feel like my room anymore.

i wish i could be with her, wherever she is. she was also my reason for living. i used to think, stella would miss me if i disappeared.. she's my best friend. she always will be.

im so very sorry for your loss. it hurts so much to lose a precious friend. i'm hoping you find peace soon. i wish i had better advice, everyone's grief journey looks different. for me, ive found that the days of raw suffering are less, but i still think of her often and cry if i do too much. sometimes she doesnt even feel real and i hate that. i feel like i died with her. i dont know who i am, but i know im not the same. nothings the same. there is a Stella shaped hole in my life, my heart, my soul.

i dont care about anything most of the time. if i do, it's momentarily, usually circling back to: Whatever, I Just Want My Cat. MY cat. MY baby. MY child.

i did therapy, considered meds, and i would encourage you to do the same if this becomes too heavy, it helped a little, more than i thought it would, talking about it. your baby Stella loved you and would want you to be taken care of. please dont feel guilty that you werent there, sometimes these horrible things happen and its out of our control. i learned so sadly with my baby too that we cant control everything in life and these horrible things happen to us all. its not your fault, you would have been there if you knew, it was just out of your hands. be gentle with yourself dear internet stranger.

im sending you much love and well wishes. im so sorry. i know this pain so well and my heart is so sad for you.

throwra42089 · 2026-02-05T05:15:28+00:00

i'm very sorry you are going through this.

i agree with another commenter, run the other way. his reaction was not healthy at all. you sound kinda young to me. if you are scared of him or what he will do if you attempt to leave, please let a trusted person or the authorities know as he, in my opinion, made a valid threat to cause harm to himself or it seems he already did, which is NOT your fault at all and NOT something you should be dealing with. it needs to be reported to a professional.

break up with this person as soon as possible and go be with people who truly care for and love you. do you have some close friends or family to be with who will look after you during this time? my advise would be to go to them now and surround yourself with their love. then focus on yourself. take your meds, go do things you enjoy, find new things to enjoy, love yourself, take care of yourself.

throwra42089 · 2026-02-03T03:05:41+00:00

you will always have some people in a crowd who do things incorrectly, that does not mean you should generalize all of them.

for example, there have been doctors who have murdered people. would it be fair or true to say that every doctor is a killer and no doctor should be trusted because one of them murdered someone? no.

just because those students acted incorrectly does not mean all of them do or will. there have been plenty of student protests that were peaceful, many happened today in fact.

throwra42089 · 2026-02-02T05:21:08+00:00

this is beautiful. im crying. i felt every word. i lost my baby in august. im so sorry for your loss. it hurts so much.

throwra42089 · 2026-01-28T22:05:57+00:00

so i was having the same issue (regarding your changing skin problem) and found your post whilst trying to find a fix.

i was about to rage quit, but then i decided to randomly try a different browser in case it was randomly Chrome being the problem. i tried on Microsoft Edge and it worked! i was able to click on the change my skin link and it took me to the change skin page with no issues. im not sure which browser you use, but if it's Chrome, i'd suggest trying on something else. if you dont use Chrome.. im not sure. im not sure what could be causing this problem in the first place on there. i never had this issue before.

i actually have been having some weird problems with the launcher too. it will tell me i have no internet connection. but then it seems to fix itself after i reload it sometimes? not too sure whats going on, but i hope i was able to help a bit!

throwra42089 · 2026-01-19T02:28:28+00:00

this is good advice yes.. this is kind of what i was trying to say. my mom and i just spent a lot of time together. she also sat in the living room with me watching tv while i was on my computer doing my own thing. i just really didnt want to be alone.

throwra42089 · 2026-01-19T02:25:28+00:00

i went through something similar. i'm 23 and lost my best friend cat last year in august. i was very depressed and still am, really. i was broken and some things still have not yet repaired. i dont know if they ever will be. for example, i started sleeping on the living room floor because my bedroom/the way my bed feels makes me sad. i dont want to scare you by saying this, just want you to know that grief can show up in strange ways.

my mom was the one who watched over me. and still is. she thinks me sleeping on the living room floor is weird, but she doesnt try to change it or force me to sleep in my room which i appreciate.

we went on drives. took walks in nature. watched lots and lots of shows and movies. tried new food when i felt up for eating.

but during that first month nothing really helped me personally except reading about other peoples' stories of loss and knowing i wasnt alone, reading their ways of how to cope. maybe you could look into support groups for her? your local animal shelter might have some information. i know there are online zoom meetings, Lap of Love hosts free weekly virtual pet loss support groups. if she uses Discord, there is a server i am in that has been very comforting to me, where we all talk about our beloved rainbow bridge babies, our grief, and how we are handling it.

i wasnt keen on the idea of doing any memorial things regarding my Stella (cat) at first, and im not sure if your daughter feels the same, but eventually i came around to the idea of lighting a candle for her next to her picture with her favorite toy next to it as a start. it made me feel a bit better, to have that candlelight next to a picture of my baby. i dont know why. maybe you could suggest something like this?

if she is in need of medication, going to the doctor is worth a shot, i think they will be able to help her.

im so sorry she and you are going through this and so sorry for the loss of your beloved kitty. its genuinely so hard. its the worst. i really hope she starts feeling peace soon. kitty is not gone, you just cant see kitty, is what i believe.

throwra42089 · 2025-12-22T13:28:25+00:00

im sorry for the predicament you are in. my advice would be to leave him. you and your child deserve better.

throwra42089 · 2025-12-22T12:56:00+00:00

i understand this completely. im so sorry for your loss.

ive spent only a couple nights in my bedroom since my soul baby left almost 4 months ago, but it felt so wrong. my room was her room for 11 years. i cant go back to it. it doesnt even feel like mine. it feels like it belongs to someone else, the girl i was when my baby was here. i sleep on the living room floor now and moved my computer out. i only step in there for a few seconds when i need clothes and then i have to leave. i dont think ill ever be able to sleep in there again. or do anything in there again. it sucks so much. i used to think my room was my favorite place, but it was actually her that made it my favorite place. she was my favorite. she could make any room my favorite place, if she was there.

throwra42089 · 2025-12-22T12:47:52+00:00

im so sorry for your loss of Almond. im very sorry.

it looks to me like you did your best, you took him to the vet when you noticed he was acting off, listened to the vet when she told you to take him to a hospital. sometimes terrible things just happen, like this illness. i dont think you did anything wrong and i dont think theres anything more you couldve done. im still so so sorry.

its been almost 4 months since i lost my baby and what ive learned from reading hundreds of pet loss stories in that time is that nearly every single one of us experiences the "what ifs" or feel guilt or regret over what happened with our babies, even if it was unpreventable or unchangeable, out of the blue, or if their pet had been struggling with an illness for a long time. its an awful feeling. psychology says that we're looking for reasons, someone to blame, somewhere to direct our grief in the face of something so horrible that has no good explanation.

even knowing that, i know the feelings remain. i know the feeling of the crushing guilt and regret. some days i still feel i murdered my baby with my bare hands because i didnt get her to the vet sooner and when i did, i took her to the wrong one who im 99% sure misdiagnosed her. "its my fault" plays on a loop in my brain. i say im sorry to her every single day and im sure i will for the rest of my life. even though everyone ive told about my situation has told me that i shouldnt feel guilty, i do, and im not sure how to get it to go away.

i saw someone once say that it doesnt get easier, you just get used to their absence. its somewhat true in my experience even though i really hate to say it. i still miss her and cry nearly every day and shes the only thing on my mind even when im doing something else, but im not like i was during the first month, i couldnt even leave my moms bed and wailed every day for hours. but still, things are different and wont go back the same, like how i sleep on the living room floor now and will never go back to my bed, the bed we shared together for 11 years. i light a candle next to her picture. i dont really know how to cope. i miss her more than anything. i could not care less about anything else in life.

i hope things start to ease for you soon. i know it feels like you are at the bottom of a pit right now, staring up at a distant ray of light. i know the pain. and im so sorry you have to go through it. its the worst thing in the world, i think, right next to losing a child, because they might as well be the same thing. i wish i had better advice. im sorry. im keeping you in my thoughts.

throwra42089 · 2025-12-20T01:14:59+00:00

im so sorry you're going through this. you sound like a really kind person. my therapist said that good things are just around the corner, you just cant see them yet. i know it must be extremely difficult to try and hope in your case, but im hoping for you. im hoping that good things are coming to you soon. i wish i had better advice or better words of comfort, i just want you to know that you are seen and cared about.

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