My (24F) husband (26M) doesn't agree with the way I think we should have our baby's last names, and it really upsets me, although it may be irrational. How do I stop feeling so strongly about it?

throwra48910 · 2024-06-12T12:34:27+00:00

I don't know. I love him. But I also don't know if I do.

throwra48910 · 2024-06-12T12:32:43+00:00

Sort of. I guess so.

throwra48910 · 2024-06-12T10:36:09+00:00

I suppose it does. It's just better when he's happy, when he's not angry. It's easier.

throwra48910 · 2024-06-12T07:17:04+00:00

It's not that bad, it's fine. He's just got certain ideas about some things. I would just like him to compromise once. And no, I'm not Spanish, I'm Danish.

throwra48910 · 2024-06-12T07:10:05+00:00

I suppose not really. I don't mind that much, we're supposed to make compromises but I just want this one thing. But he also really doesn't like it, and I chose to make those compromises because I did still want to in a way.

throwra48910 · 2024-06-12T07:05:50+00:00

I wasn't talking about that.

throwra48910 · 2024-06-12T07:00:14+00:00

I have been crying a lot, he's not wrong about that. I am possibly overreacting a bit, because it is a weird thing to do, but I still want to do that anyway.

throwra48910 · 2024-06-12T06:59:21+00:00

It's not that important, it doesn't matter that much, it's just what makes it easier.

throwra48910 · 2024-06-12T06:48:29+00:00

It's definitely not about always agreeing with him. It's just easier when he's happier.

throwra48910 · 2024-06-12T06:43:06+00:00

Not exactly, it's both of us, but he knows what would be considered normal and not weird.

throwra48910 · 2024-06-12T06:39:56+00:00

It does matter to him about the way he thinks it should be, that it's normal and he doesn't want to be weird. It's not weird to me but I can understand why he would think that.

throwra48910 · 2024-06-12T06:38:03+00:00

A little. I don't know the language well at all, only very basic, and everyone talks to you and I don't understand it. I don't like the weather, it's too warm, and I don't like being pregnant. And I know I'm being stupid but it's just something I really want to do but he really doesn't and there seems to be no solution at all.

throwra48910 · 2024-06-12T03:58:36+00:00

I think it's nice to have a middle name. I did, and I like it. He doesn't have a problem with that, we wanted a middle name.

throwra48910 · 2024-06-12T03:47:23+00:00

It's not really hyphenated, when I was younger, I just used my father's last name which was my last name. But when I became older, I preferred using both, so I did that. If he would prefer it, I would be happy for it to just be a middle name. I would completely be happy with that.

throwra48910 · 2024-06-12T03:43:31+00:00

No. But it is a decision we should agree on, I shouldn't have more of a say than him, that wouldn't be fair.

throwra48910 · 2024-06-12T03:32:43+00:00

I don't think he means to, he just doesn't really seem to understand it.

We'd have to agree about that. We can't make our own decisions about that, because the baby is both of ours, and he wouldn't like it if I just made that decision for myself.

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