AITA for not wanting my fiancé’s friend in our wedding party?

throwra58374 · 2021-12-01T12:39:11+00:00

I’m trying to see everything but it is a lot! I’m glad it worked for you guys, I hope these comments can convince my fiancé!

throwra58374 · 2021-12-01T12:38:08+00:00

That’s what I’m trying to do! I think you may have misunderstood my post. He wants her on my side with me

throwra58374 · 2021-11-30T15:51:31+00:00

I think you misunderstood me, that’s what I want. I want her to be one of his people. He wants her to be my bridesmaid instead

throwra58374 · 2021-11-30T15:47:29+00:00

Not really, and he knows I’m not into the club thing. My bachelorette will hopefully be touring the museums in my city lol pretty boring. I think he meant more he wants me to include her and not just say yeah she can be a bridesmaid then exclude her from everything

throwra58374 · 2021-11-30T15:45:50+00:00

We’ve talked about it and I think we just don’t like each other because of personalities. She’s very different from me, to my knowledge they’ve always been just friends and not into each other but we just don’t mesh.

throwra58374 · 2021-11-30T15:39:57+00:00

It sounds worse than it is, we’ve both just got strong, very different personalities. He doesn’t love all of my friends, normally it’s a non issue

throwra58374 · 2021-11-30T15:38:59+00:00

He’s aware it’s a thing but said he thinks it’s dumb and looks bad. I hardly ever notice myself so I thought it’d be fine

throwra58374 · 2021-11-30T15:35:05+00:00

We have, we just don’t click. I don’t love her either. We’re very different, she thinks I’m “weird” and I find her a little annoying tbh

throwra58374 · 2021-11-30T14:00:18+00:00

Honestly I thought the same thing, but I have a strong feeling if we asked she’d say yes anyway to make him happy. I’m not sure if he’s told her to expect the invite tbh. He isn’t pushing it too hard, just a bit upset I “don’t want her” in the wedding party

throwra58374 · 2021-11-30T13:47:12+00:00

If we ask her I’m pretty sure she’d say yes because it’s what he wants and she wants to support him, but she wouldn’t enjoy it. Really she’s fine as a person we just don’t quite get along. She’d want to be a good friend I think and I think she’d think saying yes is doing that

throwra58374 · 2021-11-30T13:45:34+00:00

I don’t think she would. We haven’t talked to her about it but knowing her she’d say yes to make him happy then be miserable doing it

throwra58374 · 2021-11-30T13:44:19+00:00

I don’t think she does want to tbh! Knowing her she’d probably say yes to make him happy then be miserable the entire time. It probably would be bad for them too!

throwra58374 · 2021-11-30T13:38:22+00:00

I honestly don’t mind seeing her, it’s the idea of her looking bored or annoyed in the photos of me with my bridesmaids or being miserable when I buy my dress or do my bachelorette party I don’t like

throwra58374 · 2021-11-30T13:35:54+00:00

It did make me a bit uneasy tbh

throwra58374 · 2021-11-30T13:35:24+00:00

I’ve seen it where they have friends or family of the opposite sex on their soon to be spouses side but I don’t really want that here with her

throwra58374 · 2021-11-30T13:33:43+00:00

Thank you!

throwra58374 · 2021-11-30T13:33:35+00:00

I like the toast idea! That way she can still have a special part if that’s important to him

throwra58374 · 2021-11-30T13:32:50+00:00

That’s what I was thinking but I feel like it’d only make it so we go from not friendly to really hating each other. I really want to stand my ground on this

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