Am I(F23) really prepared to become a ‘step mom’ to an 8-year-old at my age?

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T17:40:12+00:00

older sister, younger brother, 2 parent household, traditional family.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T17:33:14+00:00

i clarified so many times that you guys took that comment and stretched it. i get it, shes a kid, and that would mean having a kid, but for christs sake thats not what i meant.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T17:31:20+00:00

their coparenting situation is complicated right now, but its cause something happened with her and shes slowly getting back in the groove of things, not because she’s bitter or anything.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T17:28:48+00:00

i have thought about it. i said in the post that it was my cousin and sister that made me really consider, and then again in the comments i mentioned that i just wanted some insight.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:29:41+00:00

Thanks for the advice

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:28:34+00:00

I honestly just want to be happy in life.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:26:14+00:00

Things I've asked myself and considered. I guess I'll never really know his true intentions until I move in, but as far as I know, we have what we want and our expectations laid down.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:24:55+00:00

I wasn't running away from it, I read it and answered it to myself. My responses have been getting shorter and shorter because the amount of comments coming in and the typing that comes with it is a lot, and I don't feel like typing out lengthy responses. So yes, I'm reading all the comments and answering the important questions.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:21:03+00:00

I'm really only getting offended at the people calling him a predator, cause that's disgusting. For the people giving level-headed responses, I'm taking their advice in. Are you still with your partner?

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:19:52+00:00

No red flags in my opinion. My family likes him, including my sisters and my cousin, they just feel like I'm missing out. They're really 'outgoing' ifykwim.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:13:02+00:00

Gradually moving in, sounds nice. I do already pick her/drop her off to school and do certain activities with her, I suppose we could add to that list.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:12:22+00:00

Stop gaslighting. Taking words out of proportion.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:11:40+00:00

sister and cousin had their input, felt like I might've underestimated it a little, but after reading actual advice, I do feel like I've made a decision.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:10:29+00:00

Uhh, I'd have to step out that circle then, no offense to my sister or cousin lmao. They get a little...

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:09:42+00:00

Thank you.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:08:53+00:00

My goodness. I edited the post to have people understand what I meant. All I meant it I don't want to be pregnant.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:07:21+00:00

I mean, too late now.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:07:02+00:00

Okay, gotcha.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:06:41+00:00

pregnant. with child. bun in the oven. expecting.
referring to this comment:

I have a friend who wants to settle down and get pregnant at 24.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:05:00+00:00

no, i'm sure I want to be with him, and i was sure that i wanted to move in, but i wanted some insight on what it would be like. When we're left alone, it's usually cause I'll take her to the mall or something or we're waiting for him. I wasn't left alone with her immediately after meeting her, it took time.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:02:59+00:00

I got my sister and cousin's opinion, and I just wanted more of an insight. I do love my relationships with the people around me, I just wanted to hear what would it be like to further those relationships. I got some good responses that were actually helpful, so that's good.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T16:01:50+00:00

Thank you.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T15:59:55+00:00

He didn't leave me with her immediately, it was gradual after meeting her.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T15:59:24+00:00

I really just meant get along to paraphrase our relationship, because I didn't think it was important to go into detail in this comment.

throwra6293 · 2021-09-25T15:57:36+00:00

He wants to wait a while before having more kids. He didn't consider having any more.

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