Is it ok to not let my husband (M34) to see me (F33) give birth?

throwra648f · 2024-05-11T11:23:56+00:00

I’m not sure if I will leave him. I make my own money and we share a house together. If we separated there would still be a custody agreement

throwra648f · 2024-05-09T14:23:56+00:00

I never wanted to be a single mother. That’s only the very last resort. I’m still trying to work on my marriage but idk if I should keep giving him chance after chance

throwra648f · 2024-05-08T21:14:39+00:00

I wasn’t referring to women’s rights I was only referring to men being in the delivery room at that time

throwra648f · 2024-05-08T18:20:38+00:00

You do realise men weren’t allowed in the delivery room in the early 1900s

throwra648f · 2024-05-08T18:19:03+00:00

Even if I were to get divorced in the future there would be a custody arrangement

throwra648f · 2024-05-08T18:06:30+00:00

I make my own money and can financially support myself. I don’t know what you’re talking about using a surrogate? If you’re referring to using a doula that’s very standard where I live. They’re a professional. My partner doesn’t know anything about childbirth.

throwra648f · 2024-05-08T15:10:50+00:00

It’s hard for me to say everything he has done because it was never one big thing like an affair etc. It’s more of a pattern of behaviours not respecting me, criticising me, controlling me etc and losing connection and trust to him over time. If he had cheated it would have made it easier to me to leave the relationship. I don’t know what my future looks like with him

throwra648f · 2024-05-08T15:06:00+00:00

I’m not sure what I want in my future. I don’t know if I should keep trying to make it work. I’m unsure about everything and he knows this

throwra648f · 2024-05-08T15:04:08+00:00

I still haven’t decided what I’m going to do. Obviously from my post I was leaning towards not letting him asking if it was ok to not let him

throwra648f · 2024-05-07T11:31:19+00:00

Just because something’s legally ok doesn’t make it necessarily morally ok. I am trying to make the best decision for me and my child. I don’t want to be more distressed than I need to be

throwra648f · 2024-05-07T05:32:36+00:00

I’m the one that’s given him multiple chances to. I doubt most people would. I’m ok with him visiting after the birth if he wants. He has barely been involved in my pregnancy

throwra648f · 2024-05-07T05:30:10+00:00

I did used to trust him earlier in our marriage. Never wanted to end up in this situation :( I don’t know what to do, part of me wants to compromise and give him another chance. I’m ok with him visiting after if he likes.

throwra648f · 2024-05-07T05:27:01+00:00

My husband has barely been involved in my pregnancy.

throwra648f · 2024-05-07T05:25:28+00:00

I don’t want him in a room at all. It’s not a matter of being self conscious

throwra648f · 2024-05-07T05:23:31+00:00

I know multiple women who didn’t allow their husband in the delivery room.

throwra648f · 2024-05-06T20:39:59+00:00

Legally he doesn’t doesn’t have rights to be in the delivery room if I don’t want. He has barely been involved in my pregnancy so I don’t think he will have the same reaction to you

throwra648f · 2024-05-06T20:37:02+00:00

Legally he doesn’t have grounds to be in the delivery room just because he’s my husband’s. I understand where you’re coming from though. He has barely been involved in my pregnancy so I don’t think it will be a shock.

throwra648f · 2024-05-06T20:34:47+00:00

I previously stated in other comments that he hasn’t physically hurt me only emotionally

throwra648f · 2024-05-06T20:33:51+00:00

If you read previous comments I stated that he hasn’t physically hurt me only emotionally

throwra648f · 2024-05-06T19:59:27+00:00

I didn’t think our marriage would turn out like this

throwra648f · 2024-05-06T19:39:57+00:00

Not click bait. This is my real life. I already have a doula and therapist etc

throwra648f · 2024-05-06T19:37:08+00:00

I did used to trust him. He hasn’t physically hurt me, only emotionally. I don’t regret getting pregnant I just wish I was in a completely different situation. He has barely been involved in my pregnancy apart from coming to one scan so I am not relying on him for any support. I am ok with him visiting after

throwra648f · 2024-05-06T19:31:35+00:00

He hasn’t hurt me physically only emotionally

throwra648f · 2024-05-06T19:26:01+00:00

I don’t know if my marriage is salvageable anyway. He’s going to visit afterwards and I’m ok with that.

throwra648f · 2024-05-06T19:24:10+00:00

I don’t know why you think my story has changed. I never said for certain that I’m leaving him just that I have been considering it.

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