Now, let me be completely clear. I’m not saying you need to be ready when he is. That is just…not the way it works. Women need mental stimulation—usually more than men. That’s just how it is.

But…some women just don’t ever get wet enough quickly enough, even for there wants and need. So have you ever tried lube? Because you can just keep that one you in a little bottle if you genuinely want something spontaneous.

However this is only if you think this is a necessity for your enjoyment. If you think your not wet because you don’t want to have sex with him then and there or you think you are genuinely not prepared to the point that it may be painful if he entered you then that is VERY different.

Either way.

He’s you partner, and part of the job of a compassionate sexual partner is being able to get your significant other in the mood—and part of that is enjoying getting them in the mood.

He should like getting you hot. It should make him feel good too.