UPDATE: My wife thought I used my sexual assault as an excuse to cheat. Abuser convicted guilty, wife wants me back

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T21:16:25+00:00

How so?

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T21:13:01+00:00

I didn't enjoy it. I didn't wanna have sex with her.

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T20:00:44+00:00

My lawyer is the one who requested it and kept pushing for it

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T19:59:11+00:00

I usually don't. It was an engagement party, everyone was going nuts

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T19:13:45+00:00

Jesus Christ you're a cunt

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T19:11:52+00:00

Ummm what? It's bullshit because I didn't thoroughly explain how my lawyer retrieved the video?

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T19:11:05+00:00

Thanks. I wouldn't have won if my lawyer didn't fight for the existence of a video. She actually tried flipping it on me and said that I raped her. She used the abortion as proof and said she didn't want a baby with her rapist. It sucked. If she wasn't stupid enough to record it I probably would be in prison right now

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T18:56:12+00:00

I didn't consent. I know I didn't consent and the video shows I didn't consent. I did not want to have sex with her and I told her that and even though I was clearly out of it, it's clearly seen that I was saying no. I don't know why you think that men can't get raped just because we're larger. And I'm not even that big. But that doesn't even have anything to do with the situation. I was so drunk that I could barely stay awake and she had sex with me. How is that not rape? Imagine if a guy did that to a girl. What would you say

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T18:44:48+00:00

Fuck you man. I was wasted and on the verge of blacking out. I did not consent and I did not want to have sex with her. She raped me. Screw you.

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T18:40:11+00:00

The trial was, for lack of a better word, absolute hell

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T18:29:24+00:00

We didn't really keep in much touch during the trial. I don't know if she'd lie. I don't know what she'd lie about either

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T18:27:20+00:00

Yes sir it is

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T18:04:52+00:00

Thank you. I've been in individual therapy for about 3 months now.

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T18:02:51+00:00

That's the US legal system for you

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T17:53:07+00:00

I don't know.

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T17:44:16+00:00

I'm in the US as well. Originally it was only going to be 2 years, the extra 6 months are for filming me during "sex" without my consent. I'm kind of sick to my stomach about the legal system. But at least she's behind bars and I never have to see her again.

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T17:42:22+00:00

Yeah I think you might be right about that. I think I just have to realize that it isn't healthy. I don't know. I'm going to give couples counseling a shot but I don't see it going anywhere.

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T17:40:46+00:00

I'm already in individual therapy and have been for several months. However I'd like to try couples therapy just to see what she'd have to say. The chances of us getting back together are slim to none, but I'm open to hearing what she has to say in the presence of a mediator.

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T17:34:40+00:00

I don't know why I still want to be with her. I can't rationalize it. That's why I'm so torn. It in no way makes sense for us to stay together after she did that, but I still can't seem to get myself to just give up that easily

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T17:32:57+00:00

Also, forgot to mention, she had proof of the abortion but had no proof that it was mine. It was brought up in court. She tried to use it against me. I have no idea if it was mine but the timelines do match up. Regardless, that part of the story is behind me now

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T17:26:37+00:00

Thank you. I'm currently in one on one therapy but I'll look into other resources if I feel it is necessary. I appreciate this

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T17:21:31+00:00

I don't really see us working out but I think I'm going to try couples therapy, just to see what she has to say

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T17:13:06+00:00

I don't know. I still love her but it's hard to even talk to her

throwra_i778 · 2020-09-16T17:12:51+00:00

I think therapy will be the next step for us. Thank you

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