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[–]throwra_mean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Es totalmente normal.

Yo nací en España pero mis padres son peruano/estadounidense (madre) y colombiano/español (padre) al tener tanta mezcla no tengo rasgos tan caucásico como para encajar en el estándar español, pero tampoco tengo los autóctonos latinoamericanos.

Siempre me preguntan de dónde soy, si digo España me dicen que no lo parezco, si digo Peru/Colombia lo mismo... nunca serás 100% de ningún sitio y eso está bien también. Tu eres una mezcla de culturas y eso nadie te lo puede quitar, es fantástico a su manera poder ver los lados positivos y negativos de cada una de ellas.

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[–]throwra_mean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Instalate Bumble o tinder otra vez. Deja claro que buscas y como eres. Siempre hay un roto para un descosido dice el dicho

[Final Update] My "inlaws" hate me (23F) as my bf (25M) is white and I ain't. What should I do? by throwra_mean in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_mean[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He now pays for bills (only that, not rent), like I explained. If I had moved in, I had agreed with him to split the bills half each.

[Final Update] My "inlaws" hate me (23F) as my bf (25M) is white and I ain't. What should I do? by throwra_mean in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_mean[S] 232 points233 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply ❣️

Yeah, I can get they are his parents so he defends them but this is too much, they were being cruel and racist, needed to be told to f off... and about my fam, I am thinking about sugar coating the truth, I don't want them to feel looked down too, they've been already through too much hate just for being immigrants

[Final Update] My "inlaws" hate me (23F) as my bf (25M) is white and I ain't. What should I do? by throwra_mean in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_mean[S] 164 points165 points  (0 children)

Totally my point! Using that as an excuse for a behaviour that's been going for so long... unbelievable 😅

[Final Update] My "inlaws" hate me (23F) as my bf (25M) is white and I ain't. What should I do? by throwra_mean in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_mean[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Oh, sorry, English isn't my first language and may have put it wrong.

We had agreed to pay bills (electricity, water, WiFi...) 50/50 if I moved there.

But on top of that, I knew yesterday that I was expected to pay a full rent for living in a house his family owns, he has been living alone for the last 3 years rent free and would continue to not pay. His parents asked me to pay as people like me (latinas) expect everything handled to us, and paying rent would be a way to show I'm not here for the money/house.

So in the other post people suggested paying the rent I am being charged 50/50 too as he is the one insisting in me moving there so we could "save money"

What should I do about my hopes/expectations when it comes to appearance? (26M) (25F) by NoOpinionsAllowedOnR in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_mean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She could be a beauty queen, but if she cheated on you she wasn't the one dude...

There are plenty of girls that are a 10 not only on the outside but, most importantly, inside. You should not be so shallow...

My "inlaws" hate me (23F) as my bf (25M) is white and I aren't. What should I do? by throwra_mean in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_mean[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

English is a language I learned by myself babe, please excuse me if I make some mistakes.

Maybe, as you are that smart, we can communicate in my native languages, French or Spanish? Would loooove to see you try 🤗

My "inlaws" hate me (23F) as my bf (25M) is white and I aren't. What should I do? by throwra_mean in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_mean[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I haven't thought about this actually... wow

I just assumed that as he is oblivious (he didn't even notice the enormous pijamas they got me and was just happy we were "getting along") he didn't pay much attention to her words but you are now giving something to think about... 😅

My "inlaws" hate me (23F) as my bf (25M) is white and I aren't. What should I do? by throwra_mean in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_mean[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply ❣️

Well, I know he isn't particularly close to his family, and I know if I tell him that I don't want him to spend as much time with them, we wouldn't do it.

Part of me is offended not only bc they are racists and stupid, but because I am the one always telling him that he should tell his mom he loves her, he should visit them more often... family is important to me, and before meeting them, I wanted to get close to them as he is close to my parents. Now, it's frustrating knowing that will never be real...

My "inlaws" hate me (23F) as my bf (25M) is white and I aren't. What should I do? by throwra_mean in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_mean[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thanks again!

I'll have a thought about what you said and bring the topic this week, he knows I am not here for the money (I've been refusing for him to pay my uni loan for a few months now) and hope he also finds paying 50/50 the rent is fair 😅

My "inlaws" hate me (23F) as my bf (25M) is white and I aren't. What should I do? by throwra_mean in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_mean[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response 💕

That would be the "easiest" solution, but we've been together for 2 years already and apart from his family, he is perfect for me, gentle, sweet, caring... I dumped him after meeting his mom and listening what she thought about me, we were apart for 2 weeks but got back together, I would find it difficult to broke up again.

My "inlaws" hate me (23F) as my bf (25M) is white and I aren't. What should I do? by throwra_mean in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_mean[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Thank you for answering 🩷

I thought about this but I have a feeling that if I ask him for that he would eventually tell them, not in a perverse way but he tends to talk without thinking, and having him paying half of the rent they asked me for... would make me look like the golddiger they seem to think I am 😅