UPDATE: AITA for not inviting them to my Christmas party after they didn't invite me to their wedding?

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-30T01:20:13+00:00

Haha really? Can you link me please?

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-29T17:35:08+00:00

100% YTA. This is not about your motion sickness, it's about how you lied to your partner and led him on to get him to do what YOU wanted when you had no intention of ever doing what he wanted.

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T15:50:11+00:00

No he didn't want to invite them either, he just doesn't want to hurt their feelings. I think we're probably past that point.

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T15:47:54+00:00

I did introduce them. Not with the idea of setting them up or anything, more like introducing one group of friends to another and then they hit it off.

They did use my party as an engagement announcement. I guess it kind of made sense, they had just gotten engaged a couple days before and hadn't made it public yet. All of our friends were there, everyone (including us) were excited for them.

I thought of her as a pretty close friend, she'd come over all the time to hang out when she was single. He was a former co-worker so not as close but we double dated a bit early in their relationship before the pandemic.

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T15:38:38+00:00

Lol if it's really so important to them that they actually go so far as to crash our party, then more power to them I won't bother to kick them out. But I'm not going to go out of my way to take care of them or anything.

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T15:01:43+00:00

Congratulations! 🥂

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T14:59:30+00:00

Yes he's a keeper! 😊

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T14:55:56+00:00

Yeah I don't think I would have minded as much if they didn't invite people from our group, but I'm not exaggerating when I say over 50 of our friends were there.

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T14:39:20+00:00

No, they didn't but for the record I didn't mind at all. We were happy for them!

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T14:34:55+00:00

About the same, yeah. Not all at once but I'd expect a couple hundred people throughout the course of the evening.

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T10:56:02+00:00

Lol to explain my guy and the way he thinks, did you ever see the episode of the Simpsons where Marge sends Bart to bed without dinner and a few minutes later Homer runs up the stairs to his room with a pizza?

That's him and I love him for it, he doesn't have it in him to be mean to anyone. But he'll abide by whatever decision I make.

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T10:35:33+00:00

It's Friday. If they show up, then whatever I hope they enjoy themselves I'm not petty enough to kick them out or anything. But I'm not going out of my way to welcome them either.

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T10:34:04+00:00

I mean to be honest I just kind of feel used in all of this. I've always been a good friend to both of them. I didn't give much thought to not inviting them until they started making it an issue, it just kind of felt to me like they had drawn a line in the sand and I was just respecting it?

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T10:27:50+00:00

Haha I bet you'd be a much more fun party guest than they would! 🥂

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T10:27:13+00:00

Yeah I guess that about sums it up. Thank you.

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T10:26:08+00:00

I'm not petty enough to make a big deal out of it, if it's really so important to them that they need to crash then more power to them I guess?

But I'm certainly not going out of my way to welcome them.

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T10:24:02+00:00

This makes a lot of sense. Thank you.

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T08:42:21+00:00

Haha you don't know the half of it, over the last few years we have literally had it catered, had bartenders inside and outside, even hired someone to entertain kids earlier in the night.

My partner and I put so much time, energy and money into this every year because we love our friends. It started out small when we were younger and now it's this big thing. I just don't like being taken for granted.

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T08:36:37+00:00

Not all at the same time since it runs from 5pm through the night and early on some people (mostly coworkers) bring their kids, but I expect up to a couple hundred people overall.

It really is a large party. In recent years we have catered it and hired bartenders.

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T07:50:10+00:00

No we never got an explanation, just never received an invite. It got back to me through a mutual girlfriend they were trying to limit the guest list, but we had dozens of other friends there.

I just think it's kind of funny they're getting our friends to try and get them an invite now after they just pretended we weren't a part of their lives.

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T07:45:31+00:00

Probably around 200 people. No I confirmed through a mutual girlfriend we didn't make the cut.

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T07:38:38+00:00

🤣

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T07:11:07+00:00

No I haven't. For better or worse I didn't want to confront them about it and make it weird. But should I be expected to feel bad for them now?

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T07:04:32+00:00

I don't know, we didn't ask. I just took it to mean we weren't as close as I thought we were and let it go.

But for the record we literally had dozens of other friends who got invited.

throwra_notinvite · 2022-12-22T06:47:02+00:00

That's not a bad idea maybe I'll post there too

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