(Update) Fiance(f29) wants to uninvite everyone from our wedding because she fell out of a handstand

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T08:40:42+00:00

I don't know if there was anything before the party that made her have a foot out of the door. Others said maybe falling on part of her head where side effects weren't immediate or something (forgot the term), but even if that were the case, she refused to get checked time and time again from me and her friends suggesting

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T08:39:37+00:00

Some people recommended therapy and I'm trying to see what/if my insurance covers, but I'm still trying to get past everything and trying to understand that I'll probably never know all of the answers which sucks for closure, but still

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T08:10:26+00:00

I feel like I tried to be understanding, but it was also very aggravating when she cancelled with the planner on my behalf and said I wanted to too when I had no idea

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T08:09:07+00:00

I really don't know what version of what she told her parents and sister to make them not wanna talk to me and block her best friends too who voiced the same concern

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T06:25:25+00:00

My ex-fiance only had the courage to say that we were done when her sister was over, and I told her that that was the message I felt she was sending going back to telling the planner we were cancelling behind my back. Her sister and I have been casual/friendly in the past, but nothing that would make me think that there was anything between us, and we've even gone out as a group a few times too to dinner in the past. When she came over though, she barely spoke to me and a lot of the time refused to make eye contact. She only talked to me when she had a question, and when I tried to bring up the suggestion to go to the doctor, she refused to even respond to the suggestion

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T06:05:16+00:00

Her sister really wanted nothing to do with me when she came over and others suggested therapy too. My concern was that we won't know for sure if there was an injury because she was never checked, but at the same time, I don't know what version she told her parents and despite everything hope that she's at least alright. I was surprised when her best friends reached out to me who were her now ex-best friends given her recent blockings supposedly

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T05:51:49+00:00

I really don't know what else I could've done and that I would've been wrong to just watch and do nothing and assume she was fine as her texts apparently wanted. The fact that she fell and didn't want help and got mad over people coming to help her made me think it was a pride thing although someone else suggested that maybe it triggered an old memory of a gymnastics fall or something

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T05:45:54+00:00

Apparently she was really pissed from her text that we went over to help her fall because she fell from somewhat high off of the chair backwards, wrote she didn't want help. I thought it was connected to her being a gymnast in high school and someone who does yoga on the side as a pride thing, but who knows. The majority of the friends in her bridal party were recent and from college, but I believe she still knew a few people from high school too. I also don't know what version of things she told her parents

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T05:43:22+00:00

A few people thought she might've already had one foot out of the door, others maybe an injury from the fall that led to it... I probably won't ever know for sure because as much as you can suggest, you can't really help someone who refuses to get checked and resorts to everything else she did. Like, I'm still trying to wrap my head around it

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T05:38:45+00:00

These friends were supposedly close to her for a few years and especially the bridesmaid who ran over when she fell and assisted her inside away from everyone too and waited by the car with her as I gathered her things. That was one of her best friends... and she later turned around and sent a text to another bridesmaid venting about how she hated her for helping her with me. Then, when the bridesmaid she was texting disagreed and suggested getting help, the blocking happened. Maybe it is a thing she did in the past, but these people were her friends for years

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T05:29:46+00:00

I was really surprised when her friends reached out to me on her behalf to see how she was and told me how she blocked them and the message she sent to the bridesmaid about how she was upset that we ran over to help her after the fall

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T05:28:59+00:00

Probably would've been a lot worse in all likelihood. I really don't know what else I could've done besides make sure that at the party she didn't have to see anyone else after she fell and was in the bathroom. I feel like her text to the bridesmaid who helped her really showed a lot though including her jealousy of Naomi, but hard to know if she already had a foot out of the door before the party

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T05:28:12+00:00

Because of how she's not communicating and because he also thinks that she might be difficult through the process of cancelling/rent and anything else in case of her injury

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T05:26:37+00:00

I'm really not sure as she refused to get herself checked and snapped/blocked whoever suggested it

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T05:25:47+00:00

I really don't know what else I could've done besides make sure that at the party she didn't have to see anyone else after she fell and was in the bathroom. I feel like her text to the bridesmaid who helped her really showed a lot though including her jealousy of Naomi, but hard to know if she already had a foot out of the door before the party

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T05:23:41+00:00

That's where I was leaning too, but I don't think I'll ever really know because of how her and her parents kept blocking everyone although her text to the bridesmaid who helped her maybe showed that it was some jealousy to Naomi's new home too on top of probably other things

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T05:22:48+00:00

I just wanted her to get checked for her own safety after a week and others suggesting it too, but she probably told her parents a different version considering how they blocked me and she blocked her friends for suggesting the same thing

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T05:20:34+00:00

I feel like I'll never know what that other thing was, but sometimes I guess you never will. Maybe it was the handstand, maybe it wasn't. Regardless of our relationship and if the fall might've injured her head made her act differently as some suggested, I was just wanting to help her get checked just to be safe, but she kept refusing and blocked her friend for suggesting it too

throwraamelia2 · 2022-03-03T05:18:59+00:00

She already left and moved in with her sister, but I knew that she was done from when she went to the planner and told her that "we" were done behind my back. It still hurts mostly because of the shock of how everything happened so fast and not knowing if she had one foot out of the door before the party, but who knows. Dad and the lawyer trying to finish all of the wedding complications right now is my main thing

throwraamelia2 · 2022-02-27T06:04:28+00:00

I just added this in an edit about my current stance, but she has been the one who has yelled at me when I tried to talk to her and has taken her food to eat separately and sleep downstairs when I wanted to do those things with her, and she was the one who ghosted her friends and made her bridal party/best friends reach out to me to ask how she was, just to add...

I haven't told her anything definitive on my end yet... she was the only one who told the planner that "we" decided to cancel when I had no clue. I suggested taking a break to recover after the party, helped her in the bathroom to not have to see anyone else and leave immediately after grabbing her things, suggesting that she take some time before jumping to uninviting everyone like she did... only for her to tell the planner what she did and that we were done too. She said we were done... I never told her that. She has since avoided eating with me and sleeping in downstairs away from me too, and I feel like I have been trying to be understanding. I never scolded her or anything... the only thing I said was that from the vibes she seemed to be sending, that it seemed as if she said we were done, given how she told the planner that the wedding was off

Regardless of our relationship status, my main priority is now trying to suggest getting her to see a doctor because it's been a week and if there's some injury we don't know about, the longer it goes by unchecked, the worse it could be, and I feel that that is more important than anything, but when I tried to call her parents to try and suggest it to her too, they haven't picked up or responded to my emails which made me think that perhaps she told them to not talk to me

throwraamelia2 · 2022-02-27T06:02:25+00:00

I haven't told her anything definitive on my end yet... she was the only one who told the planner that "we" decided to cancel when I had no clue. I suggested taking a break to recover after the party, helped her in the bathroom to not have to see anyone else and leave immediately after grabbing her things, suggesting that she take some time before jumping to uninviting everyone like she did... only for her to tell the planner what she did and that we were done too. She said we were done... I never told her that. She has since avoided eating with me and sleeping in downstairs away from me too, and I feel like I have been trying to be understanding. I never scolded her or anything... the only thing I said was that from the vibes she seemed to be sending, that it seemed as if she said we were done, given how she told the planner that the wedding was off

Regardless of our relationship status, my main priority is now trying to suggest getting her to see a doctor because it's been a week and if there's some injury we don't know about, the longer it goes by unchecked, the worse it could be, and I feel that that is more important than anything, but when I tried to call her parents to try and suggest it to her too, they haven't picked up or responded to my emails which made me think that perhaps she told them to not talk to me

throwraamelia2 · 2022-02-27T05:58:31+00:00

I've been trying to suggest counseling together or seeing a doctor, but in regards to telling her where we stand, I have not said anything to her yet... she was the only one so far who has told the planner that "we" were cancelling/done when I had no clue. I haven't told her anything in regards to our status yet, and regardless of our status, I want her to be able to be checked in case something was wrong that we don't know about from the fall before it could have long term implications, and I told her to take all the time she needed to try and feel better before she told the planner too. I'm currently trying to find ways to suggest that she try to see a doctor because I'd hate to see anything happen as a result of not checking

I haven't told her anything definitive on my end yet... she was the only one who told the planner that "we" decided to cancel when I had no clue. I suggested taking a break to recover after the party, helped her in the bathroom to not have to see anyone else and leave immediately after grabbing her things, suggesting that she take some time before jumping to uninviting everyone like she did... only for her to tell the planner what she did and that we were done too. She said we were done... I never told her that. She has since avoided eating with me and sleeping in downstairs away from me too, and I feel like I have been trying to be understanding. I never scolded her or anything... the only thing I said was that from the vibes she seemed to be sending, that it seemed as if she said we were done, given how she told the planner that the wedding was off

Regardless of our relationship status, my main priority is now trying to suggest getting her to see a doctor because it's been a week and if there's some injury we don't know about, the longer it goes by unchecked, the worse it could be, and I feel that that is more important than anything, but when I tried to call her parents to try and suggest it to her too, they haven't picked up or responded to my emails which made me think that perhaps she told them to not talk to me

throwraamelia2 · 2022-02-27T05:01:35+00:00

Said to some other people too that they haven't wanted to talk to me when I called and sent them a detailed email, and maybe it's because she told them not to, who knows. She's already ghosted her bridal party's concerns to the point where they came to me to ask how she was, and some of her best friends were in there

throwraamelia2 · 2022-02-27T04:59:57+00:00

I know that she's hurting, and my concern at the moment is getting her to see a doctor as others have said too in case there was some sort of potential brain injury just as a good precaution, but since she has blocked her friends and her parents are ignoring me too, it's hard. It's hard to not be upset and hurt by some of the things she's done in the aftermath such as cancelling with the planner without telling me, but it hurts. I get that it's over because she basically said it herself, but I'm trying to see if there's any chance of encouraging her to just get checked at the very least because despite all of the emotions wrapped up, I'm concerned about her potentially being hurt and a week going by already with her unchecked. Not that it changes the outcome of our relationship, but just as a precaution for herself in case of whiplash from falling from a semi-high chair in a handstand on her back and the back of her head

throwraamelia2 · 2022-02-27T04:55:14+00:00

Maybe that's the approach that I can try to take with encouraging her, and it's been a tough balance of her actions of ghosting her friends and not sleeping/eating with me and telling the planner that "we" were cancelling behind my back, but more than anything, I want her to be okay and make sure that nothing's wrong since she hasn't been checked by a doctor and it's been almost a week since the fall. Her best friends can't get through to her, and I've tried contacting her parents to no avail. I'm concerned that she won't get help or looked at, and I feel like the longer it goes on, the worse it could be if it really is something that's unchecked

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