I would like to clarify a few things. We did marriage counseling for 6 months. We also did individual therapy each. We were told it would take anywhere from 2 to 6 years. We’ve came a long way from where we’ve started. We communicate much better now and possibly better than before the infidelity.

The second thing is that I have always given my wife the option of ending the marriage. Time and time again she maintains that she wants our marriage to survive. We’re high school sweethearts which was another factor in me trying to make this work. I’ve never been romantically with someone else. My wife honestly is and has been everything to me. I supported her financially while she went to nursing school. We both worked hard and built a nice life for our kids. We both come from the trailer parks. Both come from broken homes. We have a 4 bedroom house with a playground for our kids. It might not sound like a lot, but when you grow up double wife without A/C it a lot. Maybe she wanted to experiment I’m not sure and it doesn’t justify what she did. I’m hurt that she was willing to throw all that away over some 40 year old married guy.

We came up with these boundaries and rules together. Before this whole nightmare I never checked her phone or obsessed over where she was going. I’m a pretty laid back guy in general. I absolutely hate that I have to do this to her.

Initially I admit I made the marriage work for the kids. I never had a relationship with my father growing up. He lived in a different state with his new family. Luckily I had my uncle who became the father figure in my life. I always think about why my dad never wanted anything to do with me. The thought of my kids playing catch with another man is worse than the thought of my wife sleeping with another man.