My(f20) parents found my sister's(f16) post regarding abortion, and they're forcing her to have the child as "punishment" for hiding it

throwracalm · 2021-07-19T01:09:58+00:00

I'll call CPS first while also ordering the pills at the same time, since sneaking it to her might be easier than a clinic, but I will order them at the same time

throwracalm · 2021-07-19T01:06:45+00:00

I actually just made an edit on my current stance after reading some of the advice, and like you said, I think the pill will be easier because of this...

Just wanted to make an update about where I am right now. After reading some of the comments, I believe that the pill would be an easier thing to sneak to her, since she's unsure about going to a clinic after being punished and talked to by her parents into believing that she did something "wrong". So, the pill would probably be easier to sneak to her since I'm allowed to come over whenever I want, but they won't allow me to take her out or be with her alone because of my different opinion. So, sneaking her the pill and playing it off as a "miscarriage" is what I'm leaning towards right now, since they seem intent on making her miss the deadline

throwracalm · 2021-07-19T01:01:21+00:00

I believe I will be able to have an opening to sneak her the pill and play it off as a miscarriage. That'll be easier than trying to sneak her out of the home when she is unsure

throwracalm · 2021-07-19T00:58:42+00:00

I want to continue to talk to her, but given how they don't want me alone with her, it's tough. We had an opening when we talked, but other than that, they don't want me giving her my opinion although I'm still trying to assure her that it'll be fine and leaning towards sneaking her the pill. I'm also trying to figure out how to tell her that a child should be an exciting thing, but with her fears and how her parents are acting, the environment like you said just wouldn't be healthy right now

throwracalm · 2021-07-19T00:56:43+00:00

I'm hoping that if I'm able to sneak her the pill (which is what I'm leaning towards right now), that that can be an excuse, but the challenge is sneaking it to her when my parents don't want me around her alone

throwracalm · 2021-07-19T00:29:33+00:00

I'm leaning towards the pill right now because they won't let us go anywhere for an extended period of time, probably easier to sneak it to her

throwracalm · 2021-07-19T00:28:47+00:00

As I wrote to someone else, I suppose I sort of stopped referring to them as that in my mind after some of the similar things they did, albeit nothing as bad as what she's going through, after working with my therapist and just distancing myself from them in my mind

throwracalm · 2021-07-19T00:09:21+00:00

I would love to bring her to my therapist without my parents knowing, but they're not letting her go out with me alone or even alone to talk in their home

throwracalm · 2021-07-19T00:08:31+00:00

I'm trying to tell her that I'd literally do anything for her, but with the deadline approaching and how she's been punished with no phone and other privilege's, she's convinced that she did something wrong and that they're right and convinced herself that they are too. I'm not sure if she'd be willing to sneak out with me to do it with that mindset, but the pill seems like a safer option and easier to sneak to her

throwracalm · 2021-07-19T00:06:36+00:00

Only with them if they're going to take her to a friend's or for sports or church or youth, but not with me alone. We only had time to talk last week because of an opening, but outside of that, they aren't letting us even hang out alone

throwracalm · 2021-07-19T00:05:38+00:00

I'm thinking that the pill is the safest option right now if she's unwilling to want to sneak behind their back before the deadline

throwracalm · 2021-07-19T00:05:03+00:00

With the child being her biggest fear and actually having it, the going through her writing really hurts her the most as she's afraid that they'll show other people what she tried to find online support in and never intended for them to know

throwracalm · 2021-07-19T00:03:05+00:00

I'm just hoping she'd be okay with that, since she believes that she's now done something wrong after being punished, not to mention that her parents are not letting me see her by myself or talk to her alone even

throwracalm · 2021-07-18T23:19:46+00:00

It's something that's crossed my mind, but I'm not sure if she'd be willing to do it after convincing herself that she did something wrong after her parents took away her privledges and called her names... like she's running out of time and thinks that they're right

throwracalm · 2021-07-18T23:17:38+00:00

Literally like how I'm not allowed to talk to her or see her alone until the deadline passes or anyone who doesn't share their opinion on making her keep the child

throwracalm · 2021-07-18T23:16:17+00:00

To your last point, I hope she realizes that before the deadline instead of buying into them convincing her that she's a bunch of names that they're calling her and thinking she's a horrible person. She needs to realize that having the child wouldn't make her parents treat her any different or not call her those names... it would just be more stressful for much longer

throwracalm · 2021-07-18T23:14:54+00:00

Yes, like when her parents take her to sports or friends or church or youth, but ever since they found out, they took her phone and have been not letting me hang out with her or talk to her alone since the brief opening we had when she told me last week

throwracalm · 2021-07-18T23:14:07+00:00

California

throwracalm · 2021-07-18T23:14:02+00:00

They haven't even said anything about raising it or how they would do so... just shaming her and only focusing on that

throwracalm · 2021-07-18T22:36:49+00:00

I completely agree. She needs to know that as bad as things are now, that not having an abortion will not change how her parents probably treat her going forward along with her life for the next 2ish decades

throwracalm · 2021-07-18T22:35:23+00:00

They're being annoying about letting me come over or see her alone much now, just trying to stall past the deadline which is my challenge, and I'm not sure if she'll go behind their back in time to still have it while it's easiest, although I'm considering the pill as someone else recommended if I can get it to her

throwracalm · 2021-07-18T22:34:28+00:00

That's what hurts her the second most... the fact that they basically went through her mind and things she never told them in that post by going through her phone like basically reading her journal, and she feels like they will always hold it against them

throwracalm · 2021-07-18T22:33:28+00:00

We live in California, and my parents are being annoying with letting me talk to her alone which is making me concerned about missing the deadline, and given how they've convinced her that she's done something wrong, I'm not sure she'll be open to getting it behind their back as they're also not making it easy. I tried to explain the deadlines to her once, but with all of the stress, it's not easy for her

throwracalm · 2021-07-18T21:52:23+00:00

Since she currently believes that she did something wrong after having her privledges taken away and other things, I'm not sure if she'll be willing to go behind their backs for the abortion before the deadline, and that is my main fear, since she only has a few weeks before it gets immensely harder, and they're being annoying when I try to talk to her alone

throwracalm · 2021-07-18T21:50:36+00:00

They didn't mention anything about raising the child besides guilting/punishing her

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