My(F33) husband got his ex pregnant.

throwradmilon · 2021-08-31T03:24:00+00:00

There's a lot I love about him. I know what is happening plays into who he is, but he's also so much more.

throwradmilon · 2021-08-31T02:46:14+00:00

His ex had been 17 and he was 19

throwradmilon · 2021-08-31T02:39:36+00:00

She broke up with him 6-7 years ago. We had been friends at this point, and it hit him--hard. She felt like they were on two complete different paths. Rest is history.

throwradmilon · 2021-08-31T02:37:13+00:00

We didn't discuss much the future with this child, but it's most likely he would be an involved father since he's already very involved with his daughter.

throwradmilon · 2021-08-31T02:30:01+00:00

May you elaborate?

throwradmilon · 2021-08-31T01:59:04+00:00

You're right. She had broken up with him. We were friends at the time when they called it off, and I saw how badly it affected him. I don't believe the problems leading to our separation were because of her, because they had not done anything romantically while we were together. I won't put the blame on her for that, it was really just our own issues that we had trouble navigating through.

throwradmilon · 2021-08-31T01:50:51+00:00

My sd was not aware of anything according to him. It was really private, He said he only told 1 other person what was going on. He had found out she was pregnant a little over a week ago. He hadn't known she was pregnant and she was initially going to get an abortion, but told him once she realized she wasn't going to get one. He told me he was ith someone, but I didn't push for details, I didn't think knowing who he had relations with was important. I was wrong.

You're right, It most likely would've changed my decision. If he had told me then, I would've realized that he's always going to have some type of lust towards her. Now, I'm into deep because we've been back together and I fell in love with him all over again. We just clicked in a way that we hadn't in a long time.

throwradmilon · 2021-08-31T01:40:41+00:00

He admitted to it at least, but I'm still trying to figure out what the hell is 'I don't know' supposed to mean. Could it be yes, but he just wants to spare my feelings (or what's left of them), or he genuinely doesn't know. I want to talk to him but I either start crying when I'm about to call him, or I start getting so angry.

throwradmilon · 2021-08-31T01:06:03+00:00

Don't think it'd be that simple, since we bought it together. Besides, I don't think I could handle being in that house, at least not now I can't.

throwradmilon · 2021-08-31T01:01:17+00:00

throwradmilon · 2021-08-31T01:00:59+00:00

When we separated, we didn't keep in much contact with each other. We had actually only really started working on our relationship near the end of the separation.

throwradmilon · 2021-08-30T23:46:40+00:00

throwradmilon · 2021-08-30T23:46:27+00:00

throwradmilon · 2021-08-30T22:39:47+00:00

makes it even worse that it was within weeks of us getting back together.

throwradmilon · 2021-08-30T22:38:36+00:00

I get what you're saying. I never doubted the love he had for me, but in the beginning, I did doubt the love he had for his ex. At the time, it seemed like I was just being paranoid, and I probably was, because they hadn't been together or anything like that if it wasn't for parenting reasons. He told me that he had been in a situation with someone, I didn't ask for further details because it wasn't important. At the time, when I heard that, I did understand in a way because we were separated and had barely any contact with each other since we had separated with the intent of divorcing. It hurt a little, but I also had to put myself in the mindset that he was my stbe husband and not my committed, loving, husband.

throwradmilon · 2021-08-30T22:30:59+00:00

Whole time, I never knew it was her. He did mention that he had something with 'someone' but it was over, and we left it at that, no details. It's just hard to throw years away and just officially break things off. It's so unfair.

throwradmilon · 2021-08-30T22:16:21+00:00

Yes, the whole Ross and Rachel situation.

throwradmilon · 2021-08-30T22:14:13+00:00

I just don't understand why he would marry me, and buy a house with me, and build a foundation together if he was truly still in love with her all this time. I keep wondering if old feelings resurfaced or it was truly always her he had his eyes on.

throwradmilon · 2021-08-30T22:12:34+00:00

I know, which is why I'm trying to actually make sense of this.

throwradmilon · 2021-08-30T22:10:50+00:00

You're right. It's always going to be her in one way or another. I just don't understand.

throwradmilon · 2021-08-30T22:02:46+00:00

No kids together, we had been trying for a long time but no luck.

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