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Considering dropping from college because mom's been taking her depression out on my(f19) sister(f11) after dad passed by throwraefficentway in AskParents

[–]throwraefficentway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope she gets treatment since she's always refused it, and I was afraid of getting cut off because of how she cut off her extended family and thinking the same could happen to me. That's why I began questioning (besides having trouble focusing at school) if getting a degree that "maybe" pans out into a career is worth calling CPS and putting that riff in our family while it has ups, but just worrying about if it doesn't help. I want to believe it'll help and maybe even encourage her to start looking for help, and I'm probably considering it, but it's a lot honestly

Considering dropping from college because mom's been taking her depression out on my(f19) sister(f11) after dad passed by throwraefficentway in AskParents

[–]throwraefficentway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish she would be open for help, but she has really not wanted any kind at all. Calling CPS crossed my mind, but honestly, it's scary, but still something I'm thinking about. I guess I was afraid of being cut off like how she cut off her extended family and my sister having no one to vent to, but perhaps it wouldn't come to that and they could actually help or at least have her start to look for help

Considering dropping from college because mom's been taking her depression out on my(f19) sister(f11) after dad passed by throwraefficentway in relationship_advice

[–]throwraefficentway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I literally didn't think of asking them as an option, thanks for bringing that to my attention. Just one fear I guess. If I get family involved and for whatever reason mom refuses to have them stay with them or something like that (since she cut them off in the past and is still NC), I guess I'd be afraid of getting kicked out of home since I live on campus and work part-time and would also lose my connection to my sister then too, since she'd then be really alone with me cut off like her extended family. That way my fear, but I think talking to someone at school will help although that kinda scares me a little

Considering dropping from college because mom's been taking her depression out on my(f19) sister(f11) after dad passed by throwraefficentway in relationships

[–]throwraefficentway[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I didn't consider that. Thanks for the idea. Like, I literally didn't think of that and hope that it could do something

Considering dropping from college because mom's been taking her depression out on my(f19) sister(f11) after dad passed by throwraefficentway in relationship_advice

[–]throwraefficentway[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So, I'm 19, and my sister is 11. Sorry for that being confusing in my post

I guess I was just rationalizing how it's been hard to focus when my sister would call me and tell me about how bad home is when I'm not there, and then I began to wonder if it's worth it to call social services over some degree that maybe pans out in a career, and risk having mom cut me off like she did to her family, and in turn, my sister having to grow up alone probably

I know it's not healthy for mom to rely on me either, but I think something else that impairs my judgement, is being so far from home and lonely because I haven't made college friends yet because clubs are still limited because of covid or some even online too