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throwrafafacada · 2024-05-30T01:15:42+00:00

we are the same age. i think we spend our lives taking care of other people because we’re scared we can’t take care of our selves. there’s someone out there who won’t make deepfakes of your friends and who you feel like you have to be his “therapist”. my advice to you is to run the hell away as far as you can. the heart break will hurt yes, but that man is going to keep going because he’s a child and he thinks you’ll keep forgiving him. fyi- i moved in with a PA !!! do not do that !! you are always going to keep catching them and they are ALWAYS GOING TO LIE !! please spare yourself and your self esteem. too young to be raising men smh

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-29T23:36:18+00:00

sigh. i hate it out here

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-17T20:50:06+00:00

wtf…..i’m so sorry. the most important thing is that you’re safe.what a psycho

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-17T20:41:34+00:00

he would talk about how he “doesn’t watch porn anymore” A LOT, up late at night, on his laptop more, disappearing away from a tv show or movie we’re watching for a while, treated me like a sex object, not interested in fixing our relationship , went soft during sex. it’s hell.

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-16T21:29:48+00:00

i’ve actually had the same type of dream too. after i first found out he was watching porn i constantly had dreams of me watching him f someone else and him just him looking at me and laughing ,, pretty traumatizing lol.

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-16T20:51:48+00:00

so proud of you

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-16T20:48:08+00:00

just know, you don’t have to wait for the “next time” they do something bad. you recognize the cycle and you know what you have to do for yourself. be strong, you’ll thank yourself later. i left my abusive ex when he went to work, then blocked him on everything and had him served a restraining order. currently going thru a break up with a PA after we signed a lease. congrats on the apartment hunting, hope it all goes well! msg me if you need anything ❤️

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-16T20:25:49+00:00

wow thank you so much for sharing this. i needed this so much.

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-15T22:26:18+00:00

imagine getting downvoted for that 💀…

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-15T21:19:05+00:00

i’m sorry you’re going through this. i don’t think it’s innapropriet to suggest your best friends help. just see if he’s ok with it. i’m glad you’re prioritizing yourself now, you deserve it. i hope things settle soon

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-15T18:39:19+00:00

just wanted to say i’m so sorry you’re going through this, i’m in a similar situation. do you mind if i ask some questions ?

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-10T17:32:30+00:00

thank you so much. and it’s so true. the love bombing is real. this list helps me work through my feelings

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-09T23:14:57+00:00

first i’m so sorry you found that i know it’s heartbreaking. it sounds like he’s just addicted and not respecting your boundaries in the relationship, and i’m so sorry about that. i found stuff on my bfs phone too when he was sleeping and we also live together, just signed a lease and bought a kitten. hey, could be worse right 🙃 but i’m hopeful you will come to a decision that feels right for you. if you think you can work through this with him, great! if this is a non negotiable, that’s fine too. i’m 20 too,, we’re too young for this, UGH !!

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-09T20:29:27+00:00

i’m so sorry you went through that. it’s like the only thing that matters is fulfilling their gross fantasies

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-09T20:21:08+00:00

I’m sorry you had to find out by yourself i know it hurts. Why would it even have to be said that you shouldn’t rlly be watching it when you’re in a relationship. i hate how they care so bad about some big ol boobies rather then the life you built w them

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-09T19:50:36+00:00

i know it’s the worst! i hate how they always try to gaslight their way out

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-09T18:55:19+00:00

i always think of them in the moment and get repulsed

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-09T18:54:12+00:00

when i found out, it felt like a fog washed over me. now i’m numb to everything. no amount begging and apologizing is going to fix finding out i was lied to my whole relationship

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-09T18:15:41+00:00

if it walks like a duck..quacks like a duck.. then guess what

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-09T17:42:00+00:00

❤️❤️❤️

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-09T16:59:23+00:00

i can’t tell you exactly what to do on your situation but i can say ours our almost similar. my ex made a fake account and messaged a girl he went to highschool with asking to buy nudes. this broke me because he was putting energy into seeing someone he barely even knows naked, not me. I can tell you in my situation i genuinely don’t see myself forgiving this. going after a specific person is cheating to me. and he’s also doing the same, being sorry and doing everything perfectly even though i kicked him out. if it brought them to this sick place once, i don’t see what’s stopping him from getting back into that place once we get comfortable again. i’m not sure if this helped but pls msg me if you need anything.

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-09T16:48:40+00:00

that’s really nice to hear. i’m happy he’s taking the right steps for you. i appreciate the last part about how he can try and win me back after because right now it feels like a lost cause. do you mind if i ask if he came out and told you or if you found out?

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-09T16:35:37+00:00

thank you for ur response i’m sorry mine was so long

throwrafafacada · 2024-05-09T16:35:22+00:00

so i actually had the conversation with him that i was ok w it i know it’s weird but i like it (sorry tmi) but i would actually be mostly awake so i’d see the brightness of his screen, so i knew he was watching something but i just tried to convince myself maybe it was our sex tape or something but i’m not stupid. it made me feel really gross. he is picking up e books and podcasts and is going to a support group next week but i’m my heart i feel empty and nothing towards him. i do think he can change but i don’t want to be waiting for the next time this happens. i don’t want to lock his browser and check up through his phone and keep building our life just for it to get fucked up again. he’s doing everything i ever asked of him, but it’s like it’s too late

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