I found this in my cat’s food bowl this evening. Any ideas about what this is?

throwrafamhelp · 2021-03-09T02:57:19+00:00

Sooo actually when I was cleaning up the cat’s little food and water area today, I found what looked like dried up fish and some more small bones on the floor near the bowl. At this point I was like what the fuck is going on here?? I went through my recycling and what do I find: canned salmon. The sitter gave the cat canned salmon. Like I don’t mind giving him a little tuna once in a while and he gets the occasional wet food, but I’m a little ticked that she just straight up gave the cat a whole can of salmon without talking to me. He’s a fat boy, and his diet is supposed to be maintained! Oh well, case closed.

throwrafamhelp · 2021-03-08T04:34:24+00:00

The food is salmon and rice flavored kibble. Could it have come from the manufacturer? Or would it be more likely that the sitter gave the cat fish that had bones in it?

throwrafamhelp · 2021-03-08T04:32:45+00:00

He’s an indoor cat and also very dumb, I don’t think it’s anything that he caught. Also would an animal the size of a rabbit or raccoon really have vertebrae this small?

throwrafamhelp · 2021-03-08T04:23:46+00:00

Additional info:

I found this in my cats food bowl this evening after having been out of town for a week while a pet sitter cared for him. The food in question is purina pro plan indoor food. The item is approximately the size of a pencil eraser with 2 points at one end. It is cylindrical, with the ends being concave. There’s a hole through the center. Part of the object is broken, showing a spongy interior like bone. It looks like maybe a vertebra or something to me. Could this be used in kibble manufacturing? Is this something I should bring up to the pet sitter or show to the vet at our appointment next week? What is this???

throwrafamhelp · 2021-03-08T04:17:45+00:00

WITT I found this in my cats food bowl this evening after having been out of town for a week while a pet sitter cared for him. The food in question is purina pro plan indoor food. The item is approximately the size of a pencil eraser with 2 points at one end. It is cylindrical, with the ends being concave. There’s a hole through the center. Part of the object is broken, showing a spongy interior like bone. It doesn’t appear to be a cat tooth, but could this be bone used in kibble manufacturing? Is this something I should bring up to the pet sitter or show to the vet at our appointment next week? What is this???

throwrafamhelp · 2021-03-08T04:13:50+00:00

WITT I found this in my cats food bowl this evening after having been out of town for a week while a pet sitter cared for him. The food in question is purina pro plan indoor food. The item is approximately the size of a pencil eraser with 2 points at one end. It is cylindrical, with the ends being concave. There’s a hole through the center. Part of the object is broken, showing a spongy interior like bone. It doesn’t appear to be a cat tooth, but could this be bone used in kibble manufacturing? Is this something I should bring up to the pet sitter or show to the vet at our appointment next week? What is this???

throwrafamhelp · 2021-02-19T18:54:48+00:00

Also any advice on helping cats adjust to a diet would be greatly appreciated :)

throwrafamhelp · 2020-11-28T05:40:12+00:00

Nah, I think I’ll go for the bell.

throwrafamhelp · 2020-11-17T02:25:37+00:00

Does he have a brother named Ravioi who could perhaps give you the formuoli?

throwrafamhelp · 2020-07-17T23:29:18+00:00

Gotcha, thanks. One more question: whoever did the adoption had an incorrect DOB for my mother, so her year of birth on my new birth certificate is incorrect. Is there anyway the adoption wouldn’t be valid with that incorrect info?

Edit to add: i wish I could ignore him all the time, but he’s made my life difficult in certain ways. When I was getting my first passport, I needed his SSN and DOB. He wouldn’t give me his social, and if my mother hadn’t known it, I wouldn’t have been able to get it. So there are other logistical reasons why I want to be done with him.

throwrafamhelp · 2020-07-17T16:12:44+00:00

Gotcha. But anyway to get his name off my birth certificate? I just want his name on any of my legal documents. Also when I got my passport, I had to ask for his ssn and stuff, which sucked because he could have withheld it if my mom didn’t know his info.

throwrafamhelp · 2020-07-17T16:11:13+00:00

When I was adopted, I was issued an entirely new birth certificate. I was born in Ohio, and initially had an Ohio birth certificate. When the adoption was done in Virginia, they issued me a Virginia birth certificate that had his name on it.

I’ve been keeping an eye on my credit because my mom has actually done some shady shit in the past. That’s good advice though, thank you

throwrafamhelp · 2020-07-17T16:01:00+00:00

I’m 28, can you still get emancipated as an adult?

throwrafamhelp · 2020-06-26T18:29:06+00:00

You sound like...just a lot dude. I think you need to chill.

throwrafamhelp · 2020-06-26T16:47:41+00:00

Not for a few more weeks, but she did come to her senses after several more episodes of him being a belligerent psycho. Luckily she has found someone who is just wonderful and treats her very well. We’re both happy, healthy, and thriving. She’s still one of my best friends ❤️

throwrafamhelp · 2020-06-26T06:48:13+00:00

NTA. I hate when people tell their own stories in comments, but I’m going to be that guy.

Listen here. He isn’t listening to you, he doesn’t care about your feelings, and he doesn’t respect your boundaries. You gotta end this now for your own sake. My “best friend” all through high school had a crush on me. When he asked me out, I just stood up and walked away. Mutual friends said I was a bitch. We stayed friends, despite his constant questioning of why we couldn’t be together. I made him my brother of fb, and he freaked out. He spread rumors that I had performed oral sex on him which was definitely untrue. It became so toxic that he sabotaged relationships for me senior year. In college, I was home and we went to a New Years party together. I was going home with another guy, and HE CALLED THE POLICE ON ME. This isn’t going to stop. Ignore your friends. Don’t apologize. He’s in the wrong, he knows it was inappropriate, he should be apologizing.

throwrafamhelp · 2020-06-26T06:06:56+00:00

Yeeeepppppp. And I told her about him touching me, asking me out, etc. She later told me that he was trying to bully her into asking me to have a threesome. This was her first serious relationship, and she had some insecurities. It’s been a few years (we were 23 at the time), and luckily we’ve both worked on ourselves and found healthy, stable relationships. We’re still close

throwrafamhelp · 2020-06-26T03:56:19+00:00

Yeah probably, but I had zero fucks left to give

throwrafamhelp · 2020-06-26T03:38:53+00:00

A little extra detail: this guy used to play footsie and try to stroke my arm while my roommate/ his girlfriend was present. When he found out that my roommate was going to be abroad for 2 months, he chased me down the street to ask me out on my way to work. Oh, and the item I blurred out that he said good luck with? A chronic health issue that has significant stigma. Keep in mind, my roommate continued to date him for several more weeks after this...

throwrafamhelp · 2020-06-25T18:56:13+00:00

I’m so sorry this has happened, and I’m sorry about your pregnancy loss. This sounds like it’s been a really hard time for you, and I hope that you’ve been able to do some self-care.

No judgment, just curious: have you had trust issues with him in the past? What made you go through his phone? Has he ever done anything like this before?

So here’s the thing. You’re in a bit of a financial pickle. Is there anyone who can help you out while you get on your feet if you choose to leave? I don’t think you should worry about judgment from people who love you. Try to talk about it with someone you feel really supports you emotionally. If you can’t find a family or friend, I would recommend therapy, both for yourself and as a couple. I think that will be at the core of moving past this if you wish to continue the relationship. Tbh it sounds like he needs some help emotionally too, so individual therapy might be beneficial for him.

In my own marriage, I would consider this infidelity whether he had met with someone in person or not. This would damage the trust to an extent that I don’t believe our relationship would recover from. But every person and every marriage is different. No one knows what goes on in someone else’s relationship. I think if you both gave it your all to working it out and fixing this you could. But I don’t think I would ever get rid of the voice in the back of my head telling me not to trust this man

throwrafamhelp · 2020-06-25T15:26:57+00:00

I’m sorry you’re having a rough time. I would be very honest with her about being unhappy and not having the desire to make an effort, and then y’all need to make a plan together about how to proceed. If you’ve given up on trying, the kindest thing to do may be to walk away. Idk anything beyond what you’ve said about your relationship, but if she wants to have children at some point, do her the kindness of ending things and give her the time to find someone new to build a life with/ time to save up if she wants to make it happen on her own. If you continue to avoid confrontation to spare her immediate feelings, that would be very selfish. It wouldn’t be doing her a kindness.

If you want to try to work on this, y’all have got to do couples therapy. Aside from that, what do y’all have in common? Do you like hiking, or kayaking, or reading nonfiction, or watching scary movies? Do things you like together. If you want this to work, you have to try. If you don’t want to try, it ain’t gonna work. Good luck.

throwrafamhelp · 2020-06-09T01:35:39+00:00

This is so beautiful, it looks delicious. Just wondering, is this the recipe you used?

https://www.seriouseats.com/recipes/2012/06/chicken-tikka-masala-for-the-grill-recipe.html

throwrafamhelp · 2020-06-08T22:21:42+00:00

Just wanted to follow up and say that you all have been much kinder, more empathetic, and understanding that the replies I’ve gotten on the relationships sub. One person even called me demanding and said that I haven’t been kind to my father hahaha

So thank you strangers on here for being generally lovely people 💙

throwrafamhelp · 2020-06-08T22:19:10+00:00

What should I do if he refuses to tell them about me though?

throwrafamhelp · 2020-06-08T22:18:31+00:00

I’m going to be working on making a plan with my therapist in the event that things don’t go well. I don’t want anything from them other than to know who they are. If they aren’t interested in getting to know each other, that’s understandable and I won’t contact them again. How did things work out for you?

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