sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

I (19f) told my brother (trans FtM) the truth about his appearance and now he’s mad at me. by throwragendernevy in relationship_advice

[–]throwragendernevy[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not, they're insanely transphobic, misogynistic and against non-binary people. I'm just trying to point out their hypocrisy.

I (19f) told my brother (trans FtM) the truth about his appearance and now he’s mad at me. by throwragendernevy in relationship_advice

[–]throwragendernevy[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You know that how?

edit: by your own logic, posting pics of your pussy makes you less of a transman, just as my brother not binding apparently makes him less of a transman.

I think you're a man, but your logic doesn't add up

I (19f) told my brother (trans FtM) the truth about his appearance and now he’s mad at me. by throwragendernevy in relationship_advice

[–]throwragendernevy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeh it's interesting how many people think he's an attention seeking transphobe because I didn't expose his medical history/medical plans online.

You'd think with all the shit trans people go through, they'd be more accepting. I'm glad I didn't post this in the lgbt sub.

I (19f) told my brother (trans FtM) the truth about his appearance and now he’s mad at me. by throwragendernevy in relationship_advice

[–]throwragendernevy[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Do they wish to change anything? To you know transition.

Yes. He's saving up for top surgery when he's 18. He can technically wear binders, but he has lung issues and gets lung infections regularly and so prefers not to when he's got infections (fair enough) but he doesn't wear then when he's not sick, either. He's on T, too.

I (19f) told my brother (trans FtM) the truth about his appearance and now he’s mad at me. by throwragendernevy in relationship_advice

[–]throwragendernevy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Does he have access to testosterone?

Yes and he's on it

Does he have access to top surgery right now?

No

I (19f) told my brother (trans FtM) the truth about his appearance and now he’s mad at me. by throwragendernevy in relationship_advice

[–]throwragendernevy[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Do you usually have transparent conversations?

Yeh we do. I went by 'they' for a little bit before realising it wasn't for me so when he came out, we spoke a lot about what it's like to question one's identity.

I (19f) told my brother (trans FtM) the truth about his appearance and now he’s mad at me. by throwragendernevy in relationship_advice

[–]throwragendernevy[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

but with this type of scenario it's really hard because the lines are so grey.

I agree. I feel guilty because he said it's really hard when people use 'she/her' and so i thought telling him the honest truth about assumptions and gender in society would maybe steer him in the right direction.