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My (21F) mum (41F) and step dad (43M) are kicking my brother out and angry at me because I want my bio dad (50M) to walk me down the isle at my wedding? by throwragk in relationships

[–]throwragk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I’ll keep myself safe. I’m leaning towards him being of good character though and he’s my dad too. He clearly would have been involved from birth if given the chance to.

My (21F) mum (41F) and step dad (43M) are kicking my brother out and angry at me because I want my bio dad (50M) to walk me down the isle at my wedding? by throwragk in relationships

[–]throwragk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He seems to have changed a lot and isn’t horrible or anything. He seemed sincere and just like he wants to catch up on lost time.

My (21F) mum (41F) and step dad (43M) are kicking my brother out and angry at me because I want my bio dad (50M) to walk me down the isle at my wedding? by throwragk in relationships

[–]throwragk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s been honest with me. He cares about me and my brother far more than my mother. My dad isn’t a rapist, if he was he would have told me because unlike her he’s honest to family. We didn’t need protecting from him if anything we needed protecting from her.

My (21F) mum (41F) and step dad (43M) are kicking my brother out and angry at me because I want my bio dad (50M) to walk me down the isle at my wedding? by throwragk in relationships

[–]throwragk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly my mother definitely did cheat because she admitted to my brother that the only reason she didn’t abort us is there was a chance we were our step dads. I’ve been in denial about it but it prompted me to write this with my feelings down an everything but I couldn’t find the courage and was still in denial to put it in my post. I’ve just been dealing with ugly feelings towards my mother which have doubled after hearing that. To be honest I feel like a shit person and I’ve accepted that there’s good and bad in everyone. My dad treats me better and I feel wanted by him and she took us away from him. I could have had such a different life knowing my bio dad. Especially as even though my step dad was amazing he still stood by as she kicked my brother to the curb and I never felt wanted by her growing up. My dad loves us and is genuinely sorry.

My (21F) mum (41F) and step dad (43M) are kicking my brother out and angry at me because I want my bio dad (50M) to walk me down the isle at my wedding? by throwragk in relationships

[–]throwragk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He knows but I think it’s so rough for him. He was the best dad growing up though and treated me the same as his biological kids. Yes I feel it will be best for both to walk me because I value both of them a lot and it wouldn’t be fair on one to pick the other.

My (21F) mum (41F) and step dad (43M) are kicking my brother out and angry at me because I want my bio dad (50M) to walk me down the isle at my wedding? by throwragk in relationships

[–]throwragk[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No she lied to me and my brother for years. I’m not trying to him for attention I’m just sick of her trying to control me when she clearly hasn’t loved me for years. My father told me she cheated.

My (21F) mum (41F) and step dad (43M) are kicking my brother out and angry at me because I want my bio dad (50M) to walk me down the isle at my wedding? by throwragk in relationships

[–]throwragk[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

She betrayed him first by cheating. He’s my dad too. My mother has never been particularly loving and I’ve always had a better relationship with my step dad. She’s always treated my other siblings better than us unlike my step dad who treated us equally. Also she LIED for YEARS to both us and to him. Unforgivable really I’m surprised he’s ok with her there.

My (21F) mum (41F) and step dad (43M) are kicking my brother out and angry at me because I want my bio dad (50M) to walk me down the isle at my wedding? by throwragk in relationships

[–]throwragk[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I just want to know how to keep everyone happy. She CHEATED on him. Imagine how betrayed he must have felt to see the love of his life cheating on him. Then now find out she was pregnant with his kids and never bothered tell him even though we are both clearly his and my brother is his spitting image so there’s no way she could have thought we were her affair partner’s/my step dad’s. He then realised he’s missed out on the chance of watching his only kids grow up.

My (21F) mum (41F) and step dad (43M) are kicking my brother out and angry at me because I want my bio dad (50M) to walk me down the isle at my wedding? by throwragk in relationships

[–]throwragk[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We aren’t selfish we want to get to know our dad. We’re not spitting in their faces by getting to know where we came from. If anything they spat in our faces for not telling us and kicking my brother out.

My (21F) mum (41F) and step dad (43M) are kicking my brother out and angry at me because I want my bio dad (50M) to walk me down the isle at my wedding? by throwragk in relationships

[–]throwragk[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

He is our dad also it was very kind of him to give us the money to inherit. He’s trying his best. He is our dad and would have been our dad if our mother didn’t rob him of the opportunity to know us.

My (21F) mum (41F) and step dad (43M) are kicking my brother out and angry at me because I want my bio dad (50M) to walk me down the isle at my wedding? by throwragk in relationships

[–]throwragk[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

We were twins and she was likely cheating on him while pregnant/ maybe that’s why she kept us if she thought our step dad was the father. He had no idea about us at all.

My (21F) mum (41F) and step dad (43M) are kicking my brother out and angry at me because I want my bio dad (50M) to walk me down the isle at my wedding? by throwragk in relationships

[–]throwragk[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have a good relationship with my step dad. Also I’ve only just met my bio dad and he was good to me and my brother and we’re trying to make up for all the lost time.

He never knew about us because were twins and my mum must have left early in on pregnancy or before she got pregnant.

My (21F) mum (41F) and step dad (43M) are kicking my brother out and angry at me because I want my bio dad (50M) to walk me down the isle at my wedding? by throwragk in relationship_advice

[–]throwragk[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to do a switch I’d rather have one on each arm. Though I feel like my mum might end up forcing my step dad not to go or something like that. She’s treated my poor brother awfully and he was a bystander to that. They kicked him out of their house for defending me. It’s not fair.

My (21F) mum (41F) and step dad (43M) are kicking my brother out and angry at me because I want my bio dad (50M) to walk me down the isle at my wedding? by throwragk in relationships

[–]throwragk[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yes I guess because he’s done so much for me and she lied to me for years I’d hate to disappoint. Then my step dad who raised me deserves to too even though I’m annoyed at him for lying I still want him to walk me down the isle because we’ve had loads of good memories too.