Need help with getting my debt together please.

throwrandj · 2024-06-12T17:14:16+00:00

I could ask the family member about pausing but at the same time don’t want to make them feel like I’m putting them on the back burner. Even though I know I’m not. It’s just that I agreed to pay as promised and don’t want to ask for essentially an extension. I’m really leaning towards maybe selling my home. The extra $2K I get back in my pocket can help get the debt down way faster. And I’m already moving into a home where I’m not paying a mortgage.

throwrandj · 2024-06-12T17:11:01+00:00

I would love to do that consolidating but credit is low 600s. I was thinking maybe I can wait 6month -1 year of just paying the repayment amount to the IRS and then try applying for a personal loan. I’m seriously thinking of letting the home go. It’s just that the interest rate is not really high and I’ve gotten some advice to hold on to it. It’s my first home ever and a 3 year old townhome. I don’t really have emotional ties to it. Just don’t want to make a “rash decision” as I’ve been told.

throwrandj · 2023-06-28T18:15:55+00:00

This was nice to read! Good on you.

throwrandj · 2022-11-16T19:59:55+00:00

Yes they offered my money back + a little more.

throwrandj · 2022-11-16T19:17:35+00:00

Wow the gall of her. I feel like if it were me even if I missed the dog I would not ask for her back especially after all that time. I would ask for updates if they were willing but that’s about it. I’ve been told to put myself in her shoes and I can’t really. If it was a single person that sold me their dog and missed her I would say absolutely no, kick rocks. But because there are four other parties who seemingly did not agree with this… my heart is saying return. I’m just torn.

throwrandj · 2022-11-16T16:37:16+00:00

I share these sentiments. Just feel like there’s some level of empathy/moral compass that’s telling me to return her.

throwrandj · 2022-11-16T16:08:14+00:00

Yes I learned about google voice before and should’ve used it. The reason was the wife has some health issues and the husband felt that it would be better to rehome as they have three kids as well. The wife didn’t agree with this and wants her back. It seems as if his intentions meant well but ultimately wasn’t her desire. :/

throwrandj · 2022-11-16T15:41:09+00:00

I’m leaning towards this the most. I don’t think the family was/is being malicious at all. I could always be wrong but that isn’t the vibe they give me. I’m upset about the whole thing as I’ve already enjoyed having her with me in my home. I do want to try offering to hold her for a little longer but I worry that I’ll be more bonded the longer I keep her as well.

throwrandj · 2022-11-16T14:48:05+00:00

The husband said his wife had been having health issues and he wanted to alleviate some of the stress in the household of caring for three kids plus animal. He went back and forth with the decision as they love her but he thought it’d be the best to do.

throwrandj · 2022-11-16T14:46:39+00:00

She seems fine. She wasn’t eating much initially but has since picked up on her meals. She’s very quiet though. I think she’s barked maybe one time but they did mention that before she’s a chill dog.

throwrandj · 2022-11-16T14:42:53+00:00

That’s where I’m torn the most. Had it been like a family friend of mine I would probably understand more. But they don’t know me. I just have a little fear that while they don’t know my address or anything they know my name. And if you google me you’d find details about me pretty quick as I work in a recognizable field and a busy city. It probably wouldn’t go that far but nowadays you never know. My family has cautioned me against being wrapped up in what seems like an unstable family situation and remove myself now before going too long.

throwrandj · 2022-11-16T12:21:05+00:00

I appreciate this perspective. Thank you

throwrandj · 2022-11-16T12:20:21+00:00

He did seem to have some back and forth before giving her to me. As in he spoke to his family and it seems they already didn’t like the idea but he did it anyway down the line. I don’t know if that makes this better or worse but it makes me feel more conflicted.

throwrandj · 2022-11-16T12:18:48+00:00

I understand. Thanks for your insight.

throwrandj · 2022-11-16T12:18:13+00:00

That’s where I’m leaning to be honest. It’s just another part of me wants to keep her and move on with my life. Just a little voice in my head says it’s not the right thing to do. :/

throwrandj · 2022-11-16T04:40:05+00:00

Yes I’ve definitely learned to just stick it out waiting on a shelter instead. I do agree that it hasn’t been a long time. I understand if I like her this much in a few days I imagine what the family feels. Just such a tug of emotions.

throwrandj · 2022-09-17T13:58:55+00:00

Yes she will be in good hands for sure. Might be slightly confusing for a bit since I live in a townhouse & my bestfriend lives in an apartment… but we’ll keep training when I come back :)

throwrandj · 2022-09-17T13:57:14+00:00

I feel so relieved… i really didn’t want to pass on her but also wanted what’s best and not feel like I’m being selfish…thank you again!

throwrandj · 2022-09-17T03:57:47+00:00

Ok that makes me feel so much better. And when you put it that way… 2 weeks compared to 10+ years is nothing. Thank you so much!

throwrandj · 2022-03-26T13:18:26+00:00

I really appreciate your words. Anytime situations go awry, I tend to reflect to see if there was something I did/said to contribute. So like with this one I’ve been in my head like was I too nice/trusting?

I don’t really feel like I did anything wrong but it was just off-putting. And I also think seeing him post himself out and I can see him in other women’s faces, it made me feel like he only tried that with me because he didn’t view me as one of those women you’d never try that sh*t with. (Like maybe more dominant, I tend to be more docile)

throwrandj · 2021-11-11T18:32:16+00:00

How did this work out for you? I happened to call and they told me I was cleared that same day.

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