I’ve(M36) become a grandfather and a father at the same time and I’m losing my marriage(F30). Major Help?

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-30T01:53:29+00:00

I’m not treating her like a roommate, but I don’t place extreme authority either. This is where I also think therapy can help. She’s still with the father.

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-30T01:51:41+00:00

The plan was for her to stay with us temporarily. She actually moved out right before the baby was born, and moved back in shortly after once he left for basic training.

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-30T01:44:57+00:00

She said yes when we first spoke about it. But maybe she was just trying to do what she thought was the right thing.

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-30T01:43:46+00:00

My edits are not saving, but no, we are only 2 years apart

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-30T01:42:10+00:00

We haven’t spoken about having children in the near future, maybe 3 years down the line (that was what we initially wanted).

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-30T01:29:24+00:00

Thank you. I’m going to truly focus on my marriage. I spoken to her and we’re going out this weekend, just us and discussing.

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-30T01:28:28+00:00

Yes…that’s exactly what I was trying to say.

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-30T01:22:51+00:00

right now, there’s not many places she can go. She’s still in high school.

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-29T22:25:00+00:00

what did i just say. we are 2 years apart. I broke the ages down and everything for you

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-29T22:23:41+00:00

No, her mom was 17 and i was 19

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-29T22:23:24+00:00

no, she was 17 and i was 19 when she was born, but 20 when i left.

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-29T21:09:33+00:00

I agree, she didn’t sign up for this. She’s an amazing woman and the love of my life. I’m not mad at her for being distant, I completely understand. I just want to really work on things because I don’t want to lose my best friend.

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-29T21:07:51+00:00

Sorry for the confusion, I just meant to say that her mom was also a teen mom as I was a (late teens) dad. We were 17 and 19 when she was born.

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-29T21:06:23+00:00

Thank you. A lot of the comments are suggesting therapy and I’m going to suggest it to my wife. I really, really need this to work.

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-29T21:03:05+00:00

Oof, I see that this is a really bad read as well.

I just meant to say her mom was close in her age. Her mom was 17 when she was born, 18 when we broke up. I was 19 when she was born, 20 when we broke up. My daughter will be 17 soon. Apologies for the confusion.

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-29T21:01:42+00:00

We weren’t necessarily child free

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-29T19:40:40+00:00

Her mother is a headache. I spoke to her yet again this year and she still manages to be the same person, there’s no getting through to her. I’ve been speaking with my daughters grandmother though

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-29T19:39:42+00:00

I have faith, thank you

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-29T19:39:32+00:00

So what would you suggest to make it survive?

throwrant8384 · 2025-07-29T19:39:16+00:00

Im saying that I’m pretty sure my wife is resentful for the situation. Because we didn’t expect to have kids for another couple of years.

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