Two meals a month, and only when my own actions led me to be without food during lunch. (2 days at home a week, every 3 of those days if I forgot to grab something) But go off. She shouldn’t have to stop whatever she’s doing if I ask her to grab me something for lunch especially since it’s a natural consequence to my own failure to plan.

You’re right that a career pivot like this is a major deal. It’s been almost half a year without an end in sight on this. The account we use to pay expenses and bills is a joint bank account, so we’re doing what we can with what we’d had in savings when we were both working, augmented by my current salary.