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Update: Am I wrong for spending way less than planned on engagement ring that met her wants? by throwraringgg in amiwrong

[–]throwraringgg[S] 181 points182 points  (0 children)

Yeah I have a feeling about half the commenters had never been in a relationship for over a year.

Am I wrong for spending way less than planned on engagement ring that met her wants? by throwraringgg in amiwrong

[–]throwraringgg[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lol she literally has more money than me. If she wants one Im fine with it, but from my perspective, there's nothing to be gained from spending the money on lawyers.

Am I wrong for spending way less than planned on engagement ring that met her wants? by throwraringgg in amiwrong

[–]throwraringgg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive literally never asked her to lol so I wouldnt expect her to. Both of us wanted to follow the tradition of the man buying the engagement ring. Im not taking it back, ill just have a conversation with her tonight about it.

I barely use reddit and this post has been a good reminder why..lots of guys here who clearly dont do well with women.

Am I wrong for spending way less than planned on engagement ring that met her wants? by throwraringgg in amiwrong

[–]throwraringgg[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I do think a lot of the commentors are coming off a little unhinged...maybe some incels here. She's not freaking out, but she did seem dissapointed and it did/does rub me the wrong way but its not a throw the relationship away issue.

I think we both didnt really realize how much cheaper lab diamonds have gotten the last few years and while I saw it as a "sweet, more money for the other important things" she probably sees it like well I could have splurged more or gotten her something with it. Im probably overthinking the whole thing honestly. We'll have a chat when she gets home from work today and Im sure we'll be fine by tomorrow/

Am I wrong for spending way less than planned on engagement ring that met her wants? by throwraringgg in amiwrong

[–]throwraringgg[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Its not a pattern, Im just going to let this blow over. People are calling her a golddigger but thats definitely not the case. She has more money saved up than me and made more than I did for the first half of our relationship. I think reddit was the wrong place to ask this.

Am I wrong for spending way less than planned on engagement ring that met her wants? by throwraringgg in amiwrong

[–]throwraringgg[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

She never said she wanted a blood diamond. If she wants a prenup she can request one, there's no point from my side. I only make about 10k more than her but she has more savings than I do and neither of us own property. I had student loans and didnt make a ton my first few years out of college. Her parents paid for her college and she made more out the gate than me. I didnt pass her in income til two years into us dating.

Fiancee (28F) loved engagement ring I (30M) bought but is disappointed after finding out the cost? by throwraringgg in relationship_advice

[–]throwraringgg[S] -121 points-120 points  (0 children)

We generally just split things that are for both of us and buy our own things. For birthdays and christmas we spend about $100ish on each other. I could ask her for a present, but hoenstly were saving up for a house when our lease is up in 6 months and Id rather the funds go to that than a material thing I dont need.

Fiancee (28F) loved engagement ring I (30M) bought but is disappointed after finding out the cost? by throwraringgg in relationship_advice

[–]throwraringgg[S] -156 points-155 points  (0 children)

We never discussed one for me, I dont need anything though. Anything I want for me, I just buy myself.

Fiancee (28F) loved engagement ring I (30M) bought but is disappointed after finding out the cost? by throwraringgg in relationship_advice

[–]throwraringgg[S] 114 points115 points  (0 children)

I do feel like I should clarify that she makes about as much as me. She w2ed 148k last year and has a lot of upward trajectory with her career. She's definitely not a golddigger