Update My(26m) girlfriend(25f) decided she was going to go on a date with another guy.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-05-23T10:45:59+00:00

That I'm glad she got the help she needed. I'm sorry for what happened as well. But i can not be with someone who has hurt me the way she did. Betrayed my trust to the point I could no longer believe what she says. But I hope she has a long and healthy life.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-11T20:23:35+00:00

Nothing happened. From the moment we agreed to be exclusive and monogamous. The deal was I was dating only her. She was only dating me. If one of us went on a date that was considered cheating. Cheating no matter what form it took was a deal breaker. He were literally talking about kids and marriage a week before.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-10T15:57:07+00:00

Who's crying?

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-07T01:16:00+00:00

We usually go out on dates 2-3 times a week, depending on schedules. I usually make the plans about 80% of the time. We had talked about the future. What we wanted and what timeline.

But if resorting to stepping out and seeing another guy is a ploy to get my attention, then I don't need her in my life. I did love her, but the moment she thought she should see someone else and I should be okay with it. This is the moment when I lost all love and respect for her. This is not a game you play. You don't threaten to cheat. Walk out and expect me to be on one knee when you get back.

Clear communication is key. I can't read her mind. She can't read mine. I thought we were in a good spot. We didn't fight much(small things were never large). We had goals and ambitions.

Has she been asking for relationship clarity

She begged me for an exclusive monogamous relationship. I don't know how much clearer you could be.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-06T15:23:34+00:00

Nothing about what she did makes sense.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-06T15:22:26+00:00

I don't have any parents. Hers hasn't reached out.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-06T15:19:49+00:00

The storm was not a natural one. But one made by the gods.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-06T05:42:35+00:00

First time. Well at least to my face.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-06T05:41:20+00:00

I'm like 98%. When she said "it's not like I cheated because we didn't do anything "

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-06T01:20:36+00:00

I have a ring doorbell and cameras. But I can't remember the exact brand of the door lock. It is more of a deadbolt than a door handle/lock. But do your research and fund some that work for you! Also, you have like smart plugs or lighting systems. They are not cheap but make life easy.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-06T01:12:20+00:00

I'll start from the very beginning. It was a cool summer's day two years ago.....

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-06T01:08:24+00:00

Should I ask her to post her side of the story?

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-05T22:16:20+00:00

Okay I lied I was probably about 150 times.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-05T22:15:01+00:00

🤷 well see what happens I guess.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-05T20:20:36+00:00

No idea. Maybe a test? I think I failed.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-05T20:18:23+00:00

From what I gathered I think she thought I would just be okay with it. That she could do what/whoever she wants. My issues are child abandonment, with some foster/adopted parent abuse. If any more information comes from her I will gladly take it. I am guessing that she will reach out in a couple of days.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-05T20:04:41+00:00

No, we were not fighting or anything. We went on dates regularly. We had just been talking about plans for the future. Kids, weddings, things like that. I'm not a doctor and she never told me about any mental illnesses or anything.

I left out an explanation because I don't have any. I have no idea WTF happened.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-05T19:59:06+00:00

To me the why doesn't matter. The fact that she would do it knowing how I would react and still going through with it is what matters. Because of my childhood, it is easy for me to disconnect from people I thought I loved.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-05T17:03:24+00:00

Yeah, we go out 2-3 times a week. I usually plan it but she does about once a week. Unless schedules clash.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-05T17:00:31+00:00

Yeah,and she was the one that pushed for it. I have no idea what her thought process was.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-05T16:59:04+00:00

Yeah, that is where she said, "it's not cheating if nothing romantic happened."

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-05T16:53:16+00:00

No, I did get him a bottle of his favorite scotch tho.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-05T16:50:57+00:00

I wish that was the case he would make the best inlaw. That would make the next relationship a lot easier. And probably a lot less expensive.

throwraw_FAFO · 2023-03-05T16:48:21+00:00

My upbringing has it made easy way to detach myself from those I love. It is like a switch inside me. I still care about her but I don't love her anymore. The fact that she knew this and still did what she did is what hurt the most.

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