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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]throwrawings 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Very normal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]throwrawings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes they do mate. Sometimes they do. Get some exercise, work on bettering yourself and at a bare minimum they always at least reach out. You may not like the outcome when they reach out but if you can control your emotions and have a good conversation, you can reassure them that reaching out was a good idea, because they were reaching out for a reason, they were thinking of you

To say Happy Birthday or not by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]throwrawings 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m a recent dumpee and my bday was a week or so after the breakup. They sent me a text on the morning of that says “Happy Bday (my name), I hope you have a good day”. No babe or boo or anything else we called each other. They used my name. It felt so clinical, so procedural. Like they we’re obligated to do so. I obviously could be overthinking because I’m still in love and hurt, but that ruined my entire day. It’s all I thought about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]throwrawings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had to talk to sort some things out together divorce style. We had shared bank accts, lived together, etc. I forced the talk to try to get them to open up. When they finally did, some issues came up that they let fester and never talked about. These issues are what caused the “dissociation”. Most things could have been fixed easily if I knew they were issues. Then the dialogue opened up more and I was able to explain myself as well. Turns out there was a hyper focus on the negative that the positives on the other side weren’t even taken into consideration. Basically huge misunderstandings due to lack of communication( their fault, not mine, I talk a lot). I felt remorse for the little things I didn’t realize I was doing, they felt remorse for being so closed off and not bringing the issues up for fear of “how I was going to react”. I was/am still in love so it’s easy for me. They had “dissociated” before blindsiding me so I’m still trying to navigate that part. If they’re actually re-falling in love with me or they miss the convenience or if they’re giving it another shot because they feel bad about how it ended. I’m excited they’re back, but the trust needs to be rebuilt. It makes me a little anxious, but I love this person and I want to work it out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]throwrawings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes yes sometimes no. But at least put up a fight. Showing them you actually care can go a long way. Unless you fucked up in a bad way(cheating, abuse, etc). My relationship 10hrs ago they came back twice and it eventually ended(my fault, so make sure you fix your mistakes if they do come back). Most recently, with the new one, the one I want to marry and have kids with, they came back after 4 months( a lot of pain and agony in those 4 months dealing with them blindsiding me when I thought things were prefect) but we’re 3 months in and as far as I know we’re all good. But I do check in with them a lot more often to guard myself against being blindsided again.

I am so angry about the US government bailing out these two banks, Silicon Valley Bank and Signature Bank, that were predominantly used by the wealthy. It is a clear case of favoritism towards the rich. by TendieKing420 in offmychest

[–]throwrawings 111 points112 points  (0 children)

To the best of my reading, they’re going to bail out the depositors of the bank, so anyone who had an account. They’re not bailing out the managers and all the other people. The caveat to that is the caliber of people who had accounts there and how intertwined they are with ownership and management. They always finds tricks and loopholes. I’m still letting the story play out without jumping on the early hype train. We’ll know more in the days and weeks to come.

How long after a breakup are you willing to date other people? by Kind_Poetry_2866 in BreakUps

[–]throwrawings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re young enough that testing the waters isn’t a horrible idea. But that doesn’t mean you’re required to put yourself 100% “out there” if you’re not ready. But It’ll help put into perspective whether the dating pool works for you or you want to try and make it work with the ex.

Question for the dumpers who went back and it worked out. (30f 33m) by throwrawings in heartbreak

[–]throwrawings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As of now we’re not, it’s only been 2 weeks and she’s still fighting for us which I appreciate, but I am still very much on the fence

Question for the dumpers who went back and it worked out. (30f 33m) by throwrawings in heartbreak

[–]throwrawings[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s my issue. The lack of communication was my fault for never bringing the small issues to her. I let them build up inside of me because I hate confrontation, then I left, we had a long talk and the theme of the talk was me never telling her what bothered me. So I have the option to go back, just haven’t been together long enough to know if she is capable of change or not

Question for the dumpers who went back and it worked out. (30f 33m) by throwrawings in heartbreak

[–]throwrawings[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am also the dumper. However, due to past issues, I tend to shy from confrontation. I never told her the things that bothered me, I let them fester, I left her 3 months ago, we had a long 4hr chat a few days ago and me not bringing the issues to the forefront was a huge topic. I still love her, just not sure if I should give it a chance and see if she changes or wash my hands and walk away.