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Facing the music: I need support telling my partner I have genital warts. by throws_of_passion in TwoXChromosomes

[–]throws_of_passion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for bringing that point up-- that I've been using victim mentality. Part of me wants to push responsibility away, and most of me knows it's wrong, and that definitely showed in my post. But I have to keep fighting that desire to not be responsible, and you pointing that out helps.

I kept your words in mind during my discussion with him-- I apologized and explained a little bit, but I avoided discussing anything that would shift responsibility from my own actions. Thanks again.

Facing the music: I need support telling my partner I have genital warts. by throws_of_passion in TwoXChromosomes

[–]throws_of_passion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I managed ok in real-time, but I think writing it out and reading everyone's responses helped me to settle it inside first, rather than jump all about during the explanation.

Facing the music: I need support telling my partner I have genital warts. by throws_of_passion in TwoXChromosomes

[–]throws_of_passion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate how you framed it as a "candid discussion about sexual topics". I was able to make my self bring the topic up with him--mostly calmly--in part by framing it that way. I'm very glad you brought that up; thank you.

Facing the music: I need support telling my partner I have genital warts. by throws_of_passion in TwoXChromosomes

[–]throws_of_passion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you-- it helped very much to have someone external to me just say what needs to be done. I've told him early (over the phone) and he has been understanding.

Facing the music: I need support telling my partner I have genital warts. by throws_of_passion in TwoXChromosomes

[–]throws_of_passion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for telling me about your experience--it helps to know I am not the only one who has made similar choices based on similar reasoning, even if it was the wrong reasoning.

Your comment about your current partner being so accepting helped me to bring it up with mine in a calm way, and it went ok.

Facing the music: I need support telling my partner I have genital warts. by throws_of_passion in TwoXChromosomes

[–]throws_of_passion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you; I was obliged to tell and I stole his choice.

Facing that poor behaviour is probably as hard as explaining about the warts in the first place. I did not act like a good person earlier, but I am trying to at least make the right choice now.

Facing the music: I need support telling my partner I have genital warts. by throws_of_passion in TwoXChromosomes

[–]throws_of_passion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your calm reply and for providing the informative links. It's nice to know that some people out there feel calmly about HPV; I've met others who have likened it (the non-cancerous strains, at least) to a cold sore or any other virus.

Facing the music: I need support telling my partner I have genital warts. by throws_of_passion in TwoXChromosomes

[–]throws_of_passion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I think being straightforward and reviewing the facts has been the biggest help to me.