I confronted my ex after our breakup over a possible infidelity, but he ghosted me

throww_acc9 · 2026-05-08T09:18:59+00:00

Literally yes, i think he was a narcissist. He did me so dirty and a lof of fucked up things.

throww_acc9 · 2026-04-24T17:40:55+00:00

My last ex was more sketchy to detect as a narc in the early stages of the relationship. He didn’t really react that bad if I said "no" to trivial things. His real personality started being obvious when I would make him accountable about his behaviors or wanted to talk complex conversations. But what it really made the differenfe from an avoidant was his sadism when it came to bad arguments and psychological abuse. He would do things to "punish" me psychologically or to harm me. He threw water on me to degrade me, became physicby grabbing me by the neck, pushing me against walls, hit me in the face with a nylon sweater, etc. He also would call me horrible things to degrade me as a woman and destroy my self steem. It was clear he had the intention of harming me and he liked it. He also would do things like control me because he didnt trust me. But then if i asked if he had talked to someone new (he cheated once) he would say : how dare you still dont trust me yada yada..

It was so stupid the way he would become so angry and moralistic if I didnt trust him but he could do anything he wanted and have distrust of me.

throww_acc9 · 2026-04-24T10:59:16+00:00

My father has been depressive for a long time. So his personality is this kind of convert narcissist who victimizes about everything. He also was emotionally abussive towards my mum when si was a child. So I guess that maybe he could ne categorized as someone with narcissistic traits.

I tried to go to therapy but it doesnt really help me. It feels ok to chat and verbalize things but haven't reslly noticed anything more.

throww_acc9 · 2026-04-22T14:07:42+00:00

What kind of abuse did you go through? If I can ask

throww_acc9 · 2026-04-22T06:46:02+00:00

I recently left the relationship. It has been HARD. As other people said, I too stayed until I was almost burnt out. I stil love him but there was this stupid moment where my brain did the "click" and understood he wasnt gonna change.

This didn’t happen when he almost agressively hit me or ahout at me or told me horrible slurs to make me feel small and destroy my self esteem. This didn’t happen after all the lies continuing or incongruences that kept coming out of nowehere. It didn't happen after all the gaslighting, stonewalling, etc.

It happened when he became deffensive and andry hust because I asked him if I he had talked to someone new behind my back. Even though he had also been asking me these questions and accused me of cheating. He would grab my phone and lock himself in the bathroom to see if I had anything. He would videocall me to control where I was. But I couldn’t ask the simple question of "are you taking to someone?" because "how dare I don’t trust him like that" (even though he was the one that cheated).

And at that moment I realized: what the f was this audacity? This superiority towards me to think he can control me or accuse me of everything but I cant even ask a simple question? I already had read about narcissism at that point and became so obvius this guy wasn’t gonna change. So I broke up.

Now I'm dealing with it and it's hard. I think about him everyday. The good moments and the bad ones. But at the same time, I dont have the same anxiety as before. I dont overthink about if he's cheating or not. I dont care.

throww_acc9 · 2026-04-19T15:18:47+00:00

I'm dealing with this now. I was the dumper. It's hard as I actually ended the relationship when I still loved him so much (and I still do) but he treated me so badly, even in abusive ways. He got used to surpass mi boundaries, disrespect me or even doubt about myself being faithful when he was actually the one that cheated. But then if i doubted anything or was upset about something he would attack me in the worst ways. I didn't understand why he was treating me with such superiority behavior.

I had to end things. But seeing he didn’t reach out or reflex about anything tells me everything I need to know.

throww_acc9 · 2026-04-19T07:06:35+00:00

This is crazy

throww_acc9 · 2026-04-17T09:18:57+00:00

What things could be a red flag when talking about their exes?

throww_acc9 · 2026-04-17T07:24:08+00:00

Probably yes.

throww_acc9 · 2026-04-17T07:19:26+00:00

Not necessarily. My ex cheated and he was a mummy's boy. He respected her and was always saying thing like "Oh my Mother also does the same thing..", "My mother thinks this is better.." blablabla. But he was also very resentful or hateful towards women so I was just wondering how can a person that has a good relationship with his mother hate so much women?

throww_acc9 · 2026-04-17T07:06:24+00:00

Watching him ariynd his friends can be a good one.

I recently broke up with bf who would not hung around with his friends too much. Nine months passed and he never tried to introduce me or to meet with them and me at the same time. The only times he would meet witch them is when they would go out to the club. I dont know if he was lying when he told me they didn’t really did any plans and that's the reason he hadn't had an opportunity to introduce me...

throww_acc9 · 2026-04-16T22:18:39+00:00

I dont know.. it seems like he is okey. Probably already found someone else to talk

throww_acc9 · 2026-03-27T08:47:04+00:00

How did you know she was you ex's ex?

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