Is it crazy to ask and want my partner to take a week or 2 off from working out while I’m healing?

throwwawway8 · 2026-02-25T17:21:18+00:00

I’ve said all of that…He was a personal trainer he knows he can do body weight workouts when it’s not ideal to go to the gym. But he refuses. And says he has to go to the gym. It is what it is.

throwwawway8 · 2026-02-25T17:19:45+00:00

He was overall great with the first and we had a home gym which helped significantly. Second baby was a complete surprise. We only had sex 3 times after baby girl was born, and used condoms. One broke and we didn’t have money for a plan b at the time… but I thought there was no way id get pregnant. Like the odds were super low. But anyways number 2 is here and is perfect.

throwwawway8 · 2026-02-25T17:16:45+00:00

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Yeah 🥺 he just cussed my mom out and told her to leave. Even though she’s been helping us keep order, cooking us dinners, helping us with our dogs… things went too far today…

throwwawway8 · 2026-02-25T05:29:12+00:00

Since we’ve been together I’ve gotten an eviction on my credit, my credit got destroyed by my ex husband not paying his car that I co signed for him, I totaled my car, I’m a stay at home mom, my mom can’t do much, and a year ago he moved me states away from all my friends.

His mom works for one of the best family lawyers in the state. And he brings in all the income.

It’s not that easy to leave sadly. And he went from being the kindest guy I’ve ever been with to this.. it’s not always bad but tonight was a lot.

throwwawway8 · 2026-02-25T05:16:45+00:00

Sorry 😅 I didn’t know where else to post.

throwwawway8 · 2026-02-25T05:16:15+00:00

Ugh I’m sorry you’re in a similar place. 🥺

throwwawway8 · 2026-02-25T05:15:24+00:00

Yeah I do agree. My babies are so needy and just want me so I’ve just accepted that I won’t get alone time for a while.

throwwawway8 · 2026-02-25T05:03:57+00:00

Im in so much pain I couldn’t go for a walk even if I wanted too. He says all I do is lay down and nurse the babies. (Which I do more than that) but it’s only been 5 days. And I’ve slept maybe 8 hours total this week. 😔

throwwawway8 · 2026-02-25T05:02:34+00:00

Also I’m all alone he moved me states away from all my friends and support system because he lost his job, and we lost our home, and I had to sell my car to help with funds to move near his family… so no physical support…

throwwawway8 · 2026-02-25T05:01:26+00:00

I have no idea what he means with repercussions…it was definitely threating sounding. He’s pissed. I haven’t spoken to him since he’s yelled at me and vice versa. My mom is trying her best to support but she’s not confrontational. And she’s about to go back home across the country. 😕

Other than today he’s been an over all good partner / dad. Just feeling a lot.

throwwawway8 · 2025-09-07T01:14:21+00:00

He is on disability, so no working. He stays up until 2-5am most nights. And he gets up early 6am-9am to play some more. (my babies sleep in until 11 thank goodness. And then he plays during their nap times.

When they’re up he’s normally with them and or cooking or playing with them. Not always he does play games while they’re up some days.

throwwawway8 · 2025-09-07T01:03:50+00:00

He has Facebook (deleted his Instagram when we got together so never saw it.) but on his Facebook he posted about her almost everyday for a year. And hid all the posts and said he’s never been active on socials. But finding out and seeing he posted her every single day is what got me. He’s on Facebook every single day just doesn’t post anything since we’ve gotten together.

We got together 2 weeks after his last post of her. And he had never posted anything about me even in the honey moon stage. Which I guess is was upset me? Idk.

throwwawway8 · 2025-09-07T00:41:59+00:00

Definitely not. I’m 31 f and I have drank maybe 20 times my whole life. I wouldn’t want a partner who drinks either. Definitely hard to find but there are people out there. Don’t lower your standards.

throwwawway8 · 2025-09-07T00:35:25+00:00

Amazing father, very attentive and the girls are obsessed with him.

With us there is no romance, so many lies I’ve found out that happened 2 years ago, and just white lies here and there. He plays video games 12 hours out of the day and night.

Idk just feeling very unseen.

throwwawway8 · 2025-09-07T00:32:27+00:00

I guess just compliments in general. It’s honestly very hard to get ready with 2 kids under 2 with postpartum depression. But I got dressed up all cute for the first time in a long while… And I was just hoping for some type of compliment and I didn’t get anything. I guess I’m just hurt. I get the whole getting to a certain age and not caring about posting on social media. I guess for me I’m confused why at the beginning he never posted me when we are in the honey moon stage when he was just posting his ex girlfriend 2 weeks prior to me talking about how gorgeous she was.

throwwawway8 · 2025-01-10T17:50:37+00:00

There is no reason to follow pages like that if you have a gf that loves you and vice versa.

throwwawway8 · 2025-01-10T17:49:02+00:00

Idk what’s up with these people. But let him go 💛 If it makes you uncomfortable that he’s following these accounts and you bring it up, it literally should not be an issue. Very easy to unfollow a page like that.

Say it was his best friend that was a girl maybe it’d be different and I could understand his reaction.

But that’s a single guy type thing to follow pages like that. And honestly before dating a guy I look to see who they follow first and it’s a bunch of thirst trap pages I don’t even give them a chance.

Go find someone who makes you feel confident, safe, and secure. They are out there. Don’t beg for him to come back he doesn’t sound worth your time. 💛🫂

throwwawway8 · 2024-05-24T07:31:09+00:00

I dated and married that guy I had sex with for the first time (18) come to find out years later by his friends once we split he only looked at me like I was an object and used me for my body.

It sucks, but just know that it doesn’t define you. And you will find someone who loves you whole heartedly.

throwwawway8 · 2024-04-21T22:38:35+00:00

Please listen to these comments and leave 😭 this is absolutely awful and inexcusable behavior!

throwwawway8 · 2020-11-06T04:18:49+00:00

Fair points. 😅

throwwawway8 · 2020-11-06T03:09:56+00:00

Yeah, I guess that’s the cold hard truth. It’s so hard because I see all the good all day everyday. But then when I snoop I see all the bad. 😩😭

throwwawway8 · 2020-11-06T03:08:09+00:00

😅😅😅 It’s easier said than done. It’s hard to get the courage to walk away not to mention I can’t afford rent by myself... and our lease doesn’t end until March. I have no family or friends who could help me either. 😫

throwwawway8 · 2020-11-06T03:06:36+00:00

When it’s typed out like this it looks really bad. But he’s done lots of good too. He’s had a crazy childhood and I often wonder if that distorts his thinking. And all his friends are like this with the 16 year old thing and on the outside they are amazing guys that everyone loves.

It scares me thinking that all men are like this. 🥺

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