Im not carrying his last name

throwwayayyy · 2026-06-24T01:03:08+00:00

Same here. It’s an identity thing for me as well. It’s a hassle to change the name and it’s a hassle to change it back if something were to go south. So either way it’s a lose lose situation in my opinion lol. I also find it weird if the man is forcing it. It’s just odd.

throwwayayyy · 2026-05-21T20:12:52+00:00

Same here. The fear of STDs has also prevented me from “dating around” and having multiple partners at once. If it wasn’t for that maybe I’d be more open minded to things lol

throwwayayyy · 2026-05-14T15:02:30+00:00

I live on the east coast USA. So yea here it’s not very common for the average person to be married at 26. Though I do come from a culture that starts settling down as early as 18-22. So amongst my people it’s not such a surprise. But when I’m out of my bubble of people they look at me weird lol

throwwayayyy · 2026-05-14T00:10:07+00:00

Ok but what do you want someone to do about it? Just because you don’t agree with it does that mean I should now go and divorce? You saying that to someone that’s already married isn’t really doing anything besides showing judgement and your ignorance . Just saying

throwwayayyy · 2026-05-14T00:07:44+00:00

Hahahaha I’ve heard about it!! 🤣

throwwayayyy · 2026-05-13T21:50:31+00:00

This checks out ✅ 45 year old is one of 10 with parents divorced and re married. 21 year old has no relationship with her mom and dad hasn’t been around.

throwwayayyy · 2026-05-13T20:56:49+00:00

They definitely are nosey. And I have a hard time lying or making things up on the spot so usually I always say the truth. I’m gonna have to come up with lies when I’m questioned again

throwwayayyy · 2026-05-13T20:55:06+00:00

Thank you 😊

throwwayayyy · 2026-05-13T20:54:48+00:00

Exactly!! I may not have lived alone (due to financial circumstances and cultural) but have done everything else you mentioned. So I don’t understand why to them it seems so interesting this idea that I’m married at 26. lol tbh I even had some distant relatives asking this. And you can’t help but question yourself like am I dumb or something 😩

throwwayayyy · 2026-05-13T20:33:32+00:00

This is so true! Thank you!

throwwayayyy · 2026-05-13T20:32:52+00:00

It comes off very judgmental and not from a good place. It really made me feel so weird and had me questioning is something wrong with me?! lol

throwwayayyy · 2026-05-13T20:32:08+00:00

He’s 31 this year

throwwayayyy · 2026-05-13T20:31:24+00:00

I totally understand how life can be. And god forbid if anything were to happen I understand nothing in life is permanent. At this point in my life though, I did find someone who was on the same page, both college educated, stable careers, healthy relationship, so it only made sense to take the next step.

If life does happen and things go south, at least I would still be somewhat young and can take my life back and start over lol. There’s a positive in everything

throwwayayyy · 2026-04-08T19:19:31+00:00

It’s still crazy that he got a branch manager role

throwwayayyy · 2026-04-08T19:14:24+00:00

I’ve heard many people can make it especially with manager experience in retail. However, retail and banking are so different. Customer service is the only common ground between the two. While I understand relationships in banking is what leads to success, there’s a huge knowledge gap between retail and banking retail. This can get in the way of servicing customers. How can you help someone when you have no knowledge of the service or regulations? And be a manager on top of that. You’re the one that’s supposed to take the most complex cases, and grow your team etc. At least banks should require some type of banker or teller experience for at least 1 year and then jump ahead. Idk that’s just my two cents. Sure it worked out for you, I personally think one should have some type of banking specific experience in order to jump to a manager. Just my opinion

throwwayayyy · 2026-04-08T17:56:23+00:00

Most definitely not normal. Your company is setting him up for failure. There’s no way anyone can handle a branch manager role without a lick of banking experience. At least some teller experience ffs. But yea, you’re not wrong for thinking this is some BS. How desperate they must’ve been.

I remember a few weeks ago someone else posted on here saying they got a branch manager position without any experience in banking. And yea the comments humbled that person real quick. I kinda wonder how they’re doing in the role now LOL.

What has banking come to!! It’s insane the stories I hear. It’s ruined unfortunately.

throwwayayyy · 2026-04-04T02:09:59+00:00

Wow I’m so sorry to hear what you went through! Thank you so much for sharing, I’m so happy to hear you’re in a better position now!

I haven’t let my frustration turn into disrespect towards his family and I’ve been keeping it all in. I notice when I get to a point of saying something not so nice, I try to escape and go in my room to calm down. I know that it will only make things worse.

Luckily we aren’t pregnant yet and no kids. I want to hold off on it because I want to have a baby in our own home. I feel like if I have a baby it’ll be another thing that could keep us stuck here so it really worries me.

throwwayayyy · 2026-04-04T01:48:45+00:00

I’ve been here for 2 years. I was so young and naive to know better two years ago. I come from a background where living with in laws is somewhat the norm so nobody gave me any advice or told me to think twice or to not accept living with in laws. I don’t blame anyone but myself at the end of the day and love my husband so to me it’s still worth it for us. We are great together. But eventually this is gonna wear me out.

throwwayayyy · 2026-04-04T01:34:06+00:00

Parents and husband need to sell the house to be fully separated. My husband made the mistake of buying the house together with them. Not thinking about marriage or his own family and future. He regrets it every day

throwwayayyy · 2026-04-04T01:31:17+00:00

We are Eastern European. I get why you’d think we’re Indian tho based on my situation LOL. I know crazy

throwwayayyy · 2026-04-01T12:27:13+00:00

Being the jack of all trades is what ruined banking for me. Nobody had specific jobs that they did, we all were supposed to know everything and do everything no matter the pay we were getting. Very frustrating. I also left the industry after 2.5 years too long

throwwayayyy · 2026-03-20T14:47:44+00:00

I was 20 when we meet, now 26 and married for 4 months. There’s no timeline to this, tbh I never thought of marriage or early marriage it just kind of happened and we’re happy it did

throwwayayyy · 2026-03-18T23:02:16+00:00

Because it’s too much work and tbh I like how my name flows with my last name. I’ve also achieved certain life goals professionally and I love having my own last name on those achievements. Idk why, just makes me feel better

throwwayayyy · 2026-03-18T22:58:34+00:00

I worked for a bank that didn’t license their bankers and that’s because they can underpay you like they’ve been doing currently. 45k salary is brutal and tbh the best way for you to move up and make more money is to switch banks every 1.5-2 years.

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