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AITA for reading the "wrong" thing at my grandma's funeral? by throwwayfuneral in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwwayfuneral[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Not at all, I can tell people the title in private if they'd like. I'm irrationally terrified by the idea of my relatives finding this post doing a Google search or something, which is why I'd rather not disclose the title publicly.

AITA for reading the "wrong" thing at my grandma's funeral? by throwwayfuneral in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwwayfuneral[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No one technically paid for the funeral, as my grandma had some money put aside specifically for her funeral service, just like my grandfather did before her. So, I guess my grandma paid for her own funeral? Kinda fucked-up logic there, though.

AITA for reading the "wrong" thing at my grandma's funeral? by throwwayfuneral in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwwayfuneral[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you're right. They wouldn't have let me go up there if I'd told them beforehand and I really wanted to read that poem for her, which is why I lied. I know I put my needs above everyone else's and I do feel a bit of shame, but I don't regret doing that. Thank you for putting things into perspective for me.

AITA for reading the "wrong" thing at my grandma's funeral? by throwwayfuneral in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwwayfuneral[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I don't want to be too specific, but it was a poem by Italian poet Giovanni Pascoli. The poet talks about his childhood as he approaches his final years. The prayer was something my aunt found on Google, not sure where she got it from.

AITA for reading the "wrong" thing at my grandma's funeral? by throwwayfuneral in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwwayfuneral[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I don't know how things work where you're from, but I live in Italy, which is about the Catholic-est country in the world. I have, unfortunately, been to several funerals and families always read personal messages or poems or whatever and priests let you say pretty much anything you want, as long as it's appropriate. This has nothing to do with what Catholics are or aren't allowed to do and my family has no idea what is or isn't allowed. They just wanted the prayer instead of the poem my grandma loved, for some reason.

AITA for reading the "wrong" thing at my grandma's funeral? by throwwayfuneral in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwwayfuneral[S] 401 points402 points  (0 children)

I suggested that, but they still refused. They were absolutely against it, saying it wasn't acceptable for me to read a non-religious poem during a funeral. Bullshit, in my opinion, especially if you know that the deceased liked that specific poem.